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Hi all ,

long story short I been with my men over a year now everything been perfect we grow our relationship we adore each other all of the sudden I notice his behaviour has changed towards me I mean communicate wise.  I asked him is everything okey then he assured that we are good. However finally he open up and basically before me he had different life goals and was towards them, he told me he don’t know what his path is no more because of the feelings for me he can’t thing straight as everything end up in toughts about me and basically he wants to put me aside and rethink everything he said he loves me and be both cried , he also said that we will stay in touch and etc and he don’t know how long it will take him to take the decision what he wants to do. I am actually lost and I don’t know what to expect in this case and how to act towards it. 

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4 hours ago, Monli said:

However finally he open up and basically before me he had different life goals

I'm sorry this happened, OP

Is it true that you two have different life goals? 

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I wouldn’t say so I just feel that he lost on his path he is going through some family problems and also work pressure he is unsure if he want to move out of the city and change work or he wants to stay here as he said he can’t focus on that as long as I am there in front of him he said that he needs to put me aside so he can work on it and be sure that he is going right direction

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He broke up with you.  He sugar coated it because he's a kind man who didn't want to be the source of your pain but right now he is totally mixed up & can't handle the what he views as the burden of a relationship.  In bad times in a solid relationship SO turn toward their partner.  He is turning away in the face of his family issue & work stress.  Let him be.  Lick your wounds but move forward.  You can't help / fix him  

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On 8/9/2021 at 1:24 AM, Monli said:

I wouldn’t say so I just feel that he lost on his path he is going through some family problems and also work pressure he is unsure if he want to move out of the city and change work or he wants to stay here as he said he can’t focus on that as long as I am there in front of him he said that he needs to put me aside so he can work on it and be sure that he is going right direction

So let him decide and make up his mind. You don't want to be mixed up with a person who is indecisive or having difficulty steering his/her own life. He has to sort those things out for himself. As for you, you can also take the time or use the time to put your life in order and ask yourself where you want to be in terms of your career or in general. He may not even factor into your overall picture if what you're looking for is more stability and reliability in a partner. 

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Yes everyone is correct.  If a man loves you he wouldn't let you go because he is having problems but would need and want you around while he works through them.  He is kindly letting you go.  Let him be at this point.

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