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Hello! 

I’ve known this guy for a long time. I’m the one who always ask to hang out. He just does not seems to be interested in taking initiative. 

When I’m with him we talk very well about football/soccer but other than that it’s always jokes and banter going on. Recently he seems to have been mixing banter and racism together which I don’t like and it leaves a distaste in my mouth. He’s from Serbia while I’m from Norway. 

He is saying «So If I’m participating as an candidate in Norwegian politics then my goal would be to kick every Norwegians out of their country would you support me as a friend?»

I told him: «I don’t support that» and he was like: «I’m just joking all I want is to trigger you»  Before I got to say a word he’s switching up the topic by commenting about a car that was around our surroundings.

On the other hand he does come with me when I want to visit a store. That’s atleast what a real friend do. Like when I come to think of it everytime we hang out he manages to be rude or have a bad behavior. It’s just not nice and he is the one that can’t go a day without being like that. I’m just confused to wether he is a real friend or not. 
 

what’s your take on this situation?

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He could just be a rude person with a poor attitude. Or needs an attitude adjustment. You pick your friends unlike your family so exercise some discretion and pick people you actually like and get along with if you want them as a friend.

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Thank you! I think I need to tell him that I don’t want to hang out anymore because it’s not making me any happier

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8 minutes ago, Keeves1 said:

Thank you! I think I need to tell him that I don’t want to hang out anymore because it’s not making me any happier

Good idea. You don’t have to explain yourself by the way. Racist or discriminatory individuals are bullies with their own mental issues. Just tell him you’re not free and don’t want to hang out, end of story. 

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Sounds to me like he’s just giving you s*** but if you don’t like it, you don’t like it. No justification necessary. Nevermind him though, how’s Maria 

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8 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Sounds to me like he’s just giving you s*** but if you don’t like it, you don’t like it. No justification necessary. Nevermind him though, how’s Maria 

I’ve been patient enough to take he’s sh** almost everytime I hang out with him. Now I’m not willing to anymore. Hahah glad you still remember her! She’s doing fine :) thanks for asking :D how are you doing? Alot have happened the past months or so 

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10 hours ago, Keeves1 said:

 He is saying «So If I’m participating as an candidate in Norwegian politics then my goal would be to kick every Norwegians out of their country would you support me as a friend?»

He's got a political ax to grind with provocative rhetorical questions. 

Step way back and stick to sports. He just wants to argue with people. Avoid vexating and angry people.

 

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