? Posted June 20, 2001 Share Posted June 20, 2001 Just really need to complain so let me type it out: i've just been feeling really lonely ... i don't have any siblings or cousins ... only parents & several uncles who do not have kids ... they're all much older than me ... so eventually, i will be alone in the world ................ what makes it worse is that i moved to this new city when i was 14 ... and while i do have friends, they are more like acquintances, they all have other friends with whom they are much more close than with me (grew up together with them...) ... makes me just feel so bad ... i do have a boyfriend ... it's a good relationship, but relationships are different - get into a fight one day & he's gone, or I'm gone, you know what I mean? he also has 2 sisters and a thousand of cousins ... so ... I'm in college, but I don't live in residence, so I also missed out on living with a bunch of people & becoming close with them (all my acquintances at college are like that - they're totally in their rez. group ...) AHHH!!!! am i going to be alone for life now?? ... I feel like i'm a nobody to most people ... simply a harmless girl to have around ... i feel like the guys who do like me, like me because they can't find someone else ... (not my boyfriend, he actually chose me over several other girls) ... and most guys treat me as a buddy anyway ... even the guy i liked before i went out with my bf - i dropped him like a thousand hints, and he still only stayed a friend ... WHY WHY WHY and what's gonna happen next ... thanks for reading my rant if u did! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 20, 2001 Share Posted June 20, 2001 The universe is pretty indifferent to whether you are lonely or not. As a matter of fact, the universe doesn't really care if we are fat or skinny, rich or poor, in good health or bad, etc. It's up to each one of us to make life what we want. Instead of ranting about your loneliness, get out and join organizations, cultivate more friendships, learn how to be a good friend, etc. People love to be around people who make them feel good about themselves. I don't know you but if you're down around other people, they won't want to have anything to do with you. Be an upbeat, fun person...care about other people and their lives...and you'll have more friends than you know what to do with. Most people only have one or two very intimate friends with whom they can share their soul. The other friends in their lives are different degrees...all the way down to acquaintances. Acquaintances aren't all that bad to have either. See your school counsellor or psychologist who can talk to you, evaluate your personality and style, and see what it is about your general method of relating to others that needs to be worked on. Or you could just be suffering from depression. That is treatable too. We all go through periods now and then when we feel we are very alone in this world...and the damned truth is we are. Get used to it...but make meet more people and make more friends as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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