Plutarh Posted August 30, 2021 Share Posted August 30, 2021 I'm working in a big company. I'm 36 y.o. There is a colleague of mine, 49 y.o, good looking female, married and mother of two. She works in another department but we have a lot of tasks in common. We work very well together, trust each other, advice each other. Some facts about her behaviour determined me to think about. One time we were alone in her office and I told her a good news. Suddenly she jumped and hugged me very close. In another occasion we were chatting about fitness, how she lost some weight. She took her phone and showed me a photo of her from the beach in bikini. Last time we talked about our vacation at the seaside. We were in the same location but in different period of time. She said as a joke you want to see me naked and opened a folder with photos from her vacation. We use to talk a lot and trust each other in matter of work duties. Sometimes she asks me for advices in personal life too. Is she flirty or just friendly? Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted August 30, 2021 Share Posted August 30, 2021 31 minutes ago, Plutarh said: Last time we talked about our vacation at the seaside. We were in the same location but in different period of time. She said as a joke you want to see me naked and opened a folder with photos from her vacation. If this was your girlfriend, would you find this a redeeming quality? Flirting and showing half naked pictures of herself to co workers? I mean, that will be you eventually if you date this woman. Except it will be a new co worker getting to see the pics. She's married. Stay away. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted August 30, 2021 Share Posted August 30, 2021 1 hour ago, JRabbit said: If this was your girlfriend, would you find this a redeeming quality? Flirting and showing half naked pictures of herself to co workers? I mean, that will be you eventually if you date this woman. Except it will be a new co worker getting to see the pics. She's married. Stay away. This. A married woman showing co-workers half-naked pictures of herself is either looking to fool around or seeking validation. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted August 30, 2021 Share Posted August 30, 2021 Are you male or another female? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 30, 2021 Share Posted August 30, 2021 Sounds flirty. Of course, this doesn't mean that she wants anything more than flirting. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 30, 2021 Share Posted August 30, 2021 Just friendly with some mild flirting. She's not looking to start an affair with you or ruin her marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Plutarh Posted August 31, 2021 Author Share Posted August 31, 2021 I don't have in mind to try having sex with her. I just wanted to understand her behaviour. I think she is seeking validation from a younger confident male. Maybe she wants to hear she still looks pretty. Because when she showed me the photo in bathing suit she focussed on her tummy in order to see how she lossed weight. Thanks for your answers. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted August 31, 2021 Share Posted August 31, 2021 It sounds friendly to me Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted August 31, 2021 Share Posted August 31, 2021 12 hours ago, Plutarh said: Because when she showed me the photo in bathing suit she focussed on her tummy in order to see how she lossed weight. You should reply and ask her what her hubby thinks of her new bod. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 31, 2021 Share Posted August 31, 2021 20 hours ago, Plutarh said: There is a colleague of mine, 49 y.o, good looking female, married and mother of two. She works in another department Step back from this. Basically she treats you like a male-girlfriend. Date outside of work and be professional at all times. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Plutarh Posted August 31, 2021 Author Share Posted August 31, 2021 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: Step back from this. Basically she treats you like a male-girlfriend. Date outside of work and be professional at all times. Thank you for your advice. It really reflects your user name: Wiseman. As I wrote above I'm not interested in any affair. We keep professional and we collaborate very well. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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