please don't ignore this post!

[angel eyes]

I had a fight with my boyfriend over the same stupid girl that is bothering me here is what happened:

 

yesterday we were talking when he commented that the girl saw him at the cafeteria by himself cause i was in class so she sat with him ,he said he tried to keep the conversation simple well she started talking about herself and what happened to all the single groups that used to go out.

 

After that, my boyfriend finished his food and she also finished her food when he was leaving to the library she asked him if she could walk with him so she did.

 

i exploded because i felt that she didn't get the message of staying away or that my guy didn't tell her right. i was upset even with him and he said he's doing everything he can to fix this problem but he needs to find a right moment to tell her to back off,that he couldn't tell her don't walk with me. anyways after that we had a long talk he said that i told him if he was a man he would have done that way before. but i don't remember saying that well he said he took that very personal. i apologized he said he'll forgive me but i don't know if this is gonna hurt my relationship later on,that same night he sent me an e-mail telling me that he loves me. he says as soon as he gets a chance he'll tell her that she's getting too close and that he needs his space.

 

I don't know if i did right but i need to make her stop otherwise she'll come to visit my guy even when she goes to another college in 2 months! what do you think about this? do you think this is a good way to handle it? what can i do to repair the hurt feelings that my boyfriend felt when i hurt his honor?

[Surfer Guy]

This is my own personal opinion so take from this what you will. But if you know that you can trust him, then I don't think you have anything to worry about. So she thinks he's cute. If he is trustworthy and committed to you, he won't do anything to hurt that. My girlfriend has friends that are guys and some of which are ones that she has dated before. And I have friends that are women and I've dated some of them before as well. However I do trust her and I know that she trusts me. Just ask yourself, do you really trust him? Because honestly, it sounds like you don't. And what good is a relationship if you have trouble trusting the other person?

I had a fight with my boyfriend over the same stupid girl that is bothering me here is what happened: yesterday we were talking when he commented that the girl saw him at the cafeteria by himself cause i was in class so she sat with him ,he said he tried to keep the conversation simple well she started talking about herself and what happened to all the single groups that used to go out.

 

After that, my boyfriend finished his food and she also finished her food when he was leaving to the library she asked him if she could walk with him so she did. i exploded because i felt that she didn't get the message of staying away or that my guy didn't tell her right. i was upset even with him and he said he's doing everything he can to fix this problem but he needs to find a right moment to tell her to back off,that he couldn't tell her don't walk with me. anyways after that we had a long talk he said that i told him if he was a man he would have done that way before. but i don't remember saying that well he said he took that very personal. i apologized he said he'll forgive me but i don't know if this is gonna hurt my relationship later on,that same night he sent me an e-mail telling me that he loves me. he says as soon as he gets a chance he'll tell her that she's getting too close and that he needs his space. I don't know if i did right but i need to make her stop otherwise she'll come to visit my guy even when she goes to another college in 2 months! what do you think about this? do you think this is a good way to handle it? what can i do to repair the hurt feelings that my boyfriend felt when i hurt his honor?

[sparkle]

Jeeeeeeeeeeeeez, CHILL OUT! You really overreacted about this.

 

Your boyfriend didn't do anything wrong. So a girl finds him attractive...what's wrong with that???? You should feel HAPPY about it. Heck, I'd much rather have girls drool over my boyfriend any day...I'd feel even luckier to be with him.

 

And what's wrong with him eating lunch with a girl in the cafeteria????? I don't see anything wrong with him walking with her either. You are way overreacting.

 

Do you TRUST your boyfriend?

 

A. Yes, you trust him. If you trust him, things like this shouldn't worry you at all. So what he's with talking to or hanging out with some girl? That doesn't mean he's doing something wrong. It is not considered cheating. He should be able to talk to or walk with anyone he feels like, and not have to worry about whether you'll freak out about it.

 

B. No, you don't trust him. If you don't, then BREAK UP WITH HIM NOW. It is pointless to date someone you don't trust. You'll also do him a favor by breaking up with him, that way he can find someone who trusts him, someone who's not going to have a heart attack everytime he talks to another girl, even if she's crazy about him.

 

You can do two things:

 

#1. If this kind of stuff bothers you, then leave him, and find a guy who's not in this situation.

 

or

 

#2. You can apologize to him for blowing up about this, and not mention it to him again. Let him deal with it in his own way. Now if after a while, he doesn't do anything about it, then refer to #1.