ponder24 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 To all the married folks? If you could do it again,would you marry the person you are with again? Also, who out there would rather never marry at all? Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 jury is out on that one, because as much as I love my husband some days the answer is a resounding yes, other days, it's "nah." Most of the time I think, "hell, I don't know. I like him, but knowing what I know now ..." so it's a hard call. who I DEFINITELY wouldn't marry? My first boyfriend, a man 17 years older than me who is cynical as all get-out and pretty self-absorbed. He wasn't much as a boyfriend, but I thought he was a great boss the times I did work for him. Go figure. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 I believe all of us have had occasional moments where we question whether we should have married the person we are with. Myself included, I regret to say. But almost always, I feel that yes, I would do so again. In fact, knowing then what I know now, I would have traveled to a small city in northern Illinois in the mid 80's to find Gina & marry her, instead of my first wife. We would be approaching a 20th anniversary instead of a 10th. On the other hand, she may not have cared for the man I was at that time. Who is to say? _______________________________________________ What if people stopped throwing rice at weddings, and threw potatoes instead? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Yes I would because the pain of the divorce was a big wakeup call and turning point in my life. If I never went through I might have never became the person I am today. Link to post Share on other sites
thegoodhubbie Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 I believe all of us have had occasional moments where we question whether we should have married the person we are with. Myself included, I regret to say. But almost always, I feel that yes, I would do so again. In fact, knowing then what I know now, I would have traveled to a small city in northern Illinois in the mid 80's to find Gina & marry her, instead of my first wife. We would be approaching a 20th anniversary instead of a 10th. On the other hand, she may not have cared for the man I was at that time. Who is to say? _______________________________________________ I feel exactly the same way. Sometimes my only regret is that we did not meet in our 20s so that we could enjoy each other more! Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 For me personally, I will never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever get married again. probably Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 For me personally, I will never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever get married again. probably Never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever say Never! Link to post Share on other sites
mcgee0 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 I probably would have made all the same choices I made, because there are things about life that you just can't control. I would have been more honest before I got married, and asked the same of my husband. Finding secrets out after marriage makes you feel like you don't even know your spouse! Link to post Share on other sites
hooghie Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 I don't regret marrying hte person I married because like someone else said- I learned a lot from it. I DO regret staying in the marriage for as long as I did. If it weren't for the fact that I want children and I think it's really in their best interest for me and their father to be married- I would never get married again. slubberdegullion - You sound so angry and bitter in your posts. You must have gotten hurt really bad. I hope you are able to get beyond the hurt someday. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Probably. There are times though...... I'm sure hubby has thought the same about me too. I wouldn't be the person I am now if I hadn't and I guess even with all the bad stuff that has happened I can't think that I would have found any better happiness without him and I doubt that I would have found anyone else that would have stuck by me like hubby has. I think of all the guys I dated and I don't think any of them would have done half as well by me as hubby. And I don't think I would have done half as good by them. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Another thing i can't believe I am considereing getting married again. I swore up and down I would not remarry after my divorce and am still nervous as hell. You know I deeply care for this women if I am considering playing russian roullette for becauise that is what getting married is for men. Link to post Share on other sites
FataMorgana Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 playing russian roullette for becauise that is what getting married is for men. I can assure you it's the same for women as well Link to post Share on other sites
stampgirl Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 as alot of you have said, I think we all have our days when we wonder...but I have to honestly say that through all the little problems we have had, I would marry my husband again, and again and again. I was married for 12 years before divorcing, and have been married to my new husband for just over a year. All the time I was married the first time I never experienced love and being loved the way I do now. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 I can assure you it's the same for women as well The courts favor women so if it goes wrong they can get out unscathed while men get screwed unless they have a good lawyer like I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ponder24 Posted October 20, 2005 Author Share Posted October 20, 2005 Thank you ALL for your replies, it is nice to hear people who have been there done that and now can reflect back. I am still in turmoil, I love him, I am not head over heels, would die if I didnt see him for days, kind of girl. Is it b/c he is not my "true love" OR b/c I am just not that kind of person. I am a realistic person and tend to probably take the romance part for granted. I will admit,,,hearing people talk down on getting married, being married does weigh on the ears. I just was out last nite at a bar,,saw some old friends,,,all of the guys, not the girls mind you....gave me the old,,,"dont get married" "your too young" "you will regret it" "you are crazy" bla bla. Think they are just mad cause another girl is off the market. I just feel like I should be soooo happy and looking foward to my wedding,,and somedays I just am not,,I kind of dread it. Why is that, why can't I figure it out. I often wonder if I just cant come to a definite decision b/c I am fearful of losing him. It's hard too, now a days with the world we live and all the scares to have that special someone. I just wish I could make my mind up,b/c it is not fair to him what I am doing, but I know if I do marry him, and I regret it later in life,,we both would be worse off in the long run. I wish psychics were ligit, I have tried praying, still stuck in the mud. Why are females minds so f'd up! Link to post Share on other sites
PatientOne Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No No Link to post Share on other sites
CarmenIbanez Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Marriage is just so darn hard. I mean, if you want to do it right. It is a lot of work. So I can't imagine trying to do it with someone that I wasn't totally head over heels/must be my soul mate in love with. Because I really feel like my husband is the love of my life and it is still hard work and a pain in the ass. So how will you be able to do it? Because sometimes, the fact that you love someone is ALL that you have. Link to post Share on other sites
KAris112297 Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 YES! -KAris Link to post Share on other sites
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