owen2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 this girl i really fallen for her, shes amazing and such, tis bin around 3 weeks since a split up with my girlfreind of a long time! well anyway i get the impression that ruth does like me......becuase for instance on friday last week i was on top of freinds landin just having some time to myself and she came up on her own accord and sat next to me for an hour and half and talked about stuff, i told her that i really like her and wud do anything to have a chance and she sat and listened and just took it in, she let me get quite close to her like laying on her lap and touchin her hands and stuff + she was kind of flirting with me by laughin and hitting me jokely with a toothbrush LOL! well anyway ive been kinda of stressed out about it lately becuz i made a major mistake falling for a girl as much as ive do with her....well anyway i started falling for urth slowly towards the end of my last relationship! i would just like you to read the email i sent her to get things of my chest and for you to read her reply and tell me what i can do? i can wait for her ive told her and i am going to....but i dont think the excuse she is giving is the right 1 because she says she is scared to get hurt becuz he last b/f hurt her but that was over 7 monthes ago! im just lost on what to do becuase i reallly want her....ive got msn logs off the chat we had after she sent me the email and stuff! if u think im being silly just ignore me and dont reply but i wud really appracite any ideas!!!!! _________________________________________________________________ EMAIL FROM ME TO RUTH _________________________________________________________________ right, just need to get this stuff of my chest, im sorry if i upset you or make you feel bad but i got to tell you how i feel you know what i think of you and to make it clear everything i said on friday was true even though i was totally bladdered! and if i cud get a chance with you on your own again id say it all again! well i need to know what is going on because i know i made a bigbig mistake letting myself get soo into you in the 1st place but it just happened and im now paying the price for it and im sorry because you probbo dont like me at all and feel bad for it, which you really really shouldnt because i never ever expected to get with you because your too good for me, but it just happened and i dunno how or why it did, i just know what i feel. On kay, i never split up with her so i cud try it with you at all, it just happened becuz of the way she treated me which ive already told you and it was going to happen sometime or another. I dont ever want to get back with her at all, she just aint for me and hasnt been for a long time. I know i did everything wrong becuase i told you i liked you even before i split with kay and then i spilt with kay and it looks abit on top, well it wasnt like that. i shud never of told u i liked you when i was with kay or for that matter any time becuase its just ****ed me up big time because ive let myself like you too much and now i know it just aint gonna happen but i just need to tell you all this because it will make me feel better cuz i feel like **** on this subject! And people like jamie n casey aint helpin lol cuz they rubbing in the fact i actually got knocked back.... but i accept it! tis weird because i feel more gutted now that i got kbd from you than splittin up with kay but like i said its all my fault because i played it all wrong...totally wrong! but life is all about that isnt it, live and let learn lol ;> well anyway probbo boring the **** out of you now so ill stop! i just would of liked to of known that if i did do things different would of i had a chance with you because your special! and whoever you do end up with i will be totally jealous of lol! ;> i dont care if anyone else sees this or hears this because tis my feelings and there true so w.e ! if you wouldnt mind email me back or msn me and just tell me what you think cuz i need to know...even if you dont have a flippin clue just anything will do, even if you just tell me to fo! i wud appreciate that because i know where i stand! owen xxxxx _________________________________________________________________ EMAIL FROM RUTH TO ME AS A REPLY BACK FROM PREVIOUS _________________________________________________________________ well owen tht was bloody long, yeah ur rite about it being alot to take in its not every day tht someone tells u such nice things about me so it was alot to get used to, well i no im not speacial there better girls out there than me and how am i too goof for ya lol but anyways! maybe if u hadnt of been with kay and i didnt no her as a mate then things might have been different im not really looking for a relationship rite now maybe im still getting over being hurt from the last one and i dont want anyone to hurt me like tht owen im not knocking you back maybe one day things cud be different but i dont no rite now! im not going to tell you to fo! ya goon dont be stupid cause i wud still think we are mates! i just feel bad tht if u did fall for me too much cause im not worth it really well i hope tht has cleared ya head a bit more if not just talk to me on msn ru xxxxxxxxx your not a horrible lad uve been a dead good friend to me! ________________________________________________________________ cheers and thanks for any advice before hand! owen x! 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whichwayisup Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 The gist I got from it was she is flattered you like her, opened up to her, but at the same time wasn't expecting it. She does like you, you've obviously been a good friend to her. Now the thing is, she's more or less told you : owen im not knocking you back maybe one day things cud be different but i dont no rite now! im not going to tell you to fo! ya goon dont be stupid cause i wud still think we are mates! i just feel bad tht if u did fall for me too much cause im not worth it really well i hope tht has cleared ya head a bit more if not just talk to me on msn And to me, that says that she isn't into you the way you are into her. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author owen2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Share Posted October 19, 2005 so that means that she has basically said she isnt interested one bit? Link to post Share on other sites
Author owen2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Share Posted October 19, 2005 or does it mean that she isnt as sure about me as i am about her?!?! help plz!!!! btw cheers for that reply Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Hi Owen I remember your thread from last week (?). I don't think her feelings for you are very promising I'm sorry to say. I think it's best you move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author owen2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Share Posted October 19, 2005 oki js17 thanks alot...because i get two impressions, i get the impression she is intrested becuase she never would have came up on the landing and spoke to me for hours and stuff when she had an oppatunity not to come up. but then i get the other side which is she never knowz what to say to me in person so im kind of lost.....but the weird thing is im freinds with my ex girlfreind and we have just been talking then on the phone for quite a while and my ex knowz i like ruth and she says from a womens perspective she reckons ruth is interested in me but isnt sure becuase she knows what my ex is going through so she needs time........ ruth gives me various signals to make me suggest she is intersted because last friday night when we were out kay ( my ex ) got upset and was speaking to ruth and ruth said she really doesnt like me like that and she likes someone from work....well anyway when i give ruth the chance to tell me about the guy at work she says hes just a freind and i say to her ill leave her alone if she wants and she says no so surely if she knows that she really isnt interested in me she would tell me to leave her alone and when i asked her about the dude at work she wud say she is interested in him .......and if she stringing me along its abit ****ty in my eyes but u know confuzzled to the max but im just gonna take my time ay! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 or does it mean that she isnt as sure about me as i am about her?!?! help plz!!!! btw cheers for that reply You'll know eventually if she is into you or not. Look for the signs. How she acts when with you. Does she touch you? Look at you in the eyes? Stand close to you? Have a soft tone and flirty? From what you've said, it seems she cares about you alot, but as a good friend. Now, that doesn't mean that it won't happen down the road, but for now she isn't interested. She knows how you feel, so back off abit and give her time to miss you and reach out to you. Hope this helps! Link to post Share on other sites
Author owen2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Share Posted October 19, 2005 do you know what mate its funny you say that because as mad as it sounds ive just been speaking to my ex girlfreind and she told me the same....she told me to back off and try not to mention how i feel to her, just give her slight hints now n then to make her know im still interested and she will miss you and if it happens it will happen in time lol thanks mate made me giggle that did lol cheers Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Anytime. Keep smiling and laughing, don't focus on this girl so much...She isn't on you, so why put in all that energy if you're not going to get it back? Link to post Share on other sites
Author owen2005 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Share Posted October 19, 2005 exactly m8! ill just play it down abit and she if she makes a move! Link to post Share on other sites
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