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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost ten years and even have a 7yr old kid. We started dating a year or so after he broke up with his girlfriend of 4yrs.

They started talking a year into our relationship over texts and calls, on and off for years, I later found out. It wasn't until two years ago that I found out that their talking had turned physical and that he had been sleeping with her for about two months. When I confronted him about it, he said the girl was the one who always reached out to him and ended the whole thing. We even moved in together an hour away, since I didn't feel comfortable having him so close to her - she lived a few blocks away from him.

Two months ago, I found out that they were talking again and that he was the one who started reaching out, finding her number on his niece's phone. He's been having these long conversations with her, and has texted that he misses her and didn't mean all the things he had said to her. He even suggested they have a weekend away together to bond, even saying that he would have me go visit my mother so that she can come to 'their' apartment.

I'm just so hurt and devastated and that's not even the worst. Apparently, before I had found out about the affair, he had offered that they find a place together, and had she not refused, they would be living together with a child on the way, because he's always wanted a baby with her.

I just don't know what to think or do... 

 

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You do know what to think & do, you just don't want to.  Your child's father is a cheater.  It's time to dump him.  You gave him a 2nd chance & he blew it.  It's time to kick him to the curb.  Get yourself an STD test; work out child support & co -parenting issues but be done. 

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It's well past time to end this relationship. 

He wants to be with her, and disrespects you over and over. This isn't love anymore, OP. It hasn't been for a while. Let him go - he's on his way out the door anyway. 

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14 hours ago, Kitty1101 said:

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost ten years and even have a 7yr old kid. 

Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately he's leading a double life and has been cheating all along .

Take care of yourself and your child. Talk to trusted friends and family.

Do you co-own/co-lease? Do you both work? Make plans accordingly to sever all ties and ask him to leave or move out.

Make arrangements with trusted friends and family to move out with your child. 

In the meantime, he'll just lie or minimize if you confront him.

Therefore, since you are armed with the truth, go straight to an exit strategy.

Stop having sex with him. He may have STDs .Only shop, cook, clean, etc for yourself and your child. Tune him out completely.

Never reward being stabbed in the back by playing wife, housekeeper, or having sex or offering companionship.

Take action. Make sure when you leave that you apply for child support on behalf of your child. 

 

 

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They still have unfinished emotional business.

You don't have the relationship you thought you had.

Time to be about being a single mom raising his kid.

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