Deleting an ex from social media

[Hpchic]

Would deleting an ex from social media deter them from contacting you again? 
 

had an ex who would reach out to me every 2-3 months.  I finally deleted him off my social media a few months ago haven’t heard from him since, so I’m just wondering if it actually worked! 

[glows]

If you haven't heard from him since and it was a few months ago, then it's working. No one can tell you with certainty whether he won't try to contact you again through other means or via another account. If he tries to message again, block and delete if you need to.

Edited September 13, 2021 by glows

[ExpatInItaly]

Yes, it sounds like it worked. 

In general, it depends on how much importance someone assigns to social media. If it's something both parties use frequently and one notices the other has deleted them, then that would send the message that they don't wish to be in touch anymore. If, however, the one reaching out is not a big social media person (and thus didn't notice the deletion) and they're no longer reaching out,  it probably means that they've met someone else and have moved on. 

Either way, problem solved. 

[d0nnivain]

It sounds like a step in the right direction.   Remember, just because they reach out doesn't mean you have to respond.  Your silence should also help them to realize they need to go away.  

[Wiseman2]

11 hours ago, Hpchic said:

Would deleting an ex from social media deter them from contacting you again? 

No. Blocking them from All your social media and messaging apps is the only way to prevent unwanted snooping, contact, etc.

[Hpchic]

9 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Yes, it sounds like it worked. 

In general, it depends on how much importance someone assigns to social media. If it's something both parties use frequently and one notices the other has deleted them, then that would send the message that they don't wish to be in touch anymore. If, however, the one reaching out is not a big social media person (and thus didn't notice the deletion) and they're no longer reaching out,  it probably means that they've met someone else and have moved on. 

Either way, problem solved. 

I also told him not to contact me again and that I was done.  So I feel like the message sent to him was pretty clear lol.  He is someone who goes on social media fairly often, and was constantly liking my posts so I feel like he would’ve noticed I deleted him by now.

[glows]

10 minutes ago, Hpchic said:

I also told him not to contact me again and that I was done.  So I feel like the message sent to him was pretty clear lol.  He is someone who goes on social media fairly often, and was constantly liking my posts so I feel like he would’ve noticed I deleted him by now.

Him liking anything you post might not mean anything either. And he might have noticed, cared or not cared whether you were there. Let go. Good work deleting him and telling him not to contact you.

Edited September 13, 2021 by glows

[Wiseman2]

36 minutes ago, Hpchic said:

I also told him not to.....

This is a power struggle.

It's Your responsibility to delete and block him and all his people from all your social media and messaging apps and contact lists and devices.

He does not have to obey your commands.

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, Hpchic said:

I also told him not to contact me again and that I was done.  So I feel like the message sent to him was pretty clear lol.  He is someone who goes on social media fairly often, and was constantly liking my posts so I feel like he would’ve noticed I deleted him by now.

Well, then, there's your answer. 

Have you been hoping to hear from him anyway? Asking why you deleted him?

[Hpchic]

2 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Well, then, there's your answer. 

Have you been hoping to hear from him anyway? Asking why you deleted him?

Felt like just telling him not to contact me was not enough to get the message across.  I think keeping him on my social media was a way for us to stay connected.  He would like my posts and pics and then seemed to reach out to me after liking a pic I would post.  Plus he got to know what was going on in my life through social media and I just felt like he shouldn’t be getting that privilege since we’re not together and we’re not friends.

[Hpchic]

51 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

This is a power struggle.

It's Your responsibility to delete and block him and all his people from all your social media and messaging apps and contact lists and devices.

He does not have to obey your commands.

It’s not about obeying my commands, it’s more like respecting my wishes.  Agreed he does not have to do that, although most decent people would.

Edited September 13, 2021 by Hpchic

[ExpatInItaly]

2 minutes ago, Hpchic said:

Felt like just telling him not to contact me was not enough to get the message across.  I think keeping him on my social media was a way for us to stay connected.  He would like my posts and pics and then seemed to reach out to me after liking a pic I would post.  Plus he got to know what was going on in my life through social media and I just felt like he shouldn’t be getting that privilege since we’re not together and we’re not friends.

I agree with your choice to delete him. That was a smart move.

And what abut these questions:

10 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Have you been hoping to hear from him anyway? Asking why you deleted him?

 

[glows]

9 minutes ago, Hpchic said:

Felt like just telling him not to contact me was not enough to get the message across.  I think keeping him on my social media was a way for us to stay connected.  He would like my posts and pics and then seemed to reach out to me after liking a pic I would post.  Plus he got to know what was going on in my life through social media and I just felt like he shouldn’t be getting that privilege since we’re not together and we’re not friends.

Most individuals will respect that choice. I prefer making someone aware that privacy is preferred and not to contact me. There are other human beings on the other side and both of you have shared history. I agree with you that most decent people will refrain from any other contact. Deleting and blocking him from seeing your media or timeline online will eliminate any temptation to contact you also. He doesn't need to see what goes on in your life. You (and he) are both entitled to your privacy after a break up.

Edited September 13, 2021 by glows

[Hpchic]

12 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I agree with your choice to delete him. That was a smart move.

And what abut these questions:

 

No, I know he would never reach out to me asking why I deleted him, that thought didn’t even occur to me to be honest.  As for him reaching out in general, on the one hand yes part of me wants him too, but the other part of me knows it’s best he doesn’t and would rather not hear from him.  I know the part of me that wants him too reach out will eventually fade away with time 

[kendahke]

On 9/12/2021 at 10:11 PM, Hpchic said:

Would deleting an ex from social media deter them from contacting you again? I had an ex who would reach out to me every 2-3 months.  I finally deleted him off my social media a few months ago haven’t heard from him since, so I’m just wondering if it actually worked! 

Blocking works even better. Deleting without blocking is pointless.

[ExpatInItaly]

On 9/13/2021 at 7:50 PM, Hpchic said:

As for him reaching out in general, on the one hand yes part of me wants him too, but the other part of me knows it’s best he doesn’t and would rather not hear from him.  I know the part of me that wants him too reach out will eventually fade away with time 

Yes, this is what I was getting at. 

Your question struck me as you wondering why he hasn't been in touch despite you deleting him, so I imagined you were (on some level) still hoping to hear from him. And you're right, that will fade in time. Block him so you can move on completely.