Starswillshine Posted September 20, 2021 Share Posted September 20, 2021 It seems you kept this lady around because you were still addicted to the drama of it all. (From the past history). As with all addictions, none of this is good for you. You have to fight against yourself to prevent any part of this man into your life and your mind. Including all friends and family of his. Link to post Share on other sites
NYAG Posted September 21, 2021 Share Posted September 21, 2021 20 hours ago, solostand said: You would never suspect that some days, inside, she feels like a 15 year old and sometimes even acts like one. The right (or more accurately wrong) person can make us behave in all sorts of ways we never thought imaginable. When I think back to the way I reacted and the way I was made to feel and behave in various relationship situations I cannot believe that was me. The good thing is that you do learn to recognise the people who are bad for you or the behaviours they exhibit that cause you to change. It's a lesson well learned. Link to post Share on other sites
Milly May June Posted September 21, 2021 Share Posted September 21, 2021 I don't think the friend kept tabs on you for the BS. People came be drama queens all on their own. I think you still hold a notion that what you had with the MM was special. And I think you are reading too much into his knowledge of you. Men who are in love or have strong feelings for a woman don't show it by grabbing their behind in a public place. When you see this man for who he really is you will also let go of all that is associated with him incl. this friend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author solostand Posted September 21, 2021 Author Share Posted September 21, 2021 22 hours ago, Starswillshine said: It seems you kept this lady around because you were still addicted to the drama of it all. (From the past history). As with all addictions, none of this is good for you. You have to fight against yourself to prevent any part of this man into your life and your mind. Including all friends and family of his. Actually, when I think of it, I kept this lady around because I wanted to PROVE to them that I was not a psycho, that my life was awesome, and that I'm doing great. I always secretely believed the Ex MM was pulling for me to succeed while BS was hoping I would fail. Although I am successful, happy, thriving and definitely not psycho, I now realize who cares but me? They can all read my best selling book or something. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 21, 2021 Share Posted September 21, 2021 38 minutes ago, solostand said: I kept this lady around because I wanted to PROVE to them that I was not a psycho Delete and block him, her and all their people from your social media and messaging apps. Slashing your life on social media looks less sound and sane than simply allowing only trusted people into your world. Respect your privacy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted September 22, 2021 Share Posted September 22, 2021 20 hours ago, solostand said: Although I am successful, happy, thriving and definitely not psycho, I now realize who cares but me? Yes, exactly. You don't need to prove yourself to them, or anyone else. They will never see you in a positive light no matter what you do anyway, so their opinion is irrelevant. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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