How do I cope with a relationship mistake ive made?

[Tommycfc1905]

I regret rushing into love and desperation and making her a priority. I admit like i felt i used her as a mental stress relief which could be avoidable. I want to focus on myself from now on and have my own ambition.

 

I regret being emotional and negative to her when i shouldve rejected you and focus on myself first.

 

 

I wasnt really ready for the relationship but i chose to be in it anyway which screwed me up bad.

I may be clingy and desperate with her, which i've shouldn't done. because the long distance is far away and being too avaliable is the only option i can do. I showed too much and care and love because of the distance as well. I understand being clingy is disrespectful

After 2 weeks of the break up i even told her that i regret being a relationship and being needy even i still love her. She gave me a cold "okay" "i understand" but we still kept each others social media

How do i cope with a relationship mistake i have done.

I regret rushing into love and desperation and making her a priority. I admit like i felt i used her as a mental stress relief which could be avoidable. I want to focus on myself from now on and have my own ambition.

I regret being emotional and negative to her when i shouldve rejected her and focus on myself first.

I wasnt really ready for the relationship but i chose to be in it anyway which screwed me up bad.

I may be clingy and desperate with her, which i've shouldn't done. because the long distance is far away and being too avaliable is the only option i can do. I showed too much and care and love because of the distance as well. I understand being clingy is disrespectful

After 2 weeks of the break up i even told her that i regret being a relationship, wanted to focus on myself and being needy even i still love her. She gave me a cold "okay" "i understand" but we still kept each others social media

But i want to get her back one day if its possible and i know its a bad idea. Ive lost a good woman and its hurting me inside. I shouldve rejected her honestly

Edited September 29, 2021 by Tommycfc1905
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[d0nnivain]

You cope by moving forward & learning from what happened.  You have to accept that this is over.  You also probably need to swear off LDRs.  They are very difficult under the best of circumstances but generally impossible for clingy types.  

You need to disconnect on social media.  Being able to see her posts is just picking at a wound.  If you are serious about focusing on yourself do that.  So what are you doing on that score?  Are you reading self help books?  Taking a class?  Learning to meditate?  Exercising?   You need to do something not just say this.  

Understand that being available & showing somebody you care about them are good things. It is possible to do those without being clingy.  Learn & live the difference.  

[Tommycfc1905]

9 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

 

You need to disconnect on social media.  Being able to see her posts is just picking at a wound.  If you are serious about focusing on yourself do that.  

 

Ive muted her stories and future posts i just couldnt be bothered deleting her i dont know why

[d0nnivain]

It's not that you can't be bothered.  You wrote that whole other post as a letter to her in case something happens to you.  You have the time & the energy to act.  You have chosen not to.  It's unhealthy.  You are refusing to cut this last thread because you are still holding out hope that sometimes in the future you two will get back together.  Given the distance that is highly unlikely.  

You will delete her from social media when you are ready.  You are not ready yet.  I'm glad you muted her but staying connected is keeping you from moving on.  

[Tommycfc1905]

I love you so much man even though i dont know you personally i appreciate the advice i mean it

[d0nnivain]

I'm a woman.  I appreciate the thanks but that is as far as you need to go.  

Go back to your self improvement plan & implement it in a healthy way.