Feeling isolated and alone

[Ashley001]

One month post break up, I chose to leave a relationship that just didn’t feel right. There were some warning signs of jealousy and controlling behaviour and the bad days were outweighing the good. I suffer with low self esteem so I spend each day doubting myself and my decisions. 
 

I have recently started therapy which felt like a big step and I know I am on the journey to a better place, but it’s not easy. 
 

This was a work relationship and as a manager, I got moved to a new team. Yesterday somebody deleted me from the group chat for my old team without an explanation and it’s really knocked me. I felt like I was doing ok and this has just set me back.

I don’t know what caused this. Either bad things being said about me at work have turned people against me or maybe the fact that I went on a weekend away with family and posted pictures on social media? I am scared that this seems heartless of me and people will think I don’t care or I am not hurting. 
 

My ex went off of work on sickness for a couple of weeks after the break up and made it clear he felt like a victim and holds a lot of anger towards me. This will be clear for others to see.

It really hurts to think that people may think badly of me or blame me, thinking that I have done something wrong. I can’t seem to get out of this panic and it’s really getting to me. 

Edited October 11, 2021 by Ashley001
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[Wiseman2]

Review and reset all your social media settings. Make sure they're private and only trusted friends and family can view your content.

Clean out all the dead weight. Delete and block him and all these co-workers from your social media.

Good you are seeing a therapist. However it would help to see a physician about the depression and anxiety.

Avoid this ex. Don't worry about co-workers being your friends or liking you. At work, respect is far more important.

You have friends and family to talk to and spend time with. Also get more involved in life outside of work. Join some groups, clubs, sports, volunteer, get a side hustle, etc.

Since this ex is at the workplace and so much bothers you there, this would be a good time to invest in updating your resume and LinkedIn profile.

Start browsing what other types of companies you could work for 

Once an office romance goes bad like this, it's time to refresh your life.

[Blind-Sided]

1 hour ago, Ashley001 said:

1) This was a work relationship and as a manager, I got moved to a new team. Yesterday somebody deleted me from the group chat for my old team without an explanation and it’s really knocked me. I felt like I was doing ok and this has just set me back.

2) My ex went off of work on sickness for a couple of weeks after the break up and made it clear he felt like a victim and holds a lot of anger towards me. This will be clear for others to see.

It really hurts to think that people may think badly of me or blame me, thinking that I have done something wrong. I can’t seem to get out of this panic and it’s really getting to me. 

I'm sorry you are here... but this is the core of the reason why you don't want to date people you work with.  And, as @Wiseman2 said... it's good that you are going to therapy.  I proke up your post so I can address a couple points.

1) Personally, I wouldn't look too much into this.  If you are on a different team now... and this is a work relationship... they may have figured you weren't interested in the chat that may be going on.  I was never very active on SM, so I would purge from time to time. I know some people get upset if they are "Unfriended"... but most people on SM aren't really your friend... they are a contact. 

2) This happens regardless if you work with the person or not.  The only down side is... when the stories get around, and it's a work relationship... it will be concentrated.  If you know the stories aren't true... then keep your head high, and move forward.  My exW tried to spread stories like this around my neighborhood, and for a while... it sucked.  But I kept being the person who I ACTUALLY am... and my neighbors eventually saw where the lies were. 

You will be fine... just take some time.