Katkats7777 Posted October 15, 2021 Share Posted October 15, 2021 There is this man at work who is probably in his early 50's, he works in another department but they work in the same building/room where I'm at. I don't really know him cept for his name and dept he works at. He always says good morning/have a good evening, etc, etc. like when we pass by in the work area or in the hallway. He like smiles at me. I decided to look him up on facebook and he's married with 3 young adult sons. Just wanted to see what his deal is. He does greet his fellow co workers in his own department. I guess this is normal for someone his age to interact with other females or just normal every day work mumbo jumbo. None of the young, attractive guys with girlfriends who work at the other departments ever greet me. Last time a older man was "friendly" with me at work-at a different job, he was married and telling me my hair was attractive and wanted to go out for a drink. So I'm just on the fence when someone is being super friendly. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 15, 2021 Share Posted October 15, 2021 It sound like he's just friendly. And if his interactions are simply to smile and say 'good morning/good evening', I wouldn't even go as far as calling it "super friendly" Sounds like he has nice social skills. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted October 15, 2021 Share Posted October 15, 2021 16 minutes ago, Katkats7777 said: He does greet his fellow co workers in his own department. I think he's just being nice and welcoming and wants everyone to feel included. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 15, 2021 Share Posted October 15, 2021 (edited) It sounds normal and regular. Are you expecting him to be as sleazy as the other married older man who hit on you? Keep your distance if you don't feel comfortable interacting with him and be polite and bland. It's work so not worth overthinking this. Pay attention single gentlemen you'd rather date. Edited October 15, 2021 by glows 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nothanks Posted October 15, 2021 Share Posted October 15, 2021 He greets everyone right? Not just you? If so, he is just a friendly guy. If he does something more specifically towards you, then it is time to be concerned. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katkats7777 Posted October 15, 2021 Author Share Posted October 15, 2021 Well, okay then, nothing to be concerned about! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dramafreezone Posted October 17, 2021 Share Posted October 17, 2021 On 10/15/2021 at 2:07 PM, Katkats7777 said: There is this man at work who is probably in his early 50's, he works in another department but they work in the same building/room where I'm at. I don't really know him cept for his name and dept he works at. He always says good morning/have a good evening, etc, etc. like when we pass by in the work area or in the hallway. He like smiles at me. I decided to look him up on facebook and he's married with 3 young adult sons. Just wanted to see what his deal is. He does greet his fellow co workers in his own department. I guess this is normal for someone his age to interact with other females or just normal every day work mumbo jumbo. None of the young, attractive guys with girlfriends who work at the other departments ever greet me. Last time a older man was "friendly" with me at work-at a different job, he was married and telling me my hair was attractive and wanted to go out for a drink. So I'm just on the fence when someone is being super friendly. It's just a greeting, until he asks you out for a drink or says your hair looks good. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted October 20, 2021 Share Posted October 20, 2021 On 10/15/2021 at 5:16 PM, basil67 said: It sound like he's just friendly. And if his interactions are simply to smile and say 'good morning/good evening', I wouldn't even go as far as calling it "super friendly" Sounds like he has nice social skills. This, especially as it seems he treats everyone this way. Frankly I'd be more worried that such behavior is now considered odd and not engaged in. Just basic manners in the U.S....at least of a time gone by. I get that these are outgoing U.S. ways and considered odd in other cultures. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 20, 2021 Share Posted October 20, 2021 6 hours ago, SumGuy said: This, especially as it seems he treats everyone this way. Frankly I'd be more worried that such behavior is now considered odd and not engaged in. Just basic manners in the U.S....at least of a time gone by. I get that these are outgoing U.S. ways and considered odd in other cultures. Thankfully, manners and warmth of coworkers is not odd where I am. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katkats7777 Posted October 24, 2021 Author Share Posted October 24, 2021 On 10/15/2021 at 4:37 PM, Alpaca said: I think he's just being nice and welcoming and wants everyone to feel included. Yeah, wish everyone would be this way, bless his heart. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 24, 2021 Share Posted October 24, 2021 It doesn't matter. You have to work with him so as long as you keep it professional and polite things will be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
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