ijji Posted October 19, 2021 Share Posted October 19, 2021 so sorry for grammar error first if theirs any lol but i have been in a relationship for 3 years i’m happy i won’t lie but i hate certain ways of my girlfriend like ever since she started her new job she’s made friends which i don’t mind and wanted her too , but we were suppose to do stuff for halloween and i was planning to go fright fest with her as a surprise now i can’t do that because she’s going to a party with her friends which i don’t mind but then she says she was gonna inv me but how were u gonna inv me if they had a list of people who can get in . i feel like her friends are before me in every aspect Link to post Share on other sites
NYAG Posted October 20, 2021 Share Posted October 20, 2021 She has a new friend group. Let her explore that. Don't be jealous. If you 'don't mind', why are you complaining? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 20, 2021 Share Posted October 20, 2021 12 hours ago, ijji said: i was planning to go fright fest with her as a surprise now i can’t do that because she’s going to a party with her friends. Ok. She is growing up being responsible working and networking with new friends. Next time skip "suprizes" and make plans in advance. Just go with your friends. Do you work, go to school? Make sure you stay busy by rounding out your life more. Get a side hustle. Join some groups and clubs. Get involved in fitness and sports. Volunteer. Make new friends and reconnect with old friends. Don't hang around and stew. Go out and enjoy with your friends, since you never communicated that you had this planned. BTW. Suprizes are highly overrated. Most people hate them and it assumes that everyone is sitting around twiddling their thumbs til the last minute. So naturally people make other plans. Expect to have your own lives and friends. Next time plan in advance and communicate better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 20, 2021 Share Posted October 20, 2021 (edited) 12 hours ago, ijji said: i feel like her friends are before me in every aspect You are probably right and you now have to reassess the relationship as it is no longer much fun for you. she has spread her wings leaving you behind. People do need friends but when friends take precedence over the core relationship it doesn't tend to end well. Some people are happiest when surrounded by a huge number of friends, some people are happiest in a one on one relationship with very few or no friends. Many are in the middle. Different courses for different horses. Your gf as done an about turn on you and you are now in a relationship with a "party girl"... You can't tell her what to do, but you can decide the situation is no longer working for you and walk away. Edited October 20, 2021 by elaine567 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 21, 2021 Share Posted October 21, 2021 On 10/19/2021 at 4:25 PM, ijji said: but how were u gonna inv me if they had a list of people who can get in . Does the list allow a plus one for each guest invited? Link to post Share on other sites
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