Why Does She do This?

[JackJonesJJ]

Myself and the ex girlfriend broke up 3 months ago after 12 years together. We have a 3 year old child together. The breakup wasn't too harsh, more amicable than anything. Feel we just both needed space apart from one another and neither of us are dating. We text about our child, and although I have tried texting her to talk in general, she isn't interested. However, every time we meet in person (drop off/pick up our child), she can't help but smile uncontrollably at me whenever we look each other in the eyes. She tries not to, but she always does. A huge smile, she then looks away and tries not to. She doesn't have any problems, it's what she did at the very beginning of our relationship when we first started flirting with each other and it led to our relationship. I used to give her the eyes and she used to melt everytime, it's almost as if it's the same now but just when we lock eyes especially. She even starts smiling and looking away just when we are in each others presence. Yet she doesn't appear to want to have anything to do with me. She won't text me, but perhaps there are other reasons for this. I still love her, but this is a big mindf***. I have worked a lot on myself since our breakup and become a better person, for myself firstly but for whatever comes next in life. To get some other women's views on this would be great. I kinda feel she is still attracted to me but is trying her best to hide it. But I also just don't know, I don't want to say anything to her and come across like I know how she's feeling, when perhaps I don't!!!

Edited October 22, 2021 by JackJonesJJ

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. What was the breakup about?

Where is she and your child living? Do you have 50/50 custody? Do you pay child support?

 Keep things strictly about co-parenting. Good you are working on yourself, but do so for yourself and to be the best dad you can be.

[Blind-Sided]

Sorry you are here.... but to be honest... 3 months hasn't been enough time to morn a 12 year relationship.  TO help yourself... you need to not interreact with her.  I understand you have a kid... but don't try to contact her on any subject other than the kid. I know it's hard... but most of us have been there. 

We can probably help if you give a little more detail on why the break up happened. 

[glows]

23 hours ago, JackJonesJJ said:

Myself and the ex girlfriend broke up 3 months ago after 12 years together. We have a 3 year old child together. The breakup wasn't too harsh, more amicable than anything. Feel we just both needed space apart from one another and neither of us are dating. We text about our child, and although I have tried texting her to talk in general, she isn't interested. However, every time we meet in person (drop off/pick up our child), she can't help but smile uncontrollably at me whenever we look each other in the eyes. She tries not to, but she always does. A huge smile, she then looks away and tries not to. She doesn't have any problems, it's what she did at the very beginning of our relationship when we first started flirting with each other and it led to our relationship. I used to give her the eyes and she used to melt everytime, it's almost as if it's the same now but just when we lock eyes especially. She even starts smiling and looking away just when we are in each others presence. Yet she doesn't appear to want to have anything to do with me. She won't text me, but perhaps there are other reasons for this. I still love her, but this is a big mindf***. I have worked a lot on myself since our breakup and become a better person, for myself firstly but for whatever comes next in life. To get some other women's views on this would be great. I kinda feel she is still attracted to me but is trying her best to hide it. But I also just don't know, I don't want to say anything to her and come across like I know how she's feeling, when perhaps I don't!!!

She may be smiling because she remembers you but has her reasons for not wanting to be with you. Why did you break up or "need space" if you are still in love with her?

[Hurtheart]

So my ex who I have 2 children with broke up ohh I dunno 7-8 years ago, she’s still so rude to me on the phone or threw text lol sorry it makes me laugh cause I’m so over her bs. Anyways anytime I go pick up drop off kids ans she’s there she always makes a point o come outside and come up to me and start a useless convo and does the same thing looks into my eyes smiling like she did when we first met. Does this mean she wants me back ? No she’s been with her bf for 3 years and is happy I think it’s the fact that you have a kid with her she’ll always love you but she knows she can’t be with you. Seriously don’t look into it that much unless she’s tellin ya she wants to try again it’s all just a lust thing she’ll have forever she’s just attracted to you hope this makes sense 

Edited November 3, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[emprosnet7]

Keep the good relationship you have with her. It will give you precious time with your kid. Don't get involved again and focus on the baby. Don't risk another breakup that maybe not as smooth as before.