What do I do?

[katung44]

I am seeing a lady who is a part-time hooker on the side. I am 43 years old with little or no experience on dating scene. I try not to judge a lady by her sex life. Infact, I don't mind a lady who is a wayward. I think human beings make too much of big deal of the sex only after 5-6 dates rule. Even if we get down from day 1, it wouldn't dampen my curiosity to get to know her at all. I believe also that even hookers are capable of being in a relationship so long as they are willing to get to know each and have plans to go further than just the hooker-john level. I have this discomfort being around ladies who claim they are virgins. I also have issues with women who have a female superiority complex. [ ]

Edited October 23, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Civility

[stillafool]

Okay I have nothing against prostitutes as it is a mutual transaction between 2 consenting adults.  I have more respect for them than gold diggers who pretend to love someone to get paid.  Do you have a question for LoveShack?

[katung44]

Just that I am beginning to catch feelings for this lady. She claims she has a son who I'm hoping to meet soon. I don't know how this lady really feels about me but I'm already mentally preparing myself for the day when she either disappears without explanation or unceremoniously dumps me. I am quite ready to take our relationship to the next level but I fear age and her eventual body language might be a factor. My only question is what are my chances that she will eventually settle down with me? I don't have a solid financial base yet. In fact, I am complete weirdo. But I do love sex although I can describe myself as demi-sexual. I think I could do with a woman who is ready maintain a constant FTR with me

[Guildford]

You should move forward with the relationship, but keep in mind that she could dump you at any time (or disappear) and if that happens you will just walk away and not beg to be taken back.  If you want to take this relationship to the next level, you should tell her that you accept her as she is (women love that), and that you want to advance the relationship.  Good luck and stay flexible.  Get ready to roll with the punchers.

[katung44]

Actually that's one of the first things I try to do when starting out on a serious relationship. Prepare myself for the day she dumps me. Its one of the reasons why despite my romantic expectations, I still believe there's no such thing as unconditional love. I just enjoy the positive gains of the relationship while it lasts. I also make sure I don't just take, I also give back to her materially and emotionally. Most ladies think I'm a weirdo because of that as they expect me to have an alpha male attitude. Be a take-charge man. But I try to let the lady be herself around me at all times. I won't make a lady do anything against her will because when it goes sideways, she will end up resenting me

[dramafreezone]

I think moving forward is fine but I wouldn't go in with any ideas that you're going to "save her" or anything like that.  She's obviously comfortable with what she does for a living and probably doesn't plan on stopping.

[katung44]

I wouldn't try to save her, not against her wishes anyways. I'm just hoping that she sees a life with me beyond her current line of work. But I know when to cut my losses and move on

[katung44]

I'm a man who has no qualms about having sex on a first date. I separate the act from the person I'm trying get to know. A person's habits doesn't necessarily define the quality of their relationship with you. Just because you score with a lady on the first date doesn't necessarily make her a slut. The right keys will always open the right locks on the first attempt