Author TMJP68 Posted October 27, 2021 Author Share Posted October 27, 2021 We ended. He wanted to ended as well. I wasn’t that sad at all. I knew it was the time and this is not what I wanted. Thanks everyone for your thoughts and suggestions 😊 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 27, 2021 Share Posted October 27, 2021 2 minutes ago, TMJP68 said: We ended. He wanted to ended as well. I wasn’t that sad at all. I knew it was the time and this is not what I wanted. Thanks everyone for your thoughts and suggestions 😊 Super.👍. Now you're free to meet decent men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 27, 2021 Share Posted October 27, 2021 The challenge now is to remain no contact and try not to rekindle.MM are notorious for getting back in touch and it all starts over again. Stay strong. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Starswillshine Posted October 27, 2021 Share Posted October 27, 2021 1 hour ago, TMJP68 said: We ended. He wanted to ended as well. I wasn’t that sad at all. I knew it was the time and this is not what I wanted. Thanks everyone for your thoughts and suggestions 😊 I know you are probably hurting even though we all know it's for the best. Take care of yourself this week. Hugs. 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TMJP68 Posted October 27, 2021 Author Share Posted October 27, 2021 In the end of the day, he loves his wife. I really don’t think he will try to contact me but I am actually feel relieved. Light hearted now. I will be stay strong. Thank you! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted October 27, 2021 Share Posted October 27, 2021 (edited) 27 minutes ago, TMJP68 said: In the end of the day, he loves his wife. I really don’t think he will try to contact me but I am actually feel relieved. Light hearted now. I will be stay strong. Thank you! At least he was honest with you. It probably wasn’t what you wanted to hear but you should be grateful for that. Honesty is far better than lying to you and stringing you along with false promises… Still, don’t be surprised if he reaches out of you feel the desire to reach out. It’s quite common post/affair. Best wishes! Edited October 27, 2021 by BaileyB 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
notbroken Posted October 27, 2021 Share Posted October 27, 2021 Don't take calls or any other sort of communication from this cheater. Go 100% no contact. You can do way better than someone else's husband. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Luna66star Posted October 27, 2021 Share Posted October 27, 2021 He doesn't lie or pretend? Yes he does. He's cheating on his wife but not planning to leave. Read the Sunk Cost Fallacy. He's invested too much on his marriage to leave. So he'll stay, be unhappy and look for women with weak boundaries to "play" with him on the side. You are a toy to him yet you have expectations. These will never come to fruition. Please drop this guy asap! Link to post Share on other sites
Author TMJP68 Posted October 27, 2021 Author Share Posted October 27, 2021 We ended last night. No problems so far 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted November 3, 2021 Share Posted November 3, 2021 I am sorry, OP. You have found a connection but there is this major flaw - he is married! A lot of relationship problems tend to boil down to one thing: one of the parties is unhappy about something major and yet feels connected and attached. It is excruciating for people to be in this situation, knowing rationally that they need to get out of it but feeling emotionally that they are in love and will never meet anyone they are so connected to. It's just going to be continual pain if you stay with him. You will know he has a wife that he will stay with and you will be wondering about the future and feeling stuck in limbo. You need to use reason to get yourself out of this and then allow time for your heart to catch up with your head. It could be slow and messy but eventually, if you work at it, you can detach. Can you honestly see any other way forward? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Snakesalive Posted November 4, 2021 Share Posted November 4, 2021 On 10/27/2021 at 12:11 PM, TMJP68 said: In the end of the day, he loves his wife. I really don’t think he will try to contact me but I am actually feel relieved. Light hearted now. I will be stay strong. Thank you! You make a great choice , I hope you can stay strong learn from this experience and move on . If you have a work connection I’d suggest planning your strategy for how you’ll deal with interacting with him there -it would be easy to get drawn back in -just something to be mindful of x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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