Boyfriend grinded with another girl while drunk. Would you forgive your significant other if they did this?

[JustPeachyx]

Hello everyone! I would really appreciate your opinion on this. On my birthday, my boyfriend and I went clubbing. We drank, but my boyfriend was very drunk and was dancing with me (he usually doesn’t dance). I went in the bathroom and when I got out, he wasn’t there. I sat down and waited for him for around 10 minutes, in which two guys asked me to dance but I politely declined. I went to go look for him and I found him at the bar (most likely he went to go get more drinks for us) and I see his hands on a girl’s waist while she was bent over grinding. The next morning we talked about it. He didn’t remember it happening and said he blacked out. He kept saying sorry and I could tell he was genuinely sorry. I told him even though I drank a lot, I still remember I had a boyfriend. Alcohol is not an excuse. He apologized and agreed, but kept saying he was blackout drunk and it’s not something he’d ever do sober. He’s been good since then, but this is still in the back of my mind.

Thank you for you’re opinions 

[ShyViolet]

Nope, I would not forgive that and I wouldn't date a person like that.  Being drunk is never an excuse for bad behavior.  And if he genuinely doesn't remember, then I wouldn't want to date someone who is so immature that they don't know how to use alcohol in moderation.

[Els]

Eeeesh. I'd lean towards "no". Possibly maybe I'd consider staying IF he took steps to never put himself in that situation ever again (which includes just not drinking in public if he can't handle his drink).

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, JustPeachyx said:

On my birthday and I see his hands on a girl’s waist while she was bent over grinding. 

How long have you been dating? How old is he? Don't fall for the "I was drunk" excuse. What he did was exceptionally creepy. You need to end it. It borders on sexual assault.

 Not to mention exceptionally disrespectful to get this drunk on your birthday. Complete loser . 

Edited November 4, 2021 by Wiseman2

[glows]

I don't like drinking or bars. This would be a natural turn off. Maybe ask yourself whether you both drink too much or whether you've outgrown this relationship. He doesn't seem able to be honest or to hold his drink.

[ItsTheDay]

I'm pretty sure he remembers. Being drunk and "blackout" drunk are two different things. If he was dancing, grinding on and being mobile with this other girl, sounds like he was just drunk. 

Edited November 5, 2021 by ItsTheDay

[chillii]

Grinding eh , everything has all such nice neat little labels these days doesn't it hey.

Don't know , up to you.

[smackie9]

Everyone is different,  and some people do lose their better judgment when totally intoxicated. You addressed it, he was remorseful, and agreed not to drink like that again. It was a one time thing, the issue is resolved. Depending on your own opinion, it can be excusable, but should be measured by how much is invested in this relationship. If it was worth forgiveness then you made the right choice. Of course there will be some residual of that left in the back of your mind...it's just part of life.

[kendahke]

I wouldn't date a drunk, so the whole forgiveness aspect of this is moot.