laRubiaBonita Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 I guess I'm just to frightened to get too emotionally close to a female. The few times I did it ended in disaster. ok....so are you going to Face your fear....and change, or continue jumping from one to the next? Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 This thread is unsettling for me.. It's giving me flashbacks.. I'm waiting to see what Alpha come's up with for his reason!! Maybe it can shed some light on a raw incident I went through. Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Out of curosity ALPHA-- Are you a Gemini???? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Out of curosity ALPHA-- Are you a Gemini???? Ohh here we go.. I'm a full blown Gemini.. But I'm not an Alpha Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Ohh here we go.. What does this mean? Here we go? Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 the time you spent over the years are spent on refining your ways of getting the women and not on building on a relationship with them. There's huge difference there. I just wanted this posted again in case anyone missed it the first time. I think a lot of the younger readers here fall into this trap...and even some of the adults. Good post EB Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 I don't know what the deal is, its weird. What do you think it is? Fear of falling in love, fear of commitment, wanting to sleep with many women? Hmmmm.... OK afew questions for you... Were you like this before you got married? Did your wife at the time keep your attention or did you want to bang other women while married? You say you got burned afew times, and that more than likely is why you are the way you are now...Question is, DO you want to change or keep on this pace, new women every few months... I have another question, I'll wait to see what your answers are because I can't ask ya yet... Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 No, I haven't read any of his female hating posts. But it sounds like he's changed. Anyway, I don't like most women much and I'm a woman! And if I confused you with someone else, I apoligize. I thought you were one of the many sheep on here who bashed me for giving advice that went against the grain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted October 20, 2005 Author Share Posted October 20, 2005 Hey Alpha, Could it be that they no longer become a challenge after 3-4 months? Definately, that is part of it...in addition, after the 12 to 16 wks I get to know many of these women better and I just don't want to be with them anymore. Sorta like Seinfeld and George, they'd always find some lame excuse to get outta the relationship. And I'm talking about most above avg looking women who are educated and with decent jobs.... When you meet THE one for you, you don't get bored after 3 to 4 months. That is most likely true... maybe, ALPHA, you are just too set in your ways, and get sick of having to accomidate anothers needs....aka, you are selfish. That is part of it LRB, I want things MY way or the highway... I think that deep connections between people - the kind where you actually like and accept someone as an individual as well as a dating/sexual partner and not just a dating/sexual partner are a lot more rare than people think, Agreed LCB, it is extremely rare. I'd say there were maybe 3 women in my past who were like this...women I would give my life for. And you like to play games. Once the games end you need to move on to someone else you can play. Men who play games will always play games. They never grow out of it. Oh JS17, and women don't "play games"? They invented and have mastered them! I'm curious. What happened with the "handful" who DID keep you interested. Did you run once you knew you "had" them? The few that were able to "wrap me around their fingers" eventually left after they had me lock, stock and barrel....I tried to be strong and not give in but they made me weak in the knees and i buckled. I am only human... My guess is that your shields went up WTF is this? Star Trek? A couple of my buddies are like that. Getting the chicks are easy but beyond that, they're befuddled as to why things can't progress. Generally, EB, things don't progress usually cause it is my choice, not her's....I just get bored with them or they don't live up to my stds once i get to know them better. You may, as LB suggested, be hooked on 'infatuation high' - you'd rather trade the artificial highs of serial infatuations for the calmer, steadier high of a stable long-term relationship. That could be true... ok....so are you going to Face your fear....and change, or continue jumping from one to the next? I don't know LRB...that's why I posted this. To help me with introspection and get other opinions....I usually don't ASK for advice on LS, I give it. Out of curosity ALPHA-- Are you a Gemini???? Pisces, 03-20-65... Were you like this before you got married? yes, like I said....i'm usually very aloof with women and almost all of them i dated have told me I did not see them enough, call them enough, give them enough attention, etc.... my philosophy is just to move on when i get bored. i really don't think i'm meant to be with only one female for the rest of my life and i've stated this up front to many women i dated, sometime on the 1st date. the funny thing is, WWIU, that many of the women stuck around and were still interested in me and I usually got rid of them... Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 No, I haven't read any of his female hating posts. But it sounds like he's changed. Anyway, I don't like most women much and I'm a woman! If I recall correctly, alpha has often made it very clear that what he says applies to ALL women, including you -- whether you say otherwise or not. According to him, you're a woman so you don't know what you want. If he has changed that's great. I think he's considering changing, but the jury's still out. Alpha, I think some people may have already hit the nail on the head. I'm glad to see you're taking these things into consideration. I hope it leads you to what you're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 No, I haven't read any of his female hating posts. But it sounds like he's changed Don't be fooled. Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 You forgot to mention my post! What the hell is it that everybody overlooks my posts!? Link to post Share on other sites
portableversion Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Alpha is just crying crocodile tears. Outcast's advice was dead on-save the BS and get hookers, and take up skydiving. Why bother with the bullshyt drama of dating?? Doesn't the same game get BORING after awhile? YOu are drama addicted attention seeker. What will happen when your dick goes limp from old age?? Suicide perhaps? Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted October 20, 2005 Author Share Posted October 20, 2005 You forgot to mention my post! What the hell is it that everybody overlooks my posts!? sorry, I haven't had much time today....quite busy at work and I have tomorrow off. I will post/reply more either later today or tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Looney, he's probably got you and I on 'ignore' Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 What do you think it is? Fear of falling in love, fear of commitment, wanting to sleep with many women? Hmmmm.... Here's an idea. I'm sure this isn't the total reason but it might be a good place to start looking. Look into it and look at yourself. I have put a quote in this paragraph with the link to the website.. I think this makes some sense. How many of you are guilty of doing Stages 1,2,3 and jumping to 7? Us too. You're not alone. Sexual intimacy is about touch (which can be non-sexual like with friends and children) and in the dating and mating game it's part of the courtship and consummation. There is nothing wrong with doing the 1,2,3,7 dance, if a fast fling or an affair is all you are interested in. Unfortunately, for many adults it becomes the only way they know how to date and a main reason so many relationships crash and burn, especially in the first six months. (I'm guilty of this too!!) Now go and check out this website. It might be good for most of us. http://www.couplescompany.com/Advice/Articles/Intimacy_Stages/Intimacy1.htm Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Quote: Originally Posted by craig My guess is that your shields went up WTF is this? Star Trek? I was going to say "armor" but thought you'd relate more to Star Trek. sure LRB...some of them do get "bored" with me....but most of the time, 80% i'd say, it is me who splits. I guess I'm just to frightened to get too emotionally close to a female. The few times I did it ended in disaster. I rest my case. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 So ALPHA, have dating any Women with a Multiple Personality DO? That could be interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 If I recall correctly, alpha has often made it very clear that what he says applies to ALL women, including you -- whether you say otherwise or not. According to him, you're a woman so you don't know what you want. If he has changed that's great. I think he's considering changing, but the jury's still out. Alpha, I think some people may have already hit the nail on the head. I'm glad to see you're taking these things into consideration. I hope it leads you to what you're looking for. He doesn't know me so what he says can't apply to me. Maybe he doesn't like women, I don't know. I've already stated that I'm not too crazy about most women either. He's certainly entitled to his opinion without being beaten up for it. Maybe he had a mean mother or something? I don't get why it bothers people so much. Why does his opinion hold so much weight with some of you? Who is HE? No offense to him, but his opinion doesn't hold much weight or importance to me. I don't care if he hates women. I really don't. Why do you? Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 This was already dealt with in Loony's thread. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Helloo...This IS ALPHA's thread.... This is Not High School, there are no popularity contests, get off yourselves....whiners. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 What was dealt with in Loony's thread? Who's Loony? And where's the thread? Sorry, but I don't understand. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Don't be fooled. Why should I really care if he's changed or not? Why should anyone care? I don't even know what he was like before. I don't care. And you know what? He sounds a LOT like me before I found the right man for me. I was a bit aloof and men wanted me more than I wanted them for the most part. And you know what? It's not a really bad way to be until you meet the right one. It's better to be that way than to be some pathetic person who hangs on too long and doesn't understand when someone "just isn't into you." I guess I'm taking the OP at face value without having my views colored by all his previous posts. Some of you can't do that I understand. You're prejudiced by his previous posts (which is totally understandable.) Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Where has all of this insanity come from? Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Ignore this post. I changed my mind. I don't have anything to say after all... Link to post Share on other sites
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