MeadowFlower Posted November 7, 2021 Posted November 7, 2021 What makes a guy like a girl in a special way instead of liking her as just a friend? It probably varies from guy to guy, so from your point of view, what is it?
glows Posted November 7, 2021 Posted November 7, 2021 Are you asking what turns people on? Yes, it's going to be varied. Is there a specific person or situation you have in mind? 1
Author MeadowFlower Posted November 7, 2021 Author Posted November 7, 2021 (edited) @glows, I'm not referring to what turns people on, but what makes a guy like a girl more than just a friend. So say for example, a guy has two female friends but one he only sees as just a friend and the other he likes in a special way, and wants a relationship with her. What is it that makes him like one better than the other? Edited November 7, 2021 by MeadowFlower
glows Posted November 7, 2021 Posted November 7, 2021 I’d think a good deal of it is sexual attraction. Possibly a good dash of respect and sensing a capacity to care deeply for one another or others. Being generous, kind, loving, self-aware but also having limits. Those are universally attractive traits. 1
Blind-Sided Posted November 7, 2021 Posted November 7, 2021 This question is too wide open to give a proper answer. BUT.......... 1) As said above... attraction is part of it. If I'm not attracted... then I'm not going to "Date" that person. 2) I have a couple friends that may have been attractive to me... but I worked close with them in some way, and I knew I shouldn't get involved. 3) Also, over the years, I've had a couple very attractive girls, who were obviously interested in me... but they were dumb. I can't deal with girls who are either honestly dumb, or act that way to seem "Cute". 4) Then there is other side of that coin... if she acts too ridged in her mannerisms... then I don't want to deal with that. (life is fluid) With that said... I may still get along with girls who fall into those categories, and would be friends with them... but I don't want to date them. I have a buddy, who's wife falls into some of this. I'm friends with her... and I like her... but I have NO IDEA why he dated, and married her. LOL.
central Posted November 7, 2021 Posted November 7, 2021 Obviously, physical/sexual attraction is key initially for me. However, that's either reinforced or destroyed once we've had a conversation or two if it's going to be more than a brief fling. I require greater compatibility for something to last: views, attitudes, life goals all matter greatly.
Foxhall Posted November 7, 2021 Posted November 7, 2021 Physical attraction is the most obvious factor but not saying that it is everything either, If a guy knows a certain girl will always have his back or be in his corner, or if he knows he can be himself with her and not be judged, that if he feels comfortable with her, those factors leaving looks aside can sometimes be enough for a guy to consider a girl special.
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