Goingmad21 Posted November 8, 2021 Share Posted November 8, 2021 I hadn’t seen my gf all week due to work commitments etc. Then when I wanted to go round to hers she said no because she was tired and didn’t want to have to get up early in the morning. I was upset by this and we had a disagreement over it which ran into the next day. I was on a night out with friends, within that friendship group is a girl who has previously tried it on with me.. there were 12 of us out. She also added that she didn’t want to see me because I was going on this night out and she’s uncomfortable with it and seeing me would make it worse. We had an argument in the day and the last message she sent me was the thumbs up emoji so I didn’t reply and we didn’t speak for a number of hours. I then messaged her when I was out to see if she would be comfortable with me sharing a post that that girl had put up it was a drinks thing that everyone was tagged in for a competition and was essentially a picture of a table number. The last thing she said to me was ok no worries. Then I didn’t reply because there wasn’t much back to say. She didn’t then text me at all for the rest do the night and vice versa. I won’t lie I was sh*t faced and just having a good night. Nothing untoward happened with anyone, didn’t interact much with the girl she didn’t like other than one convo as she was on my table and we had a photo that I put my arm around her shoulders for. I knew she would see the photo as I knew she would be stalking the Instagram of this girl. I had nothing to hide it was innocent but potentially short sighted and insensitive which I can accept and have said I’ll never put my arm around someone that has a crush on me. In the time we weren’t speaking she was crying for hours telling her friends I had ignored her. I see that I text her at some point and then neither of us text and feel that you tell ppl your being ignored if you haven’t also tried to speak to someone…..is that fair or am I insensitive? Her friends have then been b****ing about me, threatening to get in touch with me and photoshopping pics of me into the group chat putting a dick on my head and it all jst feels really childish… I just feel like if she had text me and said are you ok or how’s your night then she would have known I wasn’t ignoring her. Equally I could have text more but it’s just seems a lot…… is this all my fault ? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 8, 2021 Share Posted November 8, 2021 55 minutes ago, Goingmad21 said: photoshopping pics of me into the group chat putting a dick on my head. Why would you send texts like that to her, then expect her to host you at her place? Get off the group chat. Sounds like you all have a rowdy sense of humor. Choose another zoom filter such as a unicorn 🦄 where this photoshop thing wouldn't be that noticable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Goingmad21 Posted November 8, 2021 Author Share Posted November 8, 2021 36 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Why would you send texts like that to her, then expect her to host you at her place? Get off the group chat. Sounds like you all have a rowdy sense of humor. Choose another zoom filter such as a unicorn 🦄 where this photoshop thing wouldn't be that noticable. I didn’t put any pics of my gf anywhere her mates did it on my pics in their group chat…. Largely irrelevant tbh I just thought it was childish. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 8, 2021 Share Posted November 8, 2021 2 hours ago, Goingmad21 said: Is this all my fault ? YES. Pretty much. Have you heard from her since? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Goingmad21 Posted November 8, 2021 Author Share Posted November 8, 2021 3 minutes ago, elaine567 said: YES. Pretty much. Have you heard from her since? Yeah we spoke since, she says it’s all my fault as well but can you explain why. For example my take is that if you don’t message someone then how are they ignoring you? Does that mean she was also ignoring me since she didn’t text me? Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted November 8, 2021 Share Posted November 8, 2021 (edited) 6 hours ago, Goingmad21 said: Her friends have then been b****ing about me, threatening to get in touch with me and photoshopping pics of me into the group chat putting a dick on my head and it all jst feels really childish… I must admit that this made me giggle. So you're drinking and want to upload images of a bunch of you with a woman who has previously tried it "on with you." It appears like you were attempting to elicit a reaction from your girlfriend. Edited November 8, 2021 by Alpaca 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 8, 2021 Share Posted November 8, 2021 3 hours ago, Goingmad21 said: Yeah we spoke since, she says it’s all my fault as well but can you explain why. For example my take is that if you don’t message someone then how are they ignoring you? Does that mean she was also ignoring me since she didn’t text me? Hint: it has nothing to do with the texting... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Goingmad21 Posted November 9, 2021 Author Share Posted November 9, 2021 17 hours ago, Alpaca said: I must admit that this made me giggle. So you're drinking and want to upload images of a bunch of you with a woman who has previously tried it "on with you." It appears like you were attempting to elicit a reaction from your girlfriend. Once again nope, the other girl took and uploaded the photo. My mrs was stalking her Instagram. I didn’t take the photo, didn’t initiate the photo, I just smiled had the photo and carried on with the night. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 9, 2021 Share Posted November 9, 2021 3 minutes ago, Goingmad21 said: My mrs was stalking her Instagram. . So the penis on the head thing made her into your wife? Just curious if the head is yours, who's junk was photoshopped onto your head?🤕 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Goingmad21 Posted November 9, 2021 Author Share Posted November 9, 2021 17 hours ago, elaine567 said: Hint: it has nothing to do with the texting... We’ll she says it is so is she lying for fun? Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted November 9, 2021 Share Posted November 9, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, Goingmad21 said: Once again nope, the other girl took and uploaded the photo. My mrs was stalking her Instagram. I didn’t take the photo, didn’t initiate the photo, I just smiled had the photo and carried on with the night. Maybe that wasn't your intention but that's how it reads. 19 hours ago, Alpaca said: It appears like you were attempting to elicit a reaction from your girlfriend. Edited November 9, 2021 by Alpaca Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2021 Share Posted November 9, 2021 OK fix it...text her more often, especially when you go out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted November 9, 2021 Share Posted November 9, 2021 2 hours ago, smackie9 said: OK fix it...text her more often, especially when you go out. That or just photoshop female junk on top of her head. 😅 Link to post Share on other sites
seapebbles Posted November 9, 2021 Share Posted November 9, 2021 It is a waste of time trying to figure out who is at fault and finger-pointing. It always takes two. Your concern should be that your girlfriend, a woman that you love, is upset about something that you presumably did or did not do. Maybe it has to do with the lack of texting, or maybe it has to do with the other girl. Without blaming or finger-pointing from either of you, get to the bottom of what triggered her to become upset. If it's something that the two of you can fix and live with great, if not then perhaps you are not a match. Best 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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