Firstlady07 Posted November 9, 2021 Share Posted November 9, 2021 So I just realized that my ex has been watching my stories. We aren't friends on Facebook so the only way he could see it is if he went directly to my page or saw it on messenger possibly. We haven't spoken in like 3 months. After realizing he watched my last 2 stories (sometimes messenger will tell you who has viewed it that's how I found out) I went back to look at my viewers on other stories and it seems 80% of the time I have 1 other viewer and I'm pretty sure it's him. I don't understand that! Why? I don't even go on his page! On a side note I've edited my story privacy so he can no longer see it. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 9, 2021 Share Posted November 9, 2021 3 minutes ago, Firstlady07 said: So I just realized that my ex has been watching my stories. . We haven't spoken in like 3 months. Ok once you break up it's best to delete and block him and ALL his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps...for this reason. Is this the same man?: Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted November 10, 2021 Share Posted November 10, 2021 It's because some people are just crazy and lie to themselves about the truth of why a relationship will end. They say it's over, and they hate you, and all of that.... but then they just can't let go. My exW found me here during our divorce, and said what I was writing was all a lie. My comment back (in real life) was.... "Why would I lie to a group of strangers when I was looking for help?" It's been 3 years since I first heard "I don't love you, and I fear for my life" from her.... but she still looks at what I write here. At first, I was being careful about what I would write because I just wanted to keep the peace. We have 2 kids, and we have to communicate almost daily about the kids. But eventually I just went back to writing what I was feeling. The reason is... This was my place to heal... and if people don't like what I'm writing.... oh well. LOL. With that said... since we do have kids, I didn't "Unfriend" my exW from FB because I don't post much there. But if I do post about the kids... I want her to be able to see what her kids are doing. AND... I try to be thoughtful about those posts. So... If I'm at the local amusement park with my kids... I will post pictures of the kids without me in them. That way... if she wants to save a picture or two... she can. I guess the main point is... Stop worrying about what you post and if your ex can see it. That person is no longer a functional part of your life, and (to me) it's the same as any other stranger being able to see something. Not to mention... you worrying about it means you haven't let go either. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 10, 2021 Share Posted November 10, 2021 Just for something to do. They are watching others stories too. Don't read so much into it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Firstlady07 Posted November 11, 2021 Author Share Posted November 11, 2021 On 11/9/2021 at 10:43 AM, Wiseman2 said: Ok once you break up it's best to delete and block him and ALL his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps...for this reason. Is this the same man?: Yes it is Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted November 14, 2021 Share Posted November 14, 2021 (edited) It's a way of still being connected to you even though you have broken it off for him that is Edited November 14, 2021 by Goodguy05 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 15, 2021 Share Posted November 15, 2021 I think On 11/9/2021 at 11:38 AM, Firstlady07 said: On a side note I've edited my story privacy so he can no longer see it. How can he read them if it's private? Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted November 15, 2021 Share Posted November 15, 2021 Sometimes you accidentally view someones story if you are just watching them roll through. I did that last night to my exs...and I was SO mad hahaha Normally avoid it like the plague. He probably thinks I care now haha Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted November 16, 2021 Share Posted November 16, 2021 Well just to know what they are upto. And many times how they are doing without you in their lives. I m over my ex but I want her to feel the pain I did so I watch her stories and waiting to see her fall lol. It's way more complicated and there's not one answer to this. If you are done and have made mind not to keep him in life don't pay much attention to that. You can block him as you move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Firstlady07 Posted November 20, 2021 Author Share Posted November 20, 2021 On 11/15/2021 at 10:07 AM, stillafool said: I think How can he read them if it's private? I was saying I changed my story privacy after I notice he's been watching them. He can no longer watch them because we are not friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Firstlady07 Posted November 20, 2021 Author Share Posted November 20, 2021 On 11/15/2021 at 10:31 AM, JRabbit said: Sometimes you accidentally view someones story if you are just watching them roll through. I did that last night to my exs...and I was SO mad hahaha Normally avoid it like the plague. He probably thinks I care now haha I know what you mean but we are not friends on Facebook so it doesn't pop up on his timeline or while he's looking at other stories. Link to post Share on other sites
Girl Fade Away Posted November 20, 2021 Share Posted November 20, 2021 (edited) @Firstlady07 I can only speak for me and when I follow an ex on SM and read their stories it is because I am not 100% over them yet and reading helps me stay connected to them in some strange way even though I know it is not healthy. I do not follow or have any interest in reading other people's stories day in and day out like I do with an ex I am still interested in. Even when in a new relationship I have done this. I have read old messages too. It is not healthy but it is what it is as they say.. Edited November 20, 2021 by Girl Fade Away 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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