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I work at a hospital, I'm not a nurse or anything like that, I'm just in a non clinical role. Occasionally, I do see fairly young doctors or maybe medical students in those greys anatomy scrubs when I eat lunch. Is there such a thing as them dating in the workplace? Or how would I know they are single? I'm assuming the young guys are still single or the ones that are still in school.

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Yes, there is such a thing as dating in the workplace, but some workplaces do have rules against this.  You would have to determine whether it is acceptable where you are.

Don't assume that anyone is single.   The way to have a chance in dating anybody is to be friendly and get to know them.   That said, if you date someone and things sour, can you be civil and respectful with someone who has a complicated history with you? 

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19 minutes ago, Sunnydays1111 said:

I work at a hospital, I'm not a nurse or anything like that, I'm just in a non clinical role.  when I eat lunch. 

Strike up a friendly conversation in the lunch/break room.

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1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said:

Strike up a friendly conversation in the lunch/break room.

What kind of random conversation could I strike up without looking weird? I'm actually waiting for one of the guys to approach me and start a convo. I imagine everyone there will be friendly since its at a hospital, so being just friendly and romantically interested there is no way of knowing.

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When you interact with someone as part of your job, throw in some conversation.  Such as "have you got anything planned for the weekend?"

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well, i'm waiting for someone to start a convo with me b/c that shows me they are interested. I mean, I can't just strike up a convo with anyone- I wouldn't have a clue on their status, I mean what if they are taken? I want to be the one to be approached. sure, I can ask a random question but really...what if they are just being friendly?

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29 minutes ago, Sunnydays1111 said:

well, i'm waiting for someone to start a convo with me b/c that shows me they are interested.

Starting a conversation with you may mean they are interested, but more likely it means they are being friendly.  

29 minutes ago, Sunnydays1111 said:

I mean, I can't just strike up a convo with anyone- I wouldn't have a clue on their status, I mean what if they are taken? I want to be the one to be approached. sure, I can ask a random question but really...what if they are just being friendly?

What's wrong with being friendly?  Getting on well with people at work makes you day nicer.  And you might find that one becomes interested.  Or not.  But it's kind of weird to only speak to workmates who you view as a potential romantic interest. 

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In one of my previous jobs I would always greet one of the security guards-I was in no way interested or even attracted to him, I was just being civil and friendly, anyway, one day he asked me if I was single, turns out he was interested in me, and this was all because I was the one the initiated the "good morning" routine, which in his mind gave him the green light to ask my marital status.

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1 hour ago, Sunnydays1111 said:

, one day he asked me if I was single, turns out he was interested in me, 

Did he ask you out? 

Keep in mind many people don't want to date at work because they don't want drama.

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21 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Did he ask you out? 

Keep in mind many people don't want to date at work because they don't want drama.

yeah he asked me out. and who cares about drama? I know a TON of people that have met at work and gotten in long term relationships. Either one will quit their jobs to find a better opportunity elsewhere of have different career goals in mind

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Ha , l've always thought they all dated anyway,hospitals are a smorgasbord how could you not. Ex w was a nurse and half of them wound up marrying somebody at work.

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On 11/16/2021 at 4:01 PM, Sunnydays1111 said:

In one of my previous jobs I would always greet one of the security guards-I was in no way interested or even attracted to him, I was just being civil and friendly, anyway, one day he asked me if I was single, turns out he was interested in me, and this was all because I was the one the initiated the "good morning" routine, which in his mind gave him the green light to ask my marital status.

So you're not being friendly to others because one guy in the past asked your marital status?   

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19 hours ago, Sunnydays1111 said:

 who cares about drama? 

The doctors do. Also keep in mind there are plenty of other female employees who might also be looking to date a doctor.

If they are not coming up to you, they're not interested in dating for whatever reason whether you're flippant about dating at work drama or not.

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16 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

The doctors do. Also keep in mind there are plenty of other female employees who might also be looking to date a doctor.

If they are not coming up to you, they're not interested in dating for whatever reason whether you're flippant about dating at work drama or not.

My cousin who is the "beauty" of our family and only has a high school diploma worked in the gift shop at a hospital.  One of the surgeons took one look at her 20 years ago and swept her off her feet.  They are now happily married with 3 kids.  If they want you nothing is going to stop them from approaching.

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On 11/14/2021 at 1:47 PM, Sunnydays1111 said:

I work at a hospital, I'm not a nurse or anything like that, I'm just in a non clinical role. Occasionally, I do see fairly young doctors or maybe medical students in those greys anatomy scrubs when I eat lunch. Is there such a thing as them dating in the workplace? Or how would I know they are single? I'm assuming the young guys are still single or the ones that are still in school.

Have you not seen Grey's Anatomy or Scrubs?  The hospital is teeming with opportunities for romance. 

I'm being a bit facetious, but not really that much.  Those professionals spend long hours in the hospital, they don't have a lot of time to date, so they meet a lot of their romantic partners in the hospital.

Find one that likes you, and that you like.  There's no secret strategy to date doctors.

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