Author Gaeta Posted November 24, 2021 Author Share Posted November 24, 2021 40 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said: Do you do your own searches / browse profiles? Or do you only select from the men that have messaged you? I browse around, if I like a profile I give it a like. This way the man will notice my profile and if he likes it he will write to me. I do not initiate a message to men. I pick among men that message me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alvi Posted November 24, 2021 Share Posted November 24, 2021 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: Of course not. Nothing happen, I was never sure I was attracted but knowing myself, I can grow attraction in a few dates if the right qualities are there, I accepted that 2nd date. Why not accept a third date with him and see what happens? Unless you find him totally repulsive. After all, you are only dating him, you are not in a relationship with him. 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: Badoo or FB dating. Badoo is horrendous. You would not believe how many times I was asked to be a third for a couple. Or how many guys messaged me, going on and on and on about how they only want a short term thing, lol. Quite a few list their relationship status as "it's complicated" or "open." Not sure what that is all about, but I am pretty sure they are not single. One guy asked me to come to his place and when I said no to that he asked me for money. Guessing he was going to rob me if I actually came to his place? Men are quite surprised when I respond to that I am only looking for a long term. I can go on and on about that site but based on my experiences with that site, I don't believe anybody that actually wants a honest long term relationship is using that site. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted November 24, 2021 Author Share Posted November 24, 2021 13 minutes ago, Alvi said: Badoo is horrendous. Are you in the US? I heard it's bad elsewhere but here, in my Province, it's pretty acceptable. I did not come across indecent proposals like you're describing. Link to post Share on other sites
Alvi Posted November 24, 2021 Share Posted November 24, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: Are you in the US? I heard it's bad elsewhere but here, in my Province, it's pretty acceptable. I did not come across indecent proposals like you're describing. Nope, I am in Canada. Maybe men in my province are weird or not that interested in anything serious, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted November 25, 2021 Author Share Posted November 25, 2021 Aaaaawwwww he just invited me for dinner at his place when l return from my trip...l don't know what to dooooo!! Aarrgghh!! Link to post Share on other sites
Girl Fade Away Posted November 25, 2021 Share Posted November 25, 2021 15 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Aaaaawwwww he just invited me for dinner at his place when l return from my trip...l don't know what to dooooo!! Aarrgghh!! Do you think he follows the "3-date rule" if you know what I mean? Dinner at his? Hmmm.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted November 25, 2021 Author Share Posted November 25, 2021 (edited) He might not be so beta after all. I asked him if he talks often to his ex and he said yes but they're just friends and he added it ended 3 months ago....l reminded him Saturday he told me it's been 7 weeks, he said yes but they had not touched in 3 months so it's like it ended 3 months ago......l said no, sorry it's not how we calculate the end of a relationship. Edited November 25, 2021 by Gaeta Link to post Share on other sites
Alvi Posted November 25, 2021 Share Posted November 25, 2021 47 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Aaaaawwwww he just invited me for dinner at his place when l return from my trip...l don't know what to dooooo!! Aarrgghh!! Counteroffer with a dinner at a restaurant and see what he says. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Uruktopi Posted November 25, 2021 Share Posted November 25, 2021 (edited) 14 minutes ago, Gaeta said: ... he said yed but they had not touched in 3 months so it's like it ended 3 months ago......l said no, sorry it's not how we calculate the end of a relationship. I appologize for taking this with some bitter humor. I´ve just used his above said criteria with my first LTR and resulted that we got divorced earlier than gettting married. Edited November 25, 2021 by Uruktopi 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CollinW Posted November 25, 2021 Share Posted November 25, 2021 15 hours ago, Gaeta said: I browse around, if I like a profile I give it a like. This way the man will notice my profile and if he likes it he will write to me. I do not initiate a message to men. I pick among men that message me. How is that working out for you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted November 25, 2021 Author Share Posted November 25, 2021 5 hours ago, CollinW said: How is that working out for you? I never run out of dates. Link to post Share on other sites
CollinW Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 On 11/25/2021 at 5:58 AM, Gaeta said: I never run out of dates. Is your goal in life to have a supply of endless dates? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
seapebbles Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 On 11/24/2021 at 7:57 PM, Gaeta said: He might not be so beta after all. I asked him if he talks often to his ex and he said yes but they're just friends and he added it ended 3 months ago....l reminded him Saturday he told me it's been 7 weeks, he said yes but they had not touched in 3 months so it's like it ended 3 months ago......l said no, sorry it's not how we calculate the end of a relationship. I'd be totally suspicious of this one. I went out on a few dates with a man who told me he had been in an in-house separation from his wife for 4 years later to find out he had a two-year-old son 🤔 2 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 lf he was legit then that's one of the big reasons they were still living together , their son. Separating is horrific on young kids , any kids,and the father to as he's the one that usually doesn't get to live with his own child anymore. A lot of break ups do try to do this , we even thought about it. Just sayin , but not that l'd deny there are also probably a million guys out there just spinning this stuff to play on the side. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 @Gaeta Any updates?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted November 30, 2021 Author Share Posted November 30, 2021 11 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: @Gaeta Any updates?? Hello, I am back this morning. I was away 5 days. I did not hear from him at all and it's ok, I didn't think of him at all while I was gone. I don't know if I should send him a text that I do not wish to continue or just not contact him at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 15 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I don't know if I should send him a text that I do not wish to continue or just not contact him at all. Since he did "try" to plan the next date (dinner at his house), I think you should send a text or e-mail that you don't wish to continue to see him. You don't owe him any explanation, but don't let him think he is still in the running. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted November 30, 2021 Author Share Posted November 30, 2021 On 11/28/2021 at 5:45 PM, CollinW said: Is your goal in life to have a supply of endless dates? If you have a suggestion I am listening. Link to post Share on other sites
Girl Fade Away Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 Hi Gaeta, hope you enjoyed your trip! Re this guy, if me, I would do nothing. You're no longer interested and I gather he isn't either since he has not reached out in 5 days. In my experience an interested man would have stayed in touch, a text saying hi, something, while you were gone. If he reaches out about the dinner, politely decline. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Girl Fade Away Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Gaeta said: If you have a suggestion I am listening. My opinion is continue doing what you are doing! When I first read @CollinW post, my first thought was quality over quantity. Screen better and longer and only meet men you feel feel a connection with, as much as you can feel a connection on line. Strive for Quality. But then I thought it's a numbers game, right? Quantity. The more men you meet, the greater the chances of clicking with one. So soldier on! Enjoy. Edited November 30, 2021 by Girl Fade Away 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 4 minutes ago, Girl Fade Away said: ...I gather he isn't either since he has not reached out in 5 days. He knew she was on vacation for 5 days. If someone is on vacation, I would tend not to bother them with a "Hi" text and let them enjoy their trip/adventure/vacation. Its very early in the dating stages and you don't want to send the message that you are needy & require constant attention. Years ago, I had just started dating this woman, but had a trip planned with some of my buddies. I told her about my trip and she left me alone and let me enjoy my time out of town. I brought her back a T-shirt from the event, which she thought was both cute and thoughtful. I don't think it would require all that much effort to fire off an e-mail that you are back in town, but no longer wish to date this gentleman. Seems like the decent thing to do. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 It seems he made a suggestion about dinner prior so I would have replied that while it was a pleasure meeting, I don't see this progressing and to wish him the best. I would not have left it until after the trip, ie now. I don't like the idea of someone thinking there's a dinner potentially pending or having the wrong idea somewhere out there so I would follow up, personally, and tell him that I don't see this progressing. It's up to you but I wouldn't prolong this or drag it out if it's not for you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted November 30, 2021 Author Share Posted November 30, 2021 Before I left there was a little part of me thinking maybe on my return I'll feel more motivated to accept his invitation but our last exchange before my trip disappointed me, he's not empathetic at all and I don't want to date someone like that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Girl Fade Away Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 8 minutes ago, glows said: It seems he made a suggestion about dinner prior so I would have replied that while it was a pleasure meeting, I don't see this progressing and to wish him the best. I would not have left it until after the trip, ie now. I don't like the idea of someone thinking there's a dinner potentially pending or having the wrong idea somewhere out there so I would follow up, personally, and tell him that I don't see this progressing. It's up to you but I wouldn't prolong this or drag it out if it's not for you. Fair points but it has been nearly a week, he may have met someone else and may even be dating someone else. So a bit presumptuous to assume he is still interested especially given he has not made any effort to stay in touch. Gaeta, how did you leave it before you left? Did you tell him you would let him know when you got back? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Uruktopi Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: I didn't think of him at all while I was gone This is IMO enough basis for deciding about. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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