So I think I might have been rejected?

[Wiseman2]

On 12/7/2021 at 12:02 PM, Alpaca said:

Well, she mentioned that all of them were clingy.

That may be a red flag, or not.

But, yes, enjoy the cute little love bubble-bae time. 

It's still early days. 

 

 

 

Agree

[Sgthaytham]

She just sent me a photo of her wearing deep violet lipstick with the caption "you're missing this too"

Jesus...

[Alpacalia]

3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Agree

That's why you need to open the Emoji-Man Cafe. 

👨  = 🍡🍩🍪🍬☕️🍴🍰🥳

[Grey40]

9 hours ago, Sgthaytham said:

She just sent me a photo of her wearing deep violet lipstick with the caption "you're missing this too"

Jesus...

You’re def not rejected. Lol. These are great signs and you made the right move not meeting her out with friends. Too soon for that. If she’s not willing to meet you out one on one then she’s either very scared or inexperienced or isn’t taking you seriously in terms of potential relationship material.

 

Let’s see if she keeps that Friday date.

[Sgthaytham]

3 hours ago, Grey40 said:

You’re def not rejected. Lol. These are great signs and you made the right move not meeting her out with friends. Too soon for that. If she’s not willing to meet you out one on one then she’s either very scared or inexperienced or isn’t taking you seriously in terms of potential relationship material.

 

Let’s see if she keeps that Friday date.

So far she's kept every single one on one date. But of course I will wait to see Friday 

I set up a date once a week, or whenever she gets in touch, and we usually meet up. 

I had things planned yesterday with some of my friends. I didn't want to end up cancelling on them a second time. Plus I agree it's far too early for group dates. 

[Wiseman2]

17 minutes ago, Sgthaytham said:

So far she's kept every single one on one date. But of course I will wait to see Friday 

I set up a date once a week, or whenever she gets in touch, and we usually meet up. 

I had things planned yesterday with some of my friends. I didn't want to end up cancelling on them a second time. Plus I agree it's far too early for group dates. 

 

18 minutes ago, Sgthaytham said:

 it's far too early for group dates. 

Why do you think starting to introduce each other's friends is "far to early". Do you want to stay stalled in hooking up or take this somewhere?

[Sgthaytham]

50 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

 

Why do you think starting to introduce each other's friends is "far to early". Do you want to stay stalled in hooking up or take this somewhere?

Because I want to get to know her of course. These are the early stages of dating. 

[mortensorchid]

Communication is the key to any good relationship.  PERIOD.  So what you are to do next is to ask her directly - you were thinking of this date / time / place for you to next get together, is that good for her?  However she responds to that, that's your answer. 

 

[ASG]

18 hours ago, Sgthaytham said:

Because I want to get to know her of course. These are the early stages of dating. 

But going out with her and her friends is also getting to know her. 

We tend to be a bit different in one on one and group situations. 

Getting to know both sides, and how she interacts with her friends is a good thing as well. 

But you had plans and that's 100% valid. You shouldn't drop everything whenever she reaches out, either! 

[Sgthaytham]

2 hours ago, ASG said:

But going out with her and her friends is also getting to know her. 

We tend to be a bit different in one on one and group situations. 

Getting to know both sides, and how she interacts with her friends is a good thing as well. 

But you had plans and that's 100% valid. You shouldn't drop everything whenever she reaches out, either! 

I agree, I just feel that the first stages of dating should be one on one. 

Ive already met some of her friends, most of who are my friends too. 

[Sgthaytham]

So I had set this date up with her about 10 days ago 

She texted me today saying that she's trying to save money for this Christmas dinner (I'm invited too).

So she asked if I would prefer to come over and she'd cook me dinner and we can have drinks and watch a movie instead.

Should I insist that we go out and that I can pay for it?

[glows]

3 hours ago, Sgthaytham said:

So I had set this date up with her about 10 days ago 

She texted me today saying that she's trying to save money for this Christmas dinner (I'm invited too).

So she asked if I would prefer to come over and she'd cook me dinner and we can have drinks and watch a movie instead.

Should I insist that we go out and that I can pay for it?

This isn’t very clear. Is she inviting other people to the dinner she’s saving money for? 

What does she mean “would you prefer to come over and she’d cook…”. This is a separate occasion or ?

Take her out if you like. Why do you hesitate for one second? 

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, Sgthaytham said:

She texted me today saying that she's trying to save money for this Christmas dinner (I'm invited too). So she asked if I would prefer to come over and she'd cook me dinner and we can have drinks and watch a movie instead.

Bring drinks and groceries. Help cook and clean up.

[Girl Fade Away]

4 hours ago, Sgthaytham said:

Should I insist that we go out and that I can pay for it?

No don't 'insist' that sounds controlling.  Since she's saving money for the upcoming Christmas dinner, 'suggest' dinner out and say "my treat."   

I am honestly stunned you are even asking this question tbh.  It's such a natural thing to do, to take your girlfriend out and pay or offer to pay if in the past you've gone Dutch. 

Do you think she might be offended if you suggest dinner out and you'd like to treat her?  

I am honestly confused by this. 

Edited December 18, 2021 by Girl Fade Away

[Alpacalia]

6 hours ago, Sgthaytham said:

Should I insist that we go out and that I can pay for it?

I'm wondering what's behind this odd behavior.

Why the hesitance?

I mean, home dates are totally cool once in awhile... 

Edited December 18, 2021 by Alpaca

[jdesey]

Don’t be wishy-washy about things. Women want guys that can make plans and take action. Tell her you want to take her out on a very specific day and time. You pick her up at her place like a real date and yes for god sake‘s you pay for it that shouldn’t even be a question

[Sgthaytham]

This weekend was just bliss. 

Went to hers on Saturday night, had excellent food and I made her an apple crumble. 

Sunday she invites me over to one of her friend's birthday party. 

We're seeing eachother again soon for a Christmas dinner and she has invited me over for Christmas Eve night too because she wants to spend it with me. 

Things couldn't be any better imho

[ASG]

1 hour ago, Sgthaytham said:

This weekend was just bliss. 

Went to hers on Saturday night, had excellent food and I made her an apple crumble. 

Sunday she invites me over to one of her friend's birthday party. 

We're seeing eachother again soon for a Christmas dinner and she has invited me over for Christmas Eve night too because she wants to spend it with me. 

Things couldn't be any better imho

You said you are in Portugal, but are you Portuguese? Is she? 

Because Christmas Eve is a BIG DEAL (tm) if you are actually portuguese (or from most continental European countries, really), so that could be a very big sign! 

[Sgthaytham]

2 hours ago, ASG said:

You said you are in Portugal, but are you Portuguese? Is she? 

Because Christmas Eve is a BIG DEAL (tm) if you are actually portuguese (or from most continental European countries, really), so that could be a very big sign! 

Im French. She's from Brazil. 

I mean Christmas Eve is a pretty big deal for us too 

[ASG]

50 minutes ago, Sgthaytham said:

Im French. She's from Brazil. 

I mean Christmas Eve is a pretty big deal for us too 

Indeed. 

 

But you could be from somewhere that focus celebrations on Christmas day. 

I'd say that's a pretty good sign things are going well. 

[Sgthaytham]

1 hour ago, ASG said:

Indeed. 

 

But you could be from somewhere that focus celebrations on Christmas day. 

I'd say that's a pretty good sign things are going well. 

And I agree, things are going pretty seamlessly. 

I'm very much into cute physical gestures, and she does it quite often. Anything from resting her hand on my thigh if we're sat next to eachother or resting her head on my shoulder. 

I usually wait until she starts touching, and mirror what she does. 

Sometimes she'll stop, and so will I, but she'll come back again a little while later. 

Its really fun. 

[Sgthaytham]

Right so she invited me over last night for Christmas dinner. It was lovely. 

She even brought me a present. Nothing big, she gave me a beanie had that I had mentioned a couple weeks ago. 

[Gaeta]

On 12/25/2021 at 9:24 AM, Sgthaytham said:

Right so she invited me over last night for Christmas dinner. It was lovely. 

She even brought me a present. Nothing big, she gave me a beanie had that I had mentioned a couple weeks ago. 

It's really nice to see it's working for you Sgthaytham. 

[Sgthaytham]

5 hours ago, Gaeta said:

It's really nice to see it's working for you Sgthaytham. 

Thanks, I really appreciate that comment Gaeta. 

I know it’s early days and all, and I still kind of have my guard up… but I can’t describe how happy and comfortable I feel when we’re together. 
 

This Christmas was perfect. 
 

Her birthday is coming up in January, and I have an idea, but it might be a bit forward. 
 

She has a cat that she adores. I noticed she hasn’t got pictures of it in her room. So I was thinking of drawing/painting it on a small canvas for her. 
 

what do you think?

[ASG]

On 12/27/2021 at 8:01 PM, Sgthaytham said:

Thanks, I really appreciate that comment Gaeta. 

I know it’s early days and all, and I still kind of have my guard up… but I can’t describe how happy and comfortable I feel when we’re together. 
 

This Christmas was perfect. 
 

Her birthday is coming up in January, and I have an idea, but it might be a bit forward. 
 

She has a cat that she adores. I noticed she hasn’t got pictures of it in her room. So I was thinking of drawing/painting it on a small canvas for her. 
 

what do you think?

 I think it's a really nice gesture. I'm sure she'll appreciate it!