Not even sure how this happened

[Ohdare]

Decisions to go or not?

So, I kind of all ready know the most likely answer might be but have to ask anyway. We are both in our 40’s m/f relationship. Partner (ex)  is out of the country for work coming back in two weeks. We own a house together been married 3 years and 2 weeks ago be texted me that it was over. Aside from one short conversation that included telling  him I was picking him from the airport and I would be there. He said not pick him up. I have not contacted him since and have all kinds of feelings.

I want to go the the airport and see if he even looks for me or if he just leaves. Is it bad if I go with the intention of not approaching him if he doesn’t bother to see if I’m around? For me it would help having him not care, the final straw knowing there is no hope. 

What should I do? I know he is not worth the trip, he probably won’t look for me but I just feel the validation of this will have me move on and close that chapter. 

Your thoughts and kindness please.

[Wiseman2]

6 hours ago, Ohdare said:

. We own a house together been married 3 years and 2 weeks ago be texted me that it was over. 

You need to contact an attorney. You can't dissolve a marriage over text.

Do not pick him up at the airport. 

Is he having affairs? Has he threaten divorce before?

There's something missing from this story if your spouse texts you that the marriage is over and you're concerned about airport transportation.

[glows]

I'd think of this as more or less one of the defining moments in handling a break up. If you can practice some self-discipline and refuse the urge to see him or check on him like that or look for signs that he does or doesn't care for you, it will make acceptance much easier in the long run. He already told you that the marriage is over and he doesn't want you there but you're in denial. The reality to absorb right now is that it's over. Going to airport is not accepting that it's over. The act itself is an act of denial. 

Be kind to yourself and stay home, call a friend to come over and keep you company. Or, visit a friend and ask for their company that day if it's difficult to think straight. Call a friend or family member on the phone if you need to talk with someone if you can't meet for that immediate time period. When you're more calm, start thinking about talking with a lawyer in private about the dissolution of the marriage and what your options are.