mark clemson Posted November 23, 2021 Share Posted November 23, 2021 (edited) On 11/22/2021 at 5:02 AM, Gail1165 said: We have been very careful but it's different than it was before and I was just curious if people have made this work. There are indeed women out there who are content in an OW role. I think it takes a certain type of personality where you are comfortable with the other person not being around as much and perhaps a bit of "addiction" to (or at least enjoyment of and willingness to roll with) the highs and lows. That's not a judgement call, just stating what I believe to be a fact. If that's really you, then yes you could continue it. Just keep in mind that, as you state, it's unlikely that he will leave and so you might (continue to) spend many years of your life engaged in this but with never "winning him" in the end. You are an adult and can make your own decisions, so if that prospect is ok with you and this is really what you want, you seem to already be doing it - it seems you could just continue to do what you've been doing. Any true LTR is going to have ups and downs and "phases" due to variations in circumstance and as people change over time, etc. The question you really need to ask yourself IMO is - is this the LTR you actually want. Edited November 23, 2021 by mark clemson Link to post Share on other sites
Prudence V Posted November 24, 2021 Share Posted November 24, 2021 On 11/22/2021 at 7:00 AM, Gail1165 said: Has anyone successfully had a long term relationship with a married person without getting caught? As I understand it, you have already been caught: On 11/22/2021 at 1:02 PM, Gail1165 said: I actually have experienced Ddays before. With him. Years ago. Several times being caught but always getting back together. Are you worried that next time it will be different? That his BW will leave, and that he will pressure you for a F/T R, which you are not in a position to undertake? Or is there some other concern here? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 24, 2021 Share Posted November 24, 2021 1 minute ago, Prudence V said: Are you worried that next time it will be different? That his BW will leave, It doesn’t sound like it. It’s sounds to me like she is quite comfortable that there will be no consequence if/when they are caught again… Which, perhaps, emboldens them to continue. Quote He says if she finds out again she will leave but she didn't before so I doubt that Link to post Share on other sites
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