Sugarkane2 Posted October 13, 2021 Share Posted October 13, 2021 5 hours ago, stillafool said: Maybe your father is going to have to use whatever money you were expecting towards taking care of your kids and that is why he isn't going to sell the car. You never said why you lost custody of your children. No it’s not. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted October 14, 2021 Share Posted October 14, 2021 (edited) On 10/12/2021 at 9:03 PM, Sugarkane2 said: I’ve read the court report many times and I don’t understand it. Then you need to hire a lawyer to explain it to you. This is your child - I can understand that the court report is difficult to understand but this sound like another excuse… You need to take responsibility for yourself and your children. It starts by seeking the advice of someone who can explain the report to you. Edited October 14, 2021 by BaileyB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted October 14, 2021 Share Posted October 14, 2021 23 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said: Well if that’s the case why not just give an explanation instead of gaslighting me and calling me a liar? What kind of an explanation could he offer that you would find acceptable? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 14, 2021 Share Posted October 14, 2021 (edited) On 10/13/2021 at 1:03 PM, Sugarkane2 said: I’ve read the court report many times and I don’t understand it. Even before the court report is printed, the judge will make a decision and give their reasons why they made it. Likewise, child services will tell you the reasons why they are taking the child away. Did you have trouble understanding the reasons they gave? I ask this kindly - do you have a learning disability? This could explain why you are so out of your depth. I wonder if an advocate could assist you. Edited October 14, 2021 by basil67 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane2 Posted October 14, 2021 Share Posted October 14, 2021 16 minutes ago, basil67 said: Even before the court report is printed, the judge will make a decision and give their reasons why they made it. Likewise, child services will tell you the reasons why they are taking the child away. Did you have trouble understanding the reasons they gave? I ask this kindly - do you have a learning disability? This could explain why you are so out of your depth. I wonder if an advocate could assist you. No I don’t have a learning disability that I know of. Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted October 14, 2021 Share Posted October 14, 2021 15 hours ago, basil67 said: I wonder if an advocate could assist you. This is my suggestion, too. One thing I do know about CPS is that the goal is ALWAYS reunification. They WANT to keep children with their parents. They are pretty clear and concise about exactly what you need to do to regain custody of your child(ren). They have to provide services to you to help you work your way toward reunification. Please feel free to private message me to let me know where you live and I can help you find a resource that will help you. Like I said, I have been working with children in foster care, as well as another organization that helps strengthen families. I know these same resources exist in your area. You just need to know how to search for them, and I am happy to help you do that. It won't help with your original question involving your father, but maybe it could help you gain the confidence and independence you need to move forward and thrive as a mother and a family. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane2 Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 My. Whole world fell apart. Kept having money problems and my in laws went to court and sued me for custody. Meanwhile my parents went on holiday with their inheritance and bragged about it. Pretty disappointing thing to do to someone. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 Sorry to hear. Given your ongoing animosity towards your father, it sounds like the relationship you have with your parents is broken. While you go saying the things you do about them, they aren't going to be throwing money at you. Sometimes we need to eat humble pie if we are to get assistance from others. I thought that your inlaws already had custody of both children. If not, what exactly are their claims about your parenting? Do you have legal aid? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 9 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said: Meanwhile my parents went on holiday with their inheritance and bragged about it. Pretty disappointing thing to do to someone. Since it's actually their inheritance they can take the money and flush it down the toilet if they want to. It's no one's business but theirs what they do with their money. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane2 Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 4 hours ago, stillafool said: Since it's actually their inheritance they can take the money and flush it down the toilet if they want to. It's no one's business but theirs what they do with their money. It’s the fact that they went on back to back holidays, when I needed help looking for work. Not to mention my brother too Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane2 Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 13 hours ago, basil67 said: Sorry to hear. Given your ongoing animosity towards your father, it sounds like the relationship you have with your parents is broken. While you go saying the things you do about them, they aren't going to be throwing money at you. Sometimes we need to eat humble pie if we are to get assistance from others. I thought that your inlaws already had custody of both children. If not, what exactly are their claims about your parenting? Do you have legal aid? The in laws have custody of one child. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 58 minutes ago, Sugarkane2 said: It’s the fact that they went on back to back holidays, when I needed help looking for work. Not to mention my brother too Looking for work is something one does on their own. How would they be able to help you, if they hadn't gone on holiday? Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane2 Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 1 hour ago, ASG said: Looking for work is something one does on their own. How would they be able to help you, if they hadn't gone on holiday? Help me look for work or help me find some agencies that aren’t a waste of time Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane2 Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 17 hours ago, basil67 said: Sorry to hear. Given your ongoing animosity towards your father, it sounds like the relationship you have with your parents is broken. While you go saying the things you do about them, they aren't going to be throwing money at you. Sometimes we need to eat humble pie if we are to get assistance from others. I thought that your inlaws already had custody of both children. If not, what exactly are their claims about your parenting? Do you have legal aid? That’s the problem -they don’t seem to care Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 (edited) 12 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said: That’s the problem -they don’t seem to care There is nothing you can do about that except focus on your own life and find your own way. Complaining about your parents does nothing to help you solve the problems in your own life. it makes you look like a bitter, entitled, and immature person. It’s not their responsibility to find you a job - it’s yours. Time to get busy looking. Edited November 28, 2021 by BaileyB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 17 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said: It’s the fact that they went on back to back holidays, when I needed help looking for work. Not to mention my brother too Are you parents employment recruiters? If not, you can find your own jobs, there's plenty out there just sign up online with recruiters. It's time to grow up because you are no longer your parents responsibility. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane2 Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 5 hours ago, BaileyB said: There is nothing you can do about that except focus on your own life and find your own way. Complaining about your parents does nothing to help you solve the problems in your own life. it makes you look like a bitter, entitled, and immature person. It’s not their responsibility to find you a job - it’s yours. Time to get busy looking. I think I have every right to be bitter. I’ve had my family destroyed for nothing. My case makes no sense. I’m being treated if I’m like a drug addict or something. My parents wouldn’t like it if I went on holiday if they needed help. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane2 Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 5 hours ago, stillafool said: Are you parents employment recruiters? If not, you can find your own jobs, there's plenty out there just sign up online with recruiters. It's time to grow up because you are no longer your parents responsibility. No they aren’t. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 (edited) 20 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said: Help me look for work or help me find some agencies that aren’t a waste of time The hospitality sector is begging for workers as Australia hasn't had the usual influx of travelers to fill the roles. And I hear they are paying better wages because of the staff shortages too. Meanwhile, I was in Spotlight a few days ago and saw a sign advertising for Christmas casuals. I bet many major stores are doing the same. There is no excuse for being out of work when there are so many unfilled roles. Go door knocking at pubs, bars, cafes and restaurants. Or jump onto Seek Edited November 28, 2021 by basil67 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane2 Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 1 hour ago, basil67 said: The hospitality sector is begging for workers as Australia hasn't had the usual influx of travelers to fill the roles. And I hear they are paying better wages because of the staff shortages too. Meanwhile, I was in Spotlight a few days ago and saw a sign advertising for Christmas casuals. I bet many major stores are doing the same. There is no excuse for being out of work when there are so many unfilled roles. Go door knocking at pubs, bars, cafes and restaurants. Or jump onto Seek Who’s going to look after my 8 month old? Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 47 minutes ago, Sugarkane2 said: Who’s going to look after my 8 month old? Who is going to look after your child if your parents find you a job, as you want? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SoulCat Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 23 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said: Help me look for work or help me find some agencies that aren’t a waste of time You've been an adult for quite some time now, you ought not be asking or relying on your parents or family to help you get a job. You have internet access, you can source employment opportunities and agencies yourself. As for their inheritance, they can do whatever they darn well please with it. Your sense of entitlement is absolutely doing you no favours. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 1 hour ago, Sugarkane2 said: Who’s going to look after my 8 month old? This is a question you need to ask yourself. It is YOUR job to secure a babysitter for your children and to take care of them. Does your husband have a suggestion as to what you guys are going to do? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 1 hour ago, Sugarkane2 said: Who’s going to look after my 8 month old? Here's a suggestion. You get a job working during the day and let the baby's father get one working at night. This way you'll have 24 hour childcare and it won't cost you a dime. See how easy it is to solve these problems. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 What about the cleaning company you and your husband started? Are you still employed there, or did it fail? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts