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basil67 Established Member

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Good for you.

If they don't respond, keep calling.  Do you have a copy of the court documents to show them?

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Sugarkane2 Established Member

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3 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Good for you.

If they don't respond, keep calling.  Do you have a copy of the court documents to show them?

No unfortunately I don’t. 

basil67 Established Member

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OK, so contact the court or the lawyer and get a copy of the court order.

vla1120 Established Member

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7 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

I’ve contacted CPS that I actually need to be living away from parents in order to get back daughter. No answer yet

Did you not get a court order the clearly outlines the requirements to regain custody of your daughter? Any requirements/restrictions should be stated in that court order.

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stillafool Established Member

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7 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

No unfortunately I don’t. 

Why not?

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7 hours ago, vla1120 said:

Did you not get a court order the clearly outlines the requirements to regain custody of your daughter? Any requirements/restrictions should be stated in that court order.

Not really 

stillafool Established Member

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48 minutes ago, Sugarkane2 said:

Not really 

You seem like you don't even care!

Sugarkane2 Established Member

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58 minutes ago, stillafool said:

You seem like you don't even care!

That’s not true at all. 

Sugarkane2 Established Member

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Don’t know what to do my family don’t care and endless arguing that goes no where with my husband.

basil67 Established Member

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You're spending far too much time and effort complaining about your family.  Focus on what's important: getting your child back.

Now, go and figure out how to get a copy of the judge's decision.

Sugarkane2 Established Member

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13 minutes ago, basil67 said:

You're spending far too much time and effort complaining about your family.  Focus on what's important: getting your child back.

Now, go and figure out how to get a copy of the judge's decision.

Well they did completely screw me over when I needed help.

basil67 Established Member

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Is complaining about your family really more important to you than working out how to get your child back?

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ASG Established Member

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9 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

Well they did completely screw me over when I needed help.

Sure. Very sad. 

But is complaining about it gonna help you get your child back?! It's not. 

So put on your big girl pants, get the court document from the court or lawyer or whomever and work on getting your child back. 

stillafool Established Member

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14 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

Don’t know what to do my family don’t care and endless arguing that goes no where with my husband.

This has nothing to do with your not doing YOUR JOB and getting the court documents.  It's your job to get your child back why aren't you doing it?  I feel so sorry for your child.

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On 12/15/2021 at 12:57 PM, basil67 said:

Is complaining about your family really more important to you than working out how to get your child back?

So do I just let him get away with all the lies?

basil67 Established Member

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Yes, you leave it in the past.  I mean, it's not like you can do anything about it.  And stewing on it is just taking your focus away from getting your child back. 

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12 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Yes, you leave it in the past.  I mean, it's not like you can do anything about it.  And stewing on it is just taking your focus away from getting your child back. 

I’m certain he has a personality disorder because of all the large lies.

basil67 Established Member

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I'm not going to enable you in focusing on your father, so I'm not going down that path with you.  

Do you want your child back or not?   What have you done about getting copies of the court decree on how you can do that?

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Sugarkane2 Established Member

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14 minutes ago, basil67 said:

I'm not going to enable you in focusing on your father, so I'm not going down that path with you.  

Do you want your child back or not?   What have you done about getting copies of the court decree on how you can do that?

I want my child back more than anything.

basil67 Established Member

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So this is where your focus must be.   You can't change the past, but you can make the future work for you.

Contact the family court tomorrow and find out how to get a copy of the judge's order. 

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41 minutes ago, basil67 said:

So this is where your focus must be.   You can't change the past, but you can make the future work for you.

Contact the family court tomorrow and find out how to get a copy of the judge's order. 

He’d be verbally abusing me if I had done the same. Guaranteed 

basil67 Established Member

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30 minutes ago, Sugarkane2 said:

He’d be verbally abusing me if I had done the same. Guaranteed 

And again, I'm not enabling you to focus on the past. 

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Sugarkane2 Established Member

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Never did ever get a reason why my in laws sued us and destroyed my family

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Sugarkane2 Established Member

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It’s just endless amounts of arguing that goes no where. What to do?

SoulCat Established Member

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What to do?

You quit the endless, pointless arguing. 

You quit the tit-for-tat accusations and grievances.

You quit relying on your parents for things you ought to take care of yourself.

You quit whinging and whining about all that's 'unfair' in your life.

 

You get pro-active:

You get a job.

You get your life on the rails.

You ask for help from available resources.

When you've done that, and you have a functioning, stable and secure home, you can try to get your child back.

And, if you fail somewhere along the way; you get up, you dust yourself off and you try & try again.

 

But I don't hold out much hope, if I'm honest. You've been here for years bemoaning your fate, while doing nothing of note to make any positive changes. All you do is blame others, specifically your family. But you are an adult, and therefore responsible for your own life.

And this isn't some dress rehearsal, or a practice run. You don't get to have a do-over.

You have one life, it's up to YOU to make the best of it.

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