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[Sun Seeker]

51 minutes ago, Emmajackson said:

He has been messaging me flirting ! Asking to meet up sometime etc !! So I’ve got to decide whether to keep it casual etc with him or just not bother 

You are not making much sense. Didn't you say you were hoping he would change from wanting something casual to something serious?

And now you want to keep it casual? Have you not realised that he's not going to change his mind about you? Sounds like you are just fooling yourself, you miss the attention, and still think by gifting sex, you will make a man want to be serious with you. You could not be more wrong.

[ExpatInItaly]

3 hours ago, Emmajackson said:

He has been messaging me flirting ! Asking to meet up sometime etc !! So I’ve got to decide whether to keep it casual etc with him or just not bother 

I think the very existence of this thread indicates this isn't a realistic approach for you.

Don't fool yourself into thinking you're suddenly going to be okay with this just because he's paying attention to you again.  

[Girl Fade Away]

12 hours ago, Emmajackson said:

He is messaging me on there now saying about meeting up sometime blah blah and loads of kisses on the messages! Men r so confusing 🤣🤣🤣 xx

Did I not tell you he'd be back?  Lol  And he only wants casual, he has made that perfectly clear.  I believe he is also toying with you because he knows you'll bite. 

No it is actually NOT confusing if you'd pay attention.  Nor is it funny.  

I would suggest you next him unless you're up to having your heart ripped into itty bitty shreds.  He is not going to change.  Your call.

Edited November 28, 2021 by Girl Fade Away

[Emmajackson]

16 hours ago, Girl Fade Away said:

Did I not tell you he'd be back?  Lol  And he only wants casual, he has made that perfectly clear.  I believe he is also toying with you because he knows you'll bite. 

No it is actually NOT confusing if you'd pay attention.  Nor is it funny.  

I would suggest you next him unless you're up to having your heart ripped into itty bitty shreds.  He is not going to change.  Your call.

I plan on doing this! He has gone quiet again! He is obviously checking im still around! Once bitten twice shy! It’s going to be hard but I need to heal and this is never going to go anywhere ! Biting is the easy option !! Need to play the hard option for my own mental health x

[glows]

59 minutes ago, Emmajackson said:

I plan on doing this! He has gone quiet again! He is obviously checking im still around! Once bitten twice shy! It’s going to be hard but I need to heal and this is never going to go anywhere ! Biting is the easy option !! Need to play the hard option for my own mental health x

If you are finding it difficult not to respond, OP, there is no shame at all in deleting and blocking someone who no longer serves any other purpose in your life. Move forwards. Take care of your overall health and be around people who do care about you. This person is nothing in the bigger scheme. There's so much better to live for. 

[Lauriebell82]

On 11/27/2021 at 7:02 AM, Emmajackson said:

So I matched with a guy on tinder 6 weeks ago… 2 weeks after chatting ever day we met up and from then it was a whirlwind! Saw each other every weekend for 4 weeks! He made it clear he didn’t want anything serious from day one but I thought that may change! 

Note the bolded part...

I think this is the main problem. Men spell out what they want at the beginning and us women think we can charm the pants off them (literally lol) and they will magically fall at our feet like in a fairy tale or romantic comedy. But rarely does it ever happen that way in real life. He wanted a fling, not a relationship. The minute he saw it turning into that he was out of there. 

My advice is find a guy who very very clearly states at the beginning that he is looking for a serious relationship or a long term relationship. DO NOT try to change a guy's mind or try to turn a casual fling into a serious relationship. It never works. You will save yourself a ton of aggravation! 

[Lauriebell82]

On 11/28/2021 at 3:47 AM, Emmajackson said:

So … I joined bumble and he clicked on wants to meet me on my profile … what’s that about? 🤣🤣🤣

He wants a fling and he figures if you are getting on another dating app then you are probably open to dating multiple people as well (because thats what most online daters do). Perhaps his interest got peeked more for a hookup...not in the direction you are hoping. Just ignore this guy. He likes "the chase" but the minute you show any interest in a real relationship (what you actually do want) he'll be out of the door again. I met many many guys like him when I was doing online dating. Move on!!!!

[Akashsingh]

The guy needs space give him space. he has commitment issues so he dates around. I am exactly like this guys. I have had no relationship for 8 yrs and I like to have space from time to time when I meet someone new.

[stillafool]

On 11/29/2021 at 11:31 AM, Emmajackson said:

Need to play the hard option for my own mental health x

The hard option is to block him and move on.  This guy isn't interested in having a relationship with you.  What else do you need to move on?

[stillafool]

On 11/30/2021 at 3:27 PM, Lauriebell82 said:

He likes "the chase" but the minute you show any interest in a real relationship (what you actually do want) he'll be out of the door again.

I don't even know if it's that he likes the chase in this instance, I just think he likes casual sex with a willing woman of his choice. He doesn't even want to chase.