confused101 Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 someone out there please help ok i love this girl and she loves me we talk all the time on msn ive known her for over 2 months and i love her to pieces but sometimes on msn we never have anything to talk about and ive talked to her about every thing i can think of i have now ran out of ideas because we normally now just talk about the random normaly things e.g. what we did to day and what we are doing later, and another thing is im way way to shy i really want to talk to her on the phone i have her number but im juest scared because my mind will go blank and i will not know what to talk about and she said that she would probaly be shy talking to me on the phone so it would probaly be painful silence for half the time we are talking. its kinda of anoyin because i can talk to her about anything on msn and not be shy about it im not that shy on msn but in person i am im very shy at face to face convosations with people and i can never look at some one in the eye when talking to them i tend to look around e.g behind them, and i am kinda worried that she loves the msn me because im such a different person in real life im real quiet and not out going with girls can some one please help Link to post Share on other sites
AlmostMarried77 Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 i'm like you, i'm pretty quite and I can not make small talk to save my life... mostly this is a side effect from having a stammer from the age of 8. However after many years of experience i know that if i am truely in love with a girl i am never short for words. I can talk about anything and everything with out ever thinking about it. From the sounds of things you're pretty young and more than likely just infatuated with her. See how things go but if you're forcing the conversation then take a reality check and think about what you're doing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused101 Posted October 21, 2005 Author Share Posted October 21, 2005 okay thank you Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 21, 2005 Share Posted October 21, 2005 Ask her questions about her life, upbringing, childhood memories, funny things that happened, future goals, life's embarressing moments, stuff like that. Also, maybe bring up the fact you are shy and would love to talk on the phone sometime, but you're feeling abit self conscious about it. I'm sure she will warm up to you and help you through it, and open up with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused101 Posted October 21, 2005 Author Share Posted October 21, 2005 thanks i didnt think of that and i think she knows im shy Link to post Share on other sites
AlmostMarried77 Posted October 21, 2005 Share Posted October 21, 2005 thanks i didnt think of that and i think she knows im shy do you find it easier or harder to talk to her than your best friend? Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused101 Posted October 22, 2005 Author Share Posted October 22, 2005 way easier but thts only on msn im a really different person on msn i think Link to post Share on other sites
glittergurl Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 Well that's the problem. You have to be yourself on msn; or somehow loosen up and be as spontanious on the phone as you are online. My husband and I met online almost 3 years ago. The secret is being yourself, never try to make yourself seem any different than you really are. From the day we met, my husband and I have not shut up one second. It flows so naturally, it's funny. I was sooo shy on the phone, and I still am; I hate it. But not with my husband. He's the only person I've ever been able to talk to for hours (besides my mother). Why not give it a try? Maybe she's that special kind of person to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused101 Posted October 28, 2005 Author Share Posted October 28, 2005 ok thanks i phoned her the day b4 yesterday it was really good and kinda funny cos after a bit un of us could think of anything to talk about we were both like erm what do you wana talk about,but im glad i phoned her i think i talked her her for just over a hour Link to post Share on other sites
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