IS MY BOYFRIEND LYING 🤥

[Ladylumps655]

My boyfriend and I have only been together for a month. He tells me that the past four girl he’s been with has gone though his phone. That made me curious as to why they didn’t trust him. Then I went though his phone and he has a bunch of girls texting him. He never told me that they were his friends or anything about them. He hides it from me. And he keeps telling me that he never texts them, but then it says yesterday he said sick to this girl about something he delete messages. He doesn’t listen to me when I’m upset and I’m trying to get to the root of the situation. He always tells me I haven’t cheated on you. I haven’t done anything. He says he wants me to trust him but how can I trust him if he still is texting girls. 

[Wiseman2]

8 hours ago, Ladylumps655 said:

 I went though his phone and he has a bunch of girls texting him. 

Ok. How old is he?  It's very toxic if you are only dating 30 Days and you are rifling through his phone.

If you think he's not honest or you're not exclusive, cut your losses. End it. It's already pretty horrible, when it's normally bliss at this stage.

Whatever baggage you have from the past and guys cheating is something to put behind you before you can trust enough to feel happy dating.

[smackie9]

You are wasting your time. He's a player and you can't change his behavior. He is who he is. You have enough proof, now next him.

[ShyViolet]

If you've only been dating this guy a month and the relationship already has this many problems, it's time to RUN and stop wasting your time with this guy.  This is clearly going nowhere.

[kendahke]

On 11/27/2021 at 10:27 PM, Ladylumps655 said:

My boyfriend and I have only been together for a month.

After a month, you have no investment in him. If this bothers you, just end it and move on. He'll never be the guy you thought you were getting involved with, so there's no point in squandering your youth behind BS. It's better to be by yourself until a better man comes along than it is to have a wilful hand in debasing yourself in order to say "I got a man".  Life is too short for this level of mess.

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He tells me that the past four girl he’s been with has gone though his phone. That made me curious as to why they didn’t trust him. Then I went though his phone

I'm unclear as to why he didn't just give you his phone himself to go through, since he brought that up. I mean, why bring it up at all? Perhaps he was giving you the hint that he does stuff that warrants distrust?

For me, the fact that he didn't hand you his phone to show you he had nothing to hide would have been enough for me to step back from him.

 

[NYAG]

On 11/28/2021 at 1:14 PM, Wiseman2 said:

Ok. How old is he?  It's very toxic if you are only dating 30 Days and you are rifling through his phone.

If you think he's not honest or you're not exclusive, cut your losses. End it. It's already pretty horrible, when it's normally bliss at this stage.

Whatever baggage you have from the past and guys cheating is something to put behind you before you can trust enough to feel happy dating.

But she probably wouldn't have done it if he hadn't essentially told her to by telling her that his former partners had done that. I mean, that's exactly what he was doing. Life's too short for that kind of drama. I'd be dumping him straight away.

[elaine567]

On 11/28/2021 at 4:27 AM, Ladylumps655 said:

He says he wants me to trust him but how can I trust him if he still is texting girls. 

Trust is  a huge part of any relationship.
If you  cannot trust him and feel you need to go though his phone and are getting upset at only a month in, then he needs to be gone.
Dating is supposed to be about finding someone who makes you happy...