Need words of encouragement

[Meh95]

I'm really only writing because I need to get this off my chest and I could use some kind words. 

I had a great guy who was my perfect match. He's literally everything I ever wanted in a man, values, goals, personality, looks, everything. 

We were only together for a short time before problems started arising, but we were close friends for almost two years before being a couple. I had done something I shouldn't have and it gave him such trauma that he decided he can't be with me. I discussed it with him prior and even though he seemed fine with it, I should have predicted that it would hurt him and not do it. I feel guilty, but I know I'm not really to blame.

He broke up with me yesterday. I am sad and I feel guilty. I'm afraid of becoming a villain in his life story after we were best friends and I was his safe space. It hurts. 

[Alpacalia]

I'm sorry you're feeling down.

Care to share?

52 minutes ago, Meh95 said:

I had done something I shouldn't have and it gave him such trauma that he decided he can't be with me. I discussed it with him prior and even though he seemed fine with it, I should have predicted that it would hurt him and not do it. I feel guilty, but I know I'm not really to blame.

 

[Happy Lemming]

Relationships come and go... Friends come and go...

Time passes and we write the next chapter that is our lives.  It appears it is time to close the chapter on this gentleman and start with a new clean page.

You will move forward to the next adventure in life.

[Meh95]

1 hour ago, Alpaca said:

I'm sorry you're feeling down.

Care to share?

 

Hi, thanks for your response. 

I don't really wanna discuss the details, but it basically involved something that was a part of my life before we were dating and he didn't like. And I handled the situation badly while trying to quit that thing. 

[Meh95]

1 hour ago, Happy Lemming said:

Relationships come and go... Friends come and go...

Time passes and we write the next chapter that is our lives.  It appears it is time to close the chapter on this gentleman and start with a new clean page.

You will move forward to the next adventure in life.

Thank you for encouragement. 

I understand what your saying, but I'm struggling with guilt. I also really believe he is one in a million and I don't wanna lose him. I know most breakups feel like that, but I'm just having a hard time letting it go. 

Idk, I'm just venting. Thanks for being here to listen to my whining

[Happy Lemming]

31 minutes ago, Meh95 said:

I also really believe he is one in a million and I don't wanna lose him.

Yes... I think just about every person in the world has lost that "one in a million" person (including me), but time passes and we meet new and even better people. 

You will meet someone that you are more compatible with. He will accept you as your are and let you live your life, your way without dumping you for the decisions and choices you make or want to make.

[Alpacalia]

39 minutes ago, Meh95 said:

Hi, thanks for your response. 

I don't really wanna discuss the details, but it basically involved something that was a part of my life before we were dating and he didn't like. And I handled the situation badly while trying to quit that thing. 

Understood.

You make mention of guilt.

Perhaps your guilt stems from a perception that your decisions have caused harm in ways you don't completely comprehend. Consider what you can do safely to restore your peace of mind. I've come to the conclusion that being real in your sorrow and regret is sometimes all you can do.