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HI , been for some time (2 years) friends with benefits with girl from another town. We meet like two times in month , eat , chat , watch some movie , have sex.

From her side i know she dont have any feelings towards me. Yes she get little jelous sometimes , care if i have some problems (also talk about her problems of course) , when my mom died she was there for me. In private she is like cuddly towards me, in public little distant , she always correct people if they think we are couple. She grow up only with her mother. Generally hate people, kids , crowds and if strangers are close to her. Refuse to meet up with my friends. Dont want her mom and me meetup. Have relationship in past where her bf cheat on her a lot until she finds out

Me. Sometimes i think i love her but it fade away quick and it is also met with negative reaction from her side. We really click in our hobbies , have similar tastes in movies etc..

My problem.

My friends think this is very bad relationship (in a way she has me only for fun and ditch me in second for somebody better) and try to hook me up with somebody else. Sometimes i think i want more but i also really like that i have time for myself and if i feel lonely i have somebody to talk and have physical contact with. I feel good with her but did my friends are right ? I dont really thing how long it will last with her i just enjoy moment. She told me that if i find somebody i like its no problem to her just tell her its end. I know thats its not a love that connect us but what that is ? Should i really find more suitable for me and she just hold me back ? 

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Your friends are right.

She’s just having fun with you, as that’s what FWBs usually do. If you are looking for a girlfriend, it’s not going to be her. She doesn’t feel that way about you. 

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Are you meeting other women or dating others also? If not, why not? Is it because you have feelings for her? 

Reconsider seeing her anymore if this is holding you back from finding a relationship or something more fulfilling to you than fwb. You might have gotten too comfortable and used to the routine that this companionship brings but it's not what you want overall and hanging around her is just blocking you from pursuing what makes you happier.

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