blahbruhhhh Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 I went on my first date with this guy I met online on Nov. 13. Afterwards, he asked for my number and we went on our second date on Nov. 20th. We didn’t text a lot between either of those dates but we talked a ton during our dates. Our second date was rock climbing and after it ended, he and I were headed back in the same direction so we walked back together but once we passed his place he still walked with me until I arrived at my destination. He didn’t try to kiss me and we just hugged bye. I thanked him for the date and told him I had fun and he said if I’m interested in going rock climbing again I could join him since he’s always looking for someone to do it with. During the walk back he also let me know that his friends are coming in town for thanksgiving and are going to stay with him. He said that the day after our date he was probably going to be working all day bc he has some projects he made commitments to and he needs to finish them before his 12/2 deadline. He then told me he was going on vacation to Mexico with his friends from 12/8 - 12/20. I haven’t heard from him since our second date and I haven’t texted him either since he told me his plans and it sounds like he’s going to be busy. However, I’m wondering if he’s actually busy or if he’s no longer interested in me? I’m not sure if I’m supposed to reach out or not. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Maldives Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 2 hours ago, blahbruhhhh said: I went on my first date with this guy I met online on Nov. 13. Afterwards, he asked for my number and we went on our second date on Nov. 20th. We didn’t text a lot between either of those dates but we talked a ton during our dates. Our second date was rock climbing and after it ended, he and I were headed back in the same direction so we walked back together but once we passed his place he still walked with me until I arrived at my destination. He didn’t try to kiss me and we just hugged bye. I thanked him for the date and told him I had fun and he said if I’m interested in going rock climbing again I could join him since he’s always looking for someone to do it with. During the walk back he also let me know that his friends are coming in town for thanksgiving and are going to stay with him. He said that the day after our date he was probably going to be working all day bc he has some projects he made commitments to and he needs to finish them before his 12/2 deadline. He then told me he was going on vacation to Mexico with his friends from 12/8 - 12/20. I haven’t heard from him since our second date and I haven’t texted him either since he told me his plans and it sounds like he’s going to be busy. However, I’m wondering if he’s actually busy or if he’s no longer interested in me? I’m not sure if I’m supposed to reach out or not. What should I do? Mmm hard to tell. Just be brave and send him a text. He could be thinking the same thing. Although having said that him giving you a list of things he's going to be tied up with may suggest he's not interested but who knows lol just send him a text or you will be wondering forever 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 If you don't text him at all, he might think you're the one that's not interested. I think you should text him, just say that you hope he has a good vacation and that you'd like to hang out again when he gets back. And then after his vacation is over, maybe send him a text asking him how his vacation was. But if he doesn't respond to that, don't text him again. You'll know if he's interested based on whether he responds. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 11 hours ago, blahbruhhhh said: he said if I’m interested in going rock climbing again I could join him since he’s always looking for someone to do it with. It's only 2 dates so you are both still talking to and meeting others. Unfortunately it seems like the friendzone. That's ok just keep meeting men a until there's a mutual interest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 19 hours ago, blahbruhhhh said: I thanked him for the date and told him I had fun and he said if I’m interested in going rock climbing again I could join him since he’s always looking for someone to do it with. During the walk back he also let me know that his friends are coming in town for thanksgiving and are going to stay with him. He said that the day after our date he was probably going to be working all day bc he has some projects he made commitments to and he needs to finish them before his 12/2 deadline. He then told me he was going on vacation to Mexico with his friends from 12/8 - 12/20. My goodness it seems he was giving you stop gaps at every point and not saying when he would be available for a date. I think you should next this guy until he contacts you again and asks you for a proper date and not to just be a climbing partner. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author blahbruhhhh Posted December 5, 2021 Author Share Posted December 5, 2021 Thanks for the advice everyone! I’m going to move on from him because if he really wants to see me he’ll reach out. All those stop gaps with no mention of a future date does not sit right with me. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted December 6, 2021 Share Posted December 6, 2021 Sounds like you got friends zoned. I agree just move on. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted December 6, 2021 Share Posted December 6, 2021 Nothing wrong with texting just a hi how are you message to him. If he doesn't respond that's that. Just recently I texted someone from over a month ago, he didn't answer so that's that. Link to post Share on other sites
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