SPARKEY2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Share Posted October 21, 2005 My girlfriend and me, broke up 5 months ago. We use to live together, and she moved back to her parents. She told me she didn,t like me and never wanted to hear from me again. Well she sent me a letter asking to meet for a coffee and ave me her new mobile number. I didn,t call, i wrote her a letter, saying some things about how bad i was going and sad. Told her i felt these were the reasons we broke up, blah blah. Blaming her a little, Did say couldn,t meet didn,t want to hear about other guys, as well wrote i didn,t hate her and loved her. I attached a song by James Blunt - "Goodbye my Lover" - beatiful song, just how i feel. If you have heard it you would know what i mean. Anyhow i am not sure what she wanted from me and i was scared to call her, would hurt so much. I wanted to call and should i ? I must meantion my ex girlfriend sent her letter to my previous girlfriend to send to me as she knew where i lived now. Confused why she would call after such a messy breakup, Does she want to meet for coffee or fix things for us? Shesaid in her note, if i didn,t call she would understand and hoped i was happy and looking after myself. I couldn,t see her and walk away again or should i face the hurt. So confused, need to understand how she would think at the plumb age of 21. Link to post Share on other sites
whereismylifegoing Posted October 21, 2005 Share Posted October 21, 2005 you are doomed! Link to post Share on other sites
curly Posted October 21, 2005 Share Posted October 21, 2005 You did the right thing. If you felt you could not see her, then you should not see her. She knows what she did to you. Now, 5 months later, she wants to walk back into your life? She's probably a little lonely, and interested in seeing if you're still dangling for her. The letter you sent did state that you still have feelings for her though. Now she knows. I realize that you said that because you don't want to close the door on her. So, now it's up to her to get through the door. In my opinion, you should not settle for anything less than a full declaration of all her feelings for you, full explanation of why she broke up with you in the first place and then full-on grovelling. She must make you compeletely convinced of her true love for you and her utter remorse at messing up such a good thing. Short of that, you should not take her back. It may hurt but I think she's just testing the waters..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author SPARKEY2005 Posted October 22, 2005 Author Share Posted October 22, 2005 Thanks for your advice, so true.. Mixed feelings and yes she plays games, so the open door thing may work. Its been a week since i sent the letter, NC as of yet. I feel deep down that i should not close the door, something tells me not yet. Don,t know if wishful thinking or a inner something. Link to post Share on other sites
pippen_2k Posted October 22, 2005 Share Posted October 22, 2005 Dont look too deep into what shes thinking etc, cause you will just drive yourself crazy! No man can understand the mindset of women so dont even try! She knows perfectly well how you feel, so if you dont hear back from her you know she aint interested in getting back together. She is probably just takin care of her selfish needs, feels guilty or just a lil lonely.... either way just try and move on. If she wants you back it will be VERY clear. Link to post Share on other sites
stjarna Posted October 22, 2005 Share Posted October 22, 2005 in every case i know, once there's an initial breakup, the relationship is ultimately doomed, even if you get back together for another period . . . maybe it's best to cut your losses now . . . even though it's hard. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SPARKEY2005 Posted October 22, 2005 Author Share Posted October 22, 2005 pippen_2k so true in what you have said. If it's meant to be it will be clear, if not then thats that I feel like the love i have for her is driving me crazy... Link to post Share on other sites
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