glows Posted March 2, 2022 Share Posted March 2, 2022 (edited) In my opinion someone will know very quickly whether they want to marry you. He seems to have inherent issues or insecurities about himself and his career or is using it as an excuse. I tend to think these are valid reasons but without any added discussion they seem flimsy considering you’ve already invested four years of your life with this man. He knows your time isn’t valuable because you’re giving the impression that you’ll stay anyway. I also think that when someone talks about their career as an impediment to other goals, they’re thinking in a very linear sense or unable to juggle more than one goal at a time. This is a dealbreaker personally as it only indicates lack of maturity or inability to juggle different stresses. Again, it’s all in the communication so if he wants to expound on that I’d invite more conversation about this. Remember that while you’re focused on marriage and moving forward you may be forgetting that you can do those things but not with this man. I got married fairly easily but not to the right man. Apparently my ex-h thought I was the marrying kind and the one to hold the fort. I certainly did that but he did not fulfill his end of the bargain. I’d take a very good look at whether this man has all the qualities you’re looking for in a partner and be more critical about who you choose to stand beside you. Edited March 2, 2022 by glows Link to post Share on other sites
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