Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 So i had bad moment with my bf on 26th.i already have missed some calls from him for a while and I think that made him more angry and he told me to not text him again. We fixed things now , we talk again, he sent me beautiful sweet new year wishes and we have discussed things we plan for the future. Yesterday I asked him why he was upset with me only bc the calls or there were other things as well. I added that I want to improve myself because he means a lot to me and that I love him and beside my bf he is my best friend as well. He didn't say anything- just oh well.i said yeah sorry and idk.. I guess he doesn't talk about it? Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 Let him get back to you on it. You put him on the spot. Didn’t you just say that you both “fixed it”? Out of curiosity, what makes you think he’s upset about anything else? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 (edited) Sorry this is happening. He doesn't want extended repetitive relationship talks. Don't offer to change yourself for anyone. Step back and observe if you are being treated with respect and if you are happy. Make 2022 the year you improve self respect and don't chase or have to ask men how to change yourself for them so they become decent BFs. The best thing to do is reflect if you are happy and if this is the right relationship/ man for you. Edited January 3, 2022 by Wiseman2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 30 minutes ago, glows said: Let him get back to you on it. You put him on the spot. Didn’t you just say that you both “fixed it”? Out of curiosity, what makes you think he’s upset about anything else? Because beside the calls I crossed one boundary he had. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 22 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Sorry this is happening. He doesn't want extended repetitive relationship talks. Don't offer to change yourself for anyone. Step back and observe if you are being treated with respect and if you are happy. Make 2022 the year you improve self respect and don't chase or have to ask men how to change yourself for them so they become decent BFs. The best thing to do is reflect if you are happy and if this is the right relationship/ man for you. Repetative? I just asked what exactly made him angry so I couldn't repeat kt again somehow. I think that is important for all relationships, friendships, etc Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 3 minutes ago, Georgeann said: Because beside the calls I crossed one boundary he had. What boundary was that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 2 minutes ago, glows said: What boundary was that? Well according to him I talked too much about sexual topics and I tried to talk about it again Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 1 minute ago, Georgeann said: Well according to him I talked too much about sexual topics and I tried to talk about it again Ok.. did you cross that boundary because you feel it’s unreasonable or you disagree with him? I ask because you seem very aware of what ticks him off but you do it anyway, then ask him to spell it out for you. It’s like poking the bear. If you disagree with him say so and don’t twist backwards into a pretzel coming at this from other angles. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 2 minutes ago, glows said: Ok.. did you cross that boundary because you feel it’s unreasonable or you disagree with him? I ask because you seem very aware of what ticks him off but you do it anyway, then ask him to spell it out for you. It’s like poking the bear. If you disagree with him say so and don’t twist backwards into a pretzel coming at this from other angles. I don't know what irked him unless he says it. For example he never said anything about the missed calls but I guess that was the main thing that made him mad because he told me to not text him immediately after I skipped his call Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 6 minutes ago, Georgeann said: Well according to him I talked too much about sexual topics and I tried to talk about it again Ok. So he doesn't want to keep talking about it so drop it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said: Ok. So he doesn't want to keep talking about it so drop it. Okay. Ty will do that Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 (edited) 17 minutes ago, Georgeann said: I don't know what irked him unless he says it. For example he never said anything about the missed calls but I guess that was the main thing that made him mad because he told me to not text him immediately after I skipped his call I’m sure he knows by now how receptive you are to his thoughts or if anything is troubling him. Trust that he’ll open up to you if there is something bothering him. Enjoy the time together for now. If he doesn’t want to talk about this then don’t push it. Edited January 3, 2022 by glows Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 7 minutes ago, glows said: I’m sure he knows by now how receptive you are to his thoughts or if anything is troubling him. Trust that he’ll open up to you if there is something bothering him. Enjoy the time together for now. If he doesn’t want to talk about this then don’t push it. After he said oh well I replied with yes sorry and he just asked why I am staying sorry But yeah I wont ask again 1 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 Have you met this bf in person? Is this a LDR? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 13 minutes ago, introverted1 said: Have you met this bf in person? Is this a LDR? Yeah and no it isn't ldr Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 2 hours ago, Georgeann said: Well according to him I talked too much about sexual topics and I tried to talk about it again Why did you do that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 5 minutes ago, stillafool said: Why did you do that? Well. I think sex should be part of all relationships. And I think to talk about sex from time to time is nice. But there is chance he was busy or tired and wasn't in the mood for it. That's why I wonder if that upseted him Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 38 minutes ago, Georgeann said: Well. I think sex should be part of all relationships. And I think to talk about sex from time to time is nice. But there is chance he was busy or tired and wasn't in the mood for it. That's why I wonder if that upseted him Yes but he already told you that you talk too much about it and still you did it again. Are you actually trying to turn him off? He's really not interested in you because I've never had a man not want to hear sexual talk no matter how busy he is. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 59 minutes ago, Georgeann said: Well. I think sex should be part of all relationships. And I think to talk about sex from time to time is nice. But there is chance he was busy or tired and wasn't in the mood for it. That's why I wonder if that upseted him Sex is a part of relationships and you should be able to talk about it with your boyfriend. How old are you OP? Have you had sex yet with this man? Why does he not want to talk about sex? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 17 minutes ago, stillafool said: Yes but he already told you that you talk too much about it and still you did it again. Are you actually trying to turn him off? He's really not interested in you because I've never had a man not want to hear sexual talk no matter how busy he is. Then why he got into relationship? Makes no sence. He also has asked about nudes and so on.. He precisely said i seem to care about sex only and not anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 5 minutes ago, BaileyB said: Sex is a part of relationships and you should be able to talk about it with your boyfriend. How old are you OP? Have you had sex yet with this man? Why does he not want to talk about sex? Not sex but have done sexual things with him. I am in my 20s. He was worried I only care to have sex with him and nothing else Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 31 minutes ago, Georgeann said: Not sex but have done sexual things with him. I am in my 20s. He was worried I only care to have sex with him and nothing else Most men in their 20’s are pretty interested in sex. Why is he not interested in sex? Is there a cultural or religious influence here? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 40 minutes ago, Georgeann said: He also has asked about nudes Don’t give him nude photos of yourself. You have no control over those images when you release them to another person. I wouldn’t trust him to have photos. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 1 minute ago, BaileyB said: Most men in their 20’s are pretty interested in sex. Why is he not interested in sex? Is there a cultural or religious influence here? He is 31. i am in my middle 20s Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 Just now, BaileyB said: Don’t give him nude photos of yourself. You have no control over those images when you release them to another person. I wouldn’t trust him to have photos. They are faceless and I don't have tattoos. It's all fine Link to post Share on other sites
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