Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 1 minute ago, BaileyB said: Many men would find that very appealing - Maybe his sex drive is lower than mine. I thought about this a bit. But i think that he has strong preferences and doesn't get aroused by everything. For example a.. pics don't turn him on. But other things do. I like his style too. He is into rough things Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 (edited) Have you had the “where is this relationship going” talk? If you haven’t, I would make it clear that I wanted to have a serious relationship and see what he says. I’m not interested in pressuring a man into having sex with me - if he doesn’t see this as an important part of a healthy relationship, I would take that as my cue that this is not the relationship for me. You can certainly talk about what you both want for the future - but I would not ask him directly about sex initially, I would tell him what I want from the relationship and then listen very closely to what he says…. Edited January 3, 2022 by BaileyB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 5 minutes ago, BaileyB said: Have you had the “where is this relationship going” talk? If you haven’t, I would make it clear that I wanted to have a serious relationship and see what he says. I’m not interested in pressuring a man into having sex with me - if he doesn’t see this as an important part of a healthy relationship, I would take that as my cue that this is not the relationship for me. You can certainly talk about what you both want for the future - but I would not ask him directly about sex initially, I would tell him what I want from the relationship and then listen very closely to what he says…. I told him I wanna get married to the person I love and have kids and he said It seemed to him sex was the only thing I care about and my main interest Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Georgeann said: I told him I wanna get married to the person I love and have kids and he said It seemed to him sex was the only thing I care about and my main interest You have some pretty significant communication problems or something is wrong with this guy if that’s what he heard you say. Honestly, dating shouldn’t be this hard. I would stop sending him photos and find someone else to date - Edited January 3, 2022 by BaileyB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 5 minutes ago, BaileyB said: You have some pretty significant communication problems or something is wrong with this guy if that’s what he heard you say. Honestly, dating shouldn’t be this hard. I would stop sending him photos and find someone else to date - No. I didn't type it correctly. He seemed surprised I want something else beside sex. He didn't expect that. He thought my interest is sex only Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Georgeann said: No. I didn't type it correctly. He seemed surprised I want something else beside sex. He didn't expect that. He thought my interest is sex only You are a 25 year old young woman who has never before had a sexual relationship - why would he think that you were primarily interested in sex? And please don’t say it’s because you talk about sex all the time - If the two of you plan to stay together, you need to spend time together doing a variety of things (sex being one of those things). You also clearly need to learn how to communicate with each other - Edited January 3, 2022 by BaileyB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 5 minutes ago, BaileyB said: You are a 25 year old young woman who has never before had a sexual relationship - why would he think that you were primarily interested in sex? And please don’t say it’s because you talk about sex all the time - If the two of you plan to stay together, you need to spend time together doing a variety of things (sex being one of those things). You also clearly need to learn how to communicate with each other - But if i talk about sex all the time it could be taken this way... His appearance turns me on a lot hence i do this. I will try to ask him if he wants to do something sexual on my bday Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 6 minutes ago, Georgeann said: But if i talk about sex all the time it could be taken this way... His appearance turns me on a lot hence i do this. I will try to ask him if he wants to do something sexual on my bday Most men would be thrilled to have a woman who found them attractive and wanted to have sex. Seriously. You wouldn’t have to ask them twice. You have to ask yourself why this man isn’t - why is he shaming you for wanting to have sex? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 7 minutes ago, Georgeann said: I will try to ask him if he wants to do something sexual on my bday Doesn't he even try to have sex with you? Or, does he want a virgin wife? Has he talked about marrying you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AngryGromit Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, Georgeann said: He had like 3 relationships before. I think he had sex. He isn't religious. I think probably he doesn't want to have sex every day Some men just don't have a good sex drive. My Girlfriends, Daughter is dating a guy like this. They are both in there 20's, she's like a rabbit in heat, wears sexy outfits, tries to get him in the "mood" but she's has sex like twice a month, three if she's lucky. I'd told my girlfriend to tell her Daughter to dump him, the sex isn't going to get better with age, but they are very compatible otherwise. I guess she sacrificing to stay with him. You have to do what important to you, if sex is something you must have in a relationship then find someone new. His sex drive isn't going to magically increase as you two get older, it will decrease to nothing, leaving you frustrated. If you stay with him, stock up on batteries for BOB, your gonna need them. Edited January 3, 2022 by AngryGromit Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 1 minute ago, stillafool said: Doesn't he even try to have sex with you? Or, does he want a virgin wife? Has he talked about marrying you? I once asked him if he wants to be ny husband and he said -no words. Ofc i can marry u. It's very easy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 1 minute ago, AngryGromit said: Some men just don't have a good sex drive. My Girlfriends, Daughter is dating a guy like this. They are both in there 20's, she's like a rabbit in heat, wears sexy outfits, tries to get him in the "mood" but she's has sex like twice a month, three if she's lucky. I'd told my girlfriend to tell her Daughter to dump him, the sex isn't going to get better with age, but they are very compatible otherwise. I guess she sacrificing to stay with him. You have to do what important to you, if sex is something you must in a relationship then find someone new. His sex drive isn't going to magically increase as you two get older, it will decrease to nothing, leaving you frustrated. If you stay with him, stock up on batteries for BOB, you gonna need them. I don't want another guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 7 minutes ago, BaileyB said: Most men would be thrilled to have a woman who found them attractive and wanted to have sex. Seriously. You wouldn’t have to ask them twice. You have to ask yourself why this man isn’t - why is he shaming you for wanting to have sex? Maybe he is tired of that. He is very attractive man. UsuallyWomen like him al lot Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 1 minute ago, Georgeann said: Ofc i can marry u. It's very easy. I'm sorry I don't understand what this means, can you explain. So he never tries to have sex with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 7 minutes ago, BaileyB said: Most men would be thrilled to have a woman who found them attractive and wanted to have sex. Seriously. You wouldn’t have to ask them twice. You have to ask yourself why this man isn’t - why is he shaming you for wanting to have sex? Maybe he is tired of that. He is very attractive man. UsuallyWomen like him al lot Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 2 minutes ago, Georgeann said: Maybe he is tired of that. He is very attractive man. UsuallyWomen like him al lot So women basically throw themselves at him? This is why you talking about sex to him is too common. Try being more provocative and let your body language do the talking. Be sensual and seductive instead. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AngryGromit Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 3 minutes ago, Georgeann said: Maybe he is tired of that. He is very attractive man. Usually Women like him al lot LOL, he must have an abnormally low sex drive, it's not common at his age, but it happens. Don't matter how good looking or desirable other women find him, good looking doesn't equal a high sex drive or good in bed. There are treatments he can get, like Testosterone and Virga, but he has to want to get help and , doesn't sound like he wants to from what your saying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 43 minutes ago, stillafool said: I'm sorry I don't understand what this means, can you explain. So he never tries to have sex with you? Well you asked if he wants to marry me. He said this- no words. Ofc I can marry you. It's very easy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 39 minutes ago, stillafool said: So women basically throw themselves at him? This is why you talking about sex to him is too common. Try being more provocative and let your body language do the talking. Be sensual and seductive instead. Yes they do throw themselves at him tbh Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 3, 2022 Author Share Posted January 3, 2022 3 hours ago, stillafool said: So women basically throw themselves at him? This is why you talking about sex to him is too common. Try being more provocative and let your body language do the talking. Be sensual and seductive instead. Any tips,? Recently I asked him if he believes in the needle therapy and he said yes and then I made joke to have sex with him under the Christmas tree and he asked -Whoose tree? Idek maybe he isn't enough attracted Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 4, 2022 Share Posted January 4, 2022 22 hours ago, Georgeann said: Recently I asked him if he believes in the needle therapy What is the needle therapy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 5, 2022 Author Share Posted January 5, 2022 14 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: What is the needle therapy? When you have needles put on your body (accient practice ) that is still popular. People think it cure sickness Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 5, 2022 Share Posted January 5, 2022 50 minutes ago, Georgeann said: When you have needles put on your body (accient practice ) that is still popular. People think it cure sickness You mean Acupuncture? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 5, 2022 Share Posted January 5, 2022 1 hour ago, Georgeann said: When you have needles put on your body (accient practice ) that is still popular. People think it cure sickness Do you mean acupuncture? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Georgeann Posted January 5, 2022 Author Share Posted January 5, 2022 Yes I do. Link to post Share on other sites
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