Texted my boyfriend a bunch of texts. Now what?

[Kyrak]

Me and my partner we are spending Christmas separately. We tried to stay connected via viber exchanging pictures and stuff. He texted me Merry Christmas today and we talked a bit. I asked him if he wanted to have a call later and he said how about in the evening. I replied and sent him a bunch of texts in a row pics from our family dinner and told him that I missed him. I have read receipts disabled and activity status offline so I am not sure if he checked my texts. Anyhow after some hours I texted him again after posting here asking him if its a good time to talk, I could call him. But he didn't reply either and I feel dumb cause I don't normally write a lot or send pics but took a step outside my comfort zone as I wanted to share with him my vacations. I understand he might got busy with parties and family as he mentioned to me he would attend some events during the holidays. I'm over thinking it a lot and getting anxiety that I overwhelmed him and ruined it. I think it's best to wait for him to reach out to me before I initiate again. It's my first relationship and I am getting insecure. I've been told by other guys before that I talk too much and it's annoying but my current boyfriend jokes about it and doesn't seem to mind it.

[stillafool]

Okay  then just wait.  It's Christmas and he's probably still partying with friends and family.  Once you send a text forget about until you get a reply back.  Don't double text him.

[Kyrak]

Just now, stillafool said:

Okay  then just wait.  It's Christmas and he's probably still partying with friends and family.  Once you send a text forget about until you get a reply back.  Don't double text him.

Yeah. I tend to do that but the intention wasn't to overwhelm him or demand he calls me. That's why I asked him if it was a good time to talk. Is it a good idea to reach out tomorrow and tell him that I forgot he might be busy and to catch up when I'm back in the city or wait for him to reply? It was a lot of texting on my end but nothing negative just pictures from family gathering. My last text was if its a good time to talk, I could call and left it there.

[stillafool]

3 minutes ago, Kyrak said:

Yeah. I tend to do that but the intention wasn't to overwhelm him or demand he calls me. That's why I asked him if it was a good time to talk. Is it a good idea to reach out tomorrow and tell him that I forgot he might be busy and to catch up when I'm back in the city or wait for him to reply? It was a lot of texting on my end but nothing negative just pictures from family gathering. My last text was if its a good time to talk, I could call and left it there.

No don't text him anymore.  You've sent pics and he's told you that he'll talk later so I don't know why you bothered texting him again after he told you that.  I think you need to back off at this point.

[Kyrak]

Just now, stillafool said:

No don't text him anymore.  You've sent pics and he's told you that he'll talk later so I don't know why you bothered texting him again after he told you that.  I think you need to back off at this point.

Yes indeed. Do you think he'll break up with me after this? I won't contact him anymore. I was just excited and missed him cause it's been 9 days to talk.

[stillafool]

1 minute ago, Kyrak said:

I was just excited and missed him cause it's been 9 days to talk.

He hasn't talked to you in 9 days?

[Kyrak]

Just now, stillafool said:

He hasn't talked to you in 9 days?

Oh no we've been in chat almost every day. I sent him pictures from my vacations and we were discussing about going away for a day to a spa resort when I come back. I also one day asked him how he has been doing and didn't reply but texted him the next day again and he sent me pics so I didn't think he was annoyed or bothered. I left him like 3 4 texts during the day when he asked me to taok

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

He hasn't talked to you in 9 days?

 

[Kyrak]

*talk in the evening. And after that I texted him in the night if it was a good time to talk. Now I see it was dumb but can't take it back.

[stillafool]

So what you meant is you miss him because you haven't seen him in 9 days?  Are you the one doing intiating most of the texts or is he contacting you with conversation and telling you he misses and can't wait to be with you?

[Kyrak]

Yes exactly that. I am the one mostly initiating but he's receptive and does tell me that he loves me and misses me. He texted me today to wish me merry christmas. Overall I am the one contacting him more.

[stillafool]

1 minute ago, Kyrak said:

Yes exactly that. I am the one mostly initiating but he's receptive and does tell me that he loves me and misses me. He texted me today to wish me merry christmas. Overall I am the one contacting him more.

Then you need to pull way back and give him a chance to show you he's thinking of you first.  

[stillafool]

5 minutes ago, Kyrak said:

Yes exactly that. I am the one mostly initiating but he's receptive and does tell me that he loves me and misses me.

At least he's telling you he loves and misses you, so give HIM a chance to prove it.

[Kyrak]

Okay. We also made nye plans to which I already transferred him money so we'll need to talk at some point and make plans. I shared with him via picture the dress I'll be wearing and he replied that he can't wait to see me wearing it. I have my flight back on Monday and I'll have credit to call as we mostly communicate via phone and SMS not viber. It was only because i didn't have credit.

[Kyrak]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

At least he's telling you he loves and misses you, so give HIM a chance to prove it.

Well given the circumstances as I mentioned below I cant call or text and I already reached out in viber a lot so I can only wait for him to reply now. Probably he'll tell me that he was out don't think he won't acknowledge any of my texts.

[Alvi]

So you overtexted him a bit. Pretty sure all of us done that at one point or the other with our partners. Don't think it is that big of a deal, not something to break up over. Unless you are doing this constantly or there is something else that you are not telling.

Wait. Do something to keep yourself busy. Pretty sure he is going to reply. 

[stillafool]

I'm sure he'll get back to you tomorrow if not later tonight.

[Kyrak]

1 minute ago, Alvi said:

So you overtexted him a bit. Pretty sure all of us done that at one point or the other with our partners. Don't think it is that big of a deal, not something to break up over. Unless you are doing this constantly or there is something else that you are not telling.

Wait. Do something to keep yourself busy. Pretty sure he is going to reply. 

Thank you Alvi! I never actually had a partner before so I can't compare it and say if this is something I do in a relationship. Chatting casually with guys i was given the feedback in the past of texting a lot but those guys weren't interested in me so it seemed a lot of work and they would stop replying. It's actually the first time I double texted my bf and left him a bunch of texts. I'm just very self aware and even when we go to the cinema or watch movies my partner jokes that I'm constantly talking but it's only annoying him when we are trying to watch something. I asked him if he's overwhelmed by it and he said he loves it. I went overboard and I stand corrected. Should have wished him a lovely day and left it there ☺️

[Kyrak]

5 minutes ago, stillafool said:

I'm sure he'll get back to you tomorrow if not later tonight.

It's already 4am in Europe. Perhaps tomorrow. I'm realizing now that viber shows all texts under a total number which is good if he opens them all tomorrow. I feel such a loser!

[glows]

You’re not a loser. You’re just nervous which is understandable. Don’t practice that kind of put down of yourself.

He likes you. Let him message you back now and see how it goes. I think the batch of photo texts are completely fine but agree with the others about letting him approach you a little more.

Have fun on New Years. Happy NY to both of you! 

[Wiseman2]

8 hours ago, Alvi said:

So you overtexted him a bit. 

Yes, agree with this. So what you can do is simply pull back and text other friends and family rather than bombarding him.

Let him reach out first and use texting protocol, meaning to volley texts in a way that you only respond once, then wait for a reply and so on.

[Kyrak]

Thank you all! I'm kind of late in dating game and truth is don't have much experience with relationships. I am learning and hopefully growing with this one so I try to get all helpful feedback that can help me improve my communication skills as I can be socially awkward. He did reply today but I'm in a bit of in a paralysis and haven't texted back yet cause I want to give him space but also not seem disinterested and make him think that I'm mad or something I'm just over thinking ☺️

[Georgeann]

45 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Yes, agree with this. So what you can do is simply pull back and text other friends and family rather than bombarding him.

Let him reach out first and use texting protocol, meaning to volley texts in a way that you only respond once, then wait for a reply and so on.

You are great person. I wish we could talk on Dm or some cos I feel very low. I relate to this poster

[Kyrak]

He texted: "Hey, sorry was just now seeing it. We can talk a bit later today if you want." 

[Georgeann]

1 minute ago, Kyrak said:

He texted: "Hey, sorry was just now seeing it. We can talk a bit later today if you want." 

You are lucky. Today my boyfriend called me but I rejected the call and he told me to not text him again.

 

I Feel so bad

[Kyrak]

Just now, Georgeann said:

You are great person. I wish we could talk on Dm or some cos I feel very low. I relate to this poster

Hugs! You're not alone. It's good to know that there are more people feeling like this. Thank you for the kind words I am hoping that this post gives you a bit of light and encouragement. We are just work in progress.