Practical_Loser Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 Basically I brought something up, and she lied to me about it, not knowing what proof I have. She told me in the first person shes ever been with that has brought her to orgasm from penetration, and she also told me I'm the first person she wanted to finish inside her. I told her I knew about her letting her ex do it, and also says that she was disgusted by him and didnt even want him inside her to begin with. But on snapchat there is a back and forth between them, with things like "nothing better than being filled up" and "the outcome of the plan b was worth you cumming in me" but goes on to tel me she was pissed that she had to take the plan b, she would never have had a child with him, and that she was drunk when she asked him to do it, and regretted every bit of it afterwards and to this day. I had a weird dream that there was more to it, so I double checked what I had read, and it just doesnt make any sense. She has never lied to me, or hidden anything from me before, and I always believe her, but why lie about this one of zhes so repulsed by him? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 30 minutes ago, Practical_Loser said: She has never lied to me, or hidden anything from me before, and I always believe her, but why lie about this one of zhes so repulsed by him? Because she is not repulsed by him. She is lying to look more innocent and to boost your ego. Unfortunately a lot of women tell men these lies. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 She said she regrets it. Are you really going to let this simmer and bother you? Is she not in the slightest bit creeped out that you went through her messages with an ex? Or felt the need to do so or distrust her? That the relationship has come to this suggests bigger problems in trust and communication between the both of you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 39 minutes ago, Practical_Loser said: not knowing what proof I have. But on snapchat there is a back and forth between them, with things like "nothing better than being filled up" and "the outcome of the plan b was worth you cumming in me" . How old is she? How long have you been dating? Are you exclusive? Do you trust her? Why is it important to have these types of "who's on first" conversations? How do you know about her private SC message contents? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Estes Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 She's lying to make you feel better. No different than your girlfriend saying "How do I look in this new dress" and for whatever reason you find it repulsive but you say "You look great honey". White lies to make the other person feel better that are not to cover up some sort of major transgression are permitted in relationships. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 27, 2021 Share Posted December 27, 2021 17 hours ago, Practical_Loser said: why lie about this one of zhes so repulsed by him? Because she was not repulsed by him while they were together, OP. She lied about all of this to make you feel better about yourself and your sexual prowess. My guess is that you are not very secure in yourself, so she tries to fluff you up to make you feel good. I wager you're not that secure because of this: 17 hours ago, Practical_Loser said: But on snapchat there is a back and forth between them, with things like "nothing better than being filled up" and "the outcome of the plan b was worth you cumming in me" Why were you going through her personal (old) conversations on Snapchat to begin with? 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 27, 2021 Share Posted December 27, 2021 You are in a "Who's better and bigger and who do you love more.", competition with her ex. NEVER snoop on old messages between your SO and her ex/her exes... Nothing good ever comes of it. And don't go fishing for compliments either... Women always try to big up their current bf, it is all part of dating. 17 hours ago, Practical_Loser said: . She told me in the first person shes ever been with that has brought her to orgasm from penetration, and she also told me I'm the first person she wanted to finish inside her What was she supposed to say? The truth? "No, sorry my ex was fantastic in bed, the best I have ever had? You are a tad too small and your technique is off. There is no way in hell I would want to have a baby with you..." Also, there is more to love than just sex... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted December 27, 2021 Share Posted December 27, 2021 (edited) Really? How did that conversation start? You both are being ridiculous.You never trusted her because you obviously had to fact check. That's pretty lame. Just enjoy the moment, and stop comparing yourself to her ex. Edited December 27, 2021 by smackie9 Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 28, 2021 Share Posted December 28, 2021 On 12/26/2021 at 11:35 AM, Practical_Loser said: Basically I brought something up, and she lied to me about it, not knowing what proof I have. She told me in the first person shes ever been with that has brought her to orgasm from penetration, and she also told me I'm the first person she wanted to finish inside her. I told her I knew about her letting her ex do it, and also says that she was disgusted by him and didnt even want him inside her to begin with. But on snapchat there is a back and forth between them, with things like "nothing better than being filled up" and "the outcome of the plan b was worth you cumming in me" but goes on to tel me she was pissed that she had to take the plan b, she would never have had a child with him, and that she was drunk when she asked him to do it, and regretted every bit of it afterwards and to this day. I had a weird dream that there was more to it, so I double checked what I had read, and it just doesnt make any sense. She has never lied to me, or hidden anything from me before, and I always believe her, but why lie about this one of zhes so repulsed by him? Uh, your evidence does not contradict her in multiple instances. You were first to bring her to orgasm from penetration (where did you later learn/state otherwise? - based on your snooping). (and so what, that is just a random milestone in a young female life... and it might not say or imply anything about the partner she just happened to be with when this randomly took place) You're the first she "wanted" to finish inside of her. You fail to prove that she wasn't drunk... and if she was too drunk to consent to sex, it was RAPE, regardless of who penetrated her. If you are crazy enough to read your girlfriend's ancient chat history, AND crazy enough to go at her for things you read there... you need to at least have some solid grounds on which to justify your admitting to having snooped in the first place. In this case, you're going to get shot-down for your shoddy perception of the evidence, AND for having completely snooped on her. What hope do you have of surviving {your feeble effort here} as a couple?? (if you want to break up with her - be a man and do so) (don't make it clear that you're this clueless merely in hope that she'll break-up with you to save you the trouble) PS - I just had the same weird dream of their being "more to it"... only it was a daydream, and it took place since I first clicked on this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted December 29, 2021 Share Posted December 29, 2021 I mean, is no one going to say anything about the attitude towards Plan B? That alone would make me not want to date someone. Trashy. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted December 29, 2021 Share Posted December 29, 2021 I don't know OP. If I read a message like that from a boyfriend to his ex I think I would want to pop out my own eyeballs. Link to post Share on other sites
Uruktopi Posted December 29, 2021 Share Posted December 29, 2021 On 12/27/2021 at 10:18 AM, elaine567 said: Also, there is more to love than just sex... Yes there is, when it´s "just sex". But if someone can call it "just sex", what haves is also a kind of love that can be safely called "just love". Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted December 29, 2021 Share Posted December 29, 2021 well, believing anything a person does with another person sexually is the first time it happened is basically lying to yourself. chances are extremely high anything you do has already been done by someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 On 12/26/2021 at 1:35 PM, Practical_Loser said: (she) goes on to tel me she was pissed that she had to take the plan b, she would never have had a child with him, and that she was drunk when she asked him to do it, and regretted every bit of it afterwards and to this day. NONE. OF. THIS. erases the fact that she lied to your face about this. She doesn't regret doing this--if she did, she wouldn't have had a whole-a conversation with him glorifying it. She regrets YOU FINDING OUT. She. Lied. She will lie again. It's who she is. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 3, 2022 Share Posted January 3, 2022 Does it really matter? That was her past so who cares what she did with her ex. She's with you now. Either trust her and stop snooping in her messages (which is not ok btw) or just ruin everything with your insecurities about her things that don't even matter. Link to post Share on other sites
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