Advice needed! Girlfriend always gets a job around men

[SincereOnlineGuy]

On 12/26/2021 at 3:24 PM, Trustissuesforsure said:

Girlfriend always gets a job around men   Why does she do this ? 

...  for the same reason that Laverne DiFazio and Shirley Feeney did same.

[Acacia98]

The most worrying thing is that she engages in secret communications with men and has had one over to visit in your absence. Perhaps she hasn't crossed the line yet (although, truthfully, how could you know?), but she is creating opportunities where that can happen. This is not behavior that builds trust in in the long term. 

That, coupled with the fact that she checks your phone (perhaps because she assumes you do the same as her), is not encouraging.

You say you can't walk away because you love her. But love alone isn't enough to make a relationship work.

[Crazelnut]

If my BF was secretly texting other women and meeting up with any of them, as "friends" or not, we would be over. The picture you've painted of her is a woman who needs a lot of attention from men, and from a lot of men. She is going to be like this until she has a real moment of reckoning. So you need to decide if you can handle this for the rest of your relationship. 

[smackie9]

date someone else then......

[Robert2016]

She a person that needs external validation from other men.  And the kind of validation she needs is more than a SO, husband, or life partner  can provide.

She needs more.

It may seem harmless to her and she probably feels she's in control (she's not looking to cheat). But she's playing with fire.  Human nature is hot wired to bond emotionally and physically with other people.

These 'friendships' can escalate in a heart beat. 

You both should read:  "Not Just Friends" by Dr Glass.  It'll provide the ideas and words (relating to real couples that experienced infidelity) you need to discuss how her behavior unnecessarily places your relationship at a very high risk for infidelity.