Coasting1991 Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 Sorry this is causing you so much turmoil OP. I think you should just tell him you're not interested anymore (or not reply at all) and go about your life. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 1 hour ago, carliciaaaa said: I'm not re considering. I'm just saying that what's the point of this being friendly, winking and now this? He's doing what he does best - creep around, wink at what's moving. This is like asking why does a crab walk sideways. Doesn't he also have a girlfriend? I thought your friend mentioned he is seeing someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 19, 2022 Author Share Posted January 19, 2022 55 minutes ago, glows said: He's doing what he does best - creep around, wink at what's moving. This is like asking why does a crab walk sideways. Doesn't he also have a girlfriend? I thought your friend mentioned he is seeing someone else. No he doesn't have a gf. Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 19, 2022 Author Share Posted January 19, 2022 1 hour ago, Coasting1991 said: Sorry this is causing you so much turmoil OP. I think you should just tell him you're not interested anymore (or not reply at all) and go about your life. I haven't replied to him Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 11 hours ago, carliciaaaa said: How should I let this go when he's now asking to meet for lunch? I think people should at least read the situation then reply rather than asking me to redemn and what not How are folks supposed to know that he just texted you when they don't have access to your phone? Also, I thought you said you'd blocked him. Why is he still able to reach you? Personally, I'm confused. I don't understand why you asked folks for feedback if you're going to fight them so hard when they try to respond to the best of their ability. If you already have the answers and know what his intentions were/are, you surely don't need any of us to tell you why he did what he did and whether you should block him. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 6 hours ago, carliciaaaa said: I'm not re considering. I'm just saying that what's the point of this being friendly, winking and now this? To see if you'll cave this time. He's an opportunist, based on your description. If it weren't you, it would be the next girl. That's all. Creepers gonna creep, especially when they think the person in question doesn't have strong boundaries. Link to post Share on other sites
LynneVicious Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 I think an awful lot of assumptions are being made about this man from a small amount of interaction. Do you have experience in dating or relationships? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 20, 2022 Share Posted January 20, 2022 6 hours ago, glows said: He's doing what he does best - creep around, wink at what's moving. This is like asking why does a crab walk sideways. Doesn't he also have a girlfriend? I thought your friend mentioned he is seeing someone else. Yes he is seeing plenty of "someone elses'"..... On 1/18/2022 at 4:00 PM, carliciaaaa said: What do you mean by flaky??? He doesn't have a girlfriend. He dates around but hasn't made anyone exclusive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 20, 2022 Author Share Posted January 20, 2022 7 hours ago, stillafool said: Yes he is seeing plenty of "someone elses'"..... He isn't now. He was dating around but now he isn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 20, 2022 Author Share Posted January 20, 2022 7 hours ago, LynneVicious said: I think an awful lot of assumptions are being made about this man from a small amount of interaction. Do you have experience in dating or relationships? If you have tons of experience then why not say it? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 20, 2022 Share Posted January 20, 2022 1 hour ago, carliciaaaa said: Why did he do this? Should I block him? Yes. Delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps. Just be polite and don't worry about deciphering and overanalyzing him. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 20, 2022 Share Posted January 20, 2022 6 hours ago, carliciaaaa said: He isn't now. He was dating around but now he isn't. What changed in 48 hours? I thought you blocked him, how is he able to reach you? Link to post Share on other sites
LynneVicious Posted January 20, 2022 Share Posted January 20, 2022 7 hours ago, carliciaaaa said: If you have tons of experience then why not say it? I am not the one asking for advice on the thread. I ask because I think it’s relevant to how you’re perceiving things with this guy. You came for advice. We give it. Sorry you don’t like said advice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 20, 2022 Author Share Posted January 20, 2022 1 hour ago, stillafool said: What changed in 48 hours? I thought you blocked him, how is he able to reach you? I already wrote I had unblocked him the same day I blocked him. I wrote in the update itself. First sentences. Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted January 20, 2022 Share Posted January 20, 2022 On 12/29/2021 at 5:54 PM, carliciaaaa said: One of his coursemates (whom I told that I like him) said that he's already seeing someone and its in early stages of dating/not serious. ^^ This is why I was under the impression he had a girlfriend. I guess he doesn't. On 12/29/2021 at 5:54 PM, carliciaaaa said: For a week we didn't text. This he was online, on some days disappearing at 6 or 7pm and only coming online the next day. Your comments above and below are why I think he is flaky. If I were you, I wouldn't waste anymore time on him. Even if he does show interest in you one day, who knows whether he will acknowledge you the next day? Why waste time wondering? On 12/29/2021 at 5:54 PM, carliciaaaa said: - we were talking about how going by the sea is calming and relaxing and initially he was like yeah but now it's so cold and windy. Then he suddenly said how his friend has an empty cottage in Wales and he would like to take a break for a week there with me. He asked me three times and I said yes at that time. On 12/29/2021 at 5:54 PM, carliciaaaa said: I messaged him on Monday and his attitude had changed. On 12/29/2021 at 5:54 PM, carliciaaaa said: He never replied even though he was continously online and would routinely dissapear in the evening. I didn't message him after that because I felt I didn't want to look needy. On 12/29/2021 at 5:54 PM, carliciaaaa said: He didn't message me again but still has my number saved in his Whatsapp as I can see his last seen. My friend checked and she can no longer see it. Anyways, I deleted his number and our chats because it made no sense. He could have just said he's busy and will let me know when he's free and never follow it up or just say we can only be friends. But he left me on read and just disappeared. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 20, 2022 Share Posted January 20, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, carliciaaaa said: I already wrote I had unblocked him the same day I blocked him. I wrote in the update itself. First sentences. On 1/18/2022 at 6:00 PM, carliciaaaa said: Because I felt it would be childish and he would feel happy thinking I got triggered by his "rejection". Also I still wanted to give him a benefit of the doubt until I saw this drama he's now pulling. When I was leaving, he was waving at me too. Instead of being honest , he's acting like nothing happened. Who knows what his actual intentions are now. Whether he still wants to keep his options open because he clearly has no decency to reply with honesty. Then why should I believe he's being nice now? I ve already removed his number, chats. What bothers me is that he can't get away either treating me like this. So you talk as if you hate this guy after he rejected you but now you've decided to unblock to give him the benefit of the doubt? You really want this guy don't you? I know if a guy treated me the way he's treated you I certainly wouldn't go over to talk to him after he winked at me and mouthed something. I would have never seen the wink because I wouldn't have even been looking in his direction. Anyone else would have washed their hands of this treatment, blocked him, walked away and wouldn't have given him a second thought. You're caught up about some "lunch plans" with him, wth? Edited January 20, 2022 by stillafool 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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