stillafool Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 54 minutes ago, carliciaaaa said: I just felt he was a shy and introverted guy. I didn't know what he was actually like No you felt he was creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 9 minutes ago, carliciaaaa said: Let me tell you that when he first didn't reply to me, he waved and winked at me then when I went over to him, after he was mouthing something from afar, he didn't even greet me and seemed really cold. It's only after me not texting him, that he began eavesdropping and then this You should have never went over to him but let him come to you if he wanted to show interest. I think you're making way more of this than necessary and I guarantee you he isn't even thinking about it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 18, 2022 Author Share Posted January 18, 2022 (edited) 10 minutes ago, stillafool said: 1- Maybe he felt it would be childish not to speak to you when he saw you in person. Like I said, just because he doesn't want to date, have sex with you doesn't mean he can't speak when he sees you. You do go to the same school. Again, if it bothers you tell him not to speak to you. 2- What is it you want him to be honest about? His lack of interest? He did that when he didn't reply to you. That meant he's not interested. 3-I don't think he has anymore intentions for you; and he's a young college man so he has plenty of options. So do you so stop obsessing over this guy and go for others. 4-Good you've removed his number and chats. Hopefully put this behind you. Try not to look at this as him getting away with treating you badly. He just was not that interested. We don't always get the one we want. 1. I think it's me who will decide if I should speak to a person with ulterior motives who eventually ghosted and is now pretending to be "nice". 2. Then he can delete my number and stop saying hi. That's much better 3. Same as 2. He has other options so he can delete my number, stop talking to me and go to his other options 4. I don't want him nor did I want him. I always had an uneasy vibe from him but I mistook his cold persona as a shy introverted one thinking such guys are more mature and there's no harm in talking to him. Edited January 18, 2022 by carliciaaaa Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 18, 2022 Author Share Posted January 18, 2022 3 minutes ago, stillafool said: You should have never went over to him but let him come to you if he wanted to show interest. I think you're making way more of this than necessary and I guarantee you he isn't even thinking about it. It's called actually being cordial. That when I saw him trying to mumble something from afar, I excused myself to see what he was trying to say. I wasn't scheming in my head like him. And no, I can guarantee he is making some other plans to pull out the next time he sees me as that's he's done all along. I wasnt overhearing conversations or observing his friends. He is. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 2 minutes ago, carliciaaaa said: 1. I think it's me who will decide if I should speak to a person with ulterior motives who eventually ghosted and is now pretending to be "nice". 2. Then delete my number and stop saying hi. That's much better 3. Same as 2. He has other options so he can delete my number, stop talking to me and go to his other options 4. I don't want him nor did I want him. I always had an uneasy vibe from him but I mistook his cold persona as a shy introverted one Well you can't control what others do, only yourself. With that, I'm sure if you tell him to not speak to you again he'll comply. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 1 minute ago, carliciaaaa said: It's called actually being cordial. That when I saw him trying to mumble something from afar, I excused myself to see what he was trying to say. I wasn't scheming in my head like him. And no, I can guarantee he is making some other plans to pull out the next time he sees me as that's he's done all along. I wasnt overhearing conversations or observing his friends. He is. Whatever makes you feel better. I realize rejection hurts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 18, 2022 Author Share Posted January 18, 2022 3 minutes ago, stillafool said: Well you can't control what others do, only yourself. With that, I'm sure if you tell him to not speak to you again he'll comply. I'm not even sure what type he is. I'm actually scared because the way this guy is, who knows blocking and being rude can trigger something crazy in him considering he was already overhearing my conversations. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 18, 2022 Author Share Posted January 18, 2022 2 minutes ago, stillafool said: Whatever makes you feel better. I realize rejection hurts. He got rejected considering he wanted to get sex but since he couldn't keep up his act, he lost it. And now has to play"cordial". Though I like how you are defending him. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 8 minutes ago, carliciaaaa said: We didn't find we wanted different things. He never made it clear what he wanted. He was acting like he wanted a relationship based on how he asked me how long is my visa for etc, trying to give hugs until he mentioned the 1 week break to a secluded cottage, and looking at my bare legs, etc. He could have said he wanted a casual fwb arrangement but he didn't Asking about your visa isn't showing interest in a relationship - it's casual conversation. Probably half the guys on campus look at your bare legs and those legs of all the other young women. It's not like he was openly watching your cleavage. And this early in dating, I think that most people spend a bit of time getting to know each other before saying what they want. Do you have much experience dating? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 18, 2022 Author Share Posted January 18, 2022 2 minutes ago, basil67 said: Asking about your visa isn't showing interest in a relationship - it's casual conversation. Probably half the guys on campus look at your bare legs and those legs of all the other young women. It's not like he was openly watching your cleavage. And this early in dating, I think that most people spend a bit of time getting to know each other before saying what they want. Do you have much experience dating? That was his first question. The moment we sat down on the table, it was his first question on how long is your visa for. He told me he wanted to know for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 1 minute ago, carliciaaaa said: I'm actually scared because the way this guy is, who knows blocking and being rude can trigger something crazy in him considering he was already overhearing my conversations. I don't kinow if I'd call getting in touch with a guy multiple times to get together and him not even replying back as a trigger that now you need to be scared of him. He doesn't seem to care one way or the other. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 18, 2022 Author Share Posted January 18, 2022 2 minutes ago, stillafool said: I don't kinow if I'd call getting in touch with a guy multiple times to get together and him not even replying back as a trigger that now you need to be scared of him. He doesn't seem to care one way or the other. Clearly does considering I'm the one avoiding him and he's going out of the way to chat. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 3 minutes ago, carliciaaaa said: He got rejected considering he wanted to get sex but since he couldn't keep up his act, he lost it. And now has to play"cordial". Though I like how you are defending him. Yeah and I like how you are agreeing that he was being "cordial". Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 18, 2022 Author Share Posted January 18, 2022 (edited) 5 minutes ago, stillafool said: Yeah and I like how you are agreeing that he was being "cordial". No I didn't agree because people who ghost aren't cordial. [ ] Edited January 18, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator civility Link to post Share on other sites
Brian1223 Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 Wow. This has gotten a little ridiculous and way overboard. Time to let this go, redeem yourself and move on. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 7 hours ago, carliciaaaa said: who knows blocking and being rude can trigger something crazy in him You seem to be the one who is very triggered here. He doesn't appear to give a zoom anymore. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 19, 2022 Author Share Posted January 19, 2022 (edited) 34 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: You seem to be the one who is very triggered here. He doesn't appear to give a zoom anymore. He doesn't give a zoom yet he's the one trying to talk as just hqlf an hour ago, he's now texted me for the first time on his own, asking if I'm free this week. sure. Edited January 19, 2022 by carliciaaaa Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 19, 2022 Author Share Posted January 19, 2022 7 hours ago, Brian1223 said: Wow. This has gotten a little ridiculous and way overboard. Time to let this go, redeem yourself and move on. How should I let this go when he's now asking to meet for lunch? I think people should at least read the situation then reply rather than asking me to redemn and what not Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 11 hours ago, carliciaaaa said: 1. I think it's me who will decide if I should speak to a person with ulterior motives who eventually ghosted and is now pretending to be "nice". What ulterior motives does he have? Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 19, 2022 Author Share Posted January 19, 2022 30 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: What ulterior motives does he have? He just wanted bedroom action but made it seem like he was interested in dating Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 4 hours ago, carliciaaaa said: How should I let this go whenhe's now asking to meet for lunch? I think people should at least read the situation then reply rather than asking me to redemn and what not You didn't add this until now, so how can we possibly reply to that? You yourself said he's creepy, so I am assuming you turned down his invitation. Right? 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 19, 2022 Author Share Posted January 19, 2022 49 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: You didn't add this until now, so how can we possibly reply to that? You yourself said he's creepy, so I am assuming you turned down his invitation. Right? I didn't know he would. He winked at me yesterday and now this lunch thing. It's weird Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 31 minutes ago, carliciaaaa said: I didn't know he would. He winked at me yesterday and now this lunch thing. It's weird Well surely you're going to turn him down after everything you've said about him in this thread. You couldn't possibly want to be bothered with him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 2 hours ago, carliciaaaa said: I didn't know he would. He winked at me yesterday and now this lunch thing. It's weird That wasn't really the question. You have indicated multiple times in this thread that you think he is creepy and rude and after one thing. Are you now re-considering your position because he's asked you out? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carliciaaaa Posted January 19, 2022 Author Share Posted January 19, 2022 43 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: That wasn't really the question. You have indicated multiple times in this thread that you think he is creepy and rude and after one thing. Are you now re-considering your position because he's asked you out? I'm not re considering. I'm just saying that what's the point of this being friendly, winking and now this? Link to post Share on other sites
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