rantravee Posted January 6, 2022 Share Posted January 6, 2022 Hello, So in short here it's what has been happening. A couple of months ago I reconnected with a former ex girlfriend with which the love feelings never died on neither side. As I am working remote and she is currently living in a different city she invited me move in with her and I accepted. Prior to that we haven't seen each other in the the last 3 years. She made this relationship her top priority and we were adjusting to the ways of living together. By this I mean there were a couple of small issues on my side as she puts a lot of importance on image and how things are done in a house which I considered not that important. This sparked some tension between us and redundant conversations which were not always agreeable. Everything changed a couple of days ago when we were involved in a car accident in a different city which was caused due to my fault . I was was driving in she was in front in the passenger side. She suffered a minor head hit and has been experiencing headaches from that moment. The medical investigations revealed the cause to be an inflation of a brain membrane, but the prognostic is full recovery without consequences. She left the city and I stayed to deal with the aftermath of this accident. After I solved these I returned to her city. I found her in a very bad psychological state, experiencing posttraumatic stress and depression. There is a direct emotional connection for her between me and this accident as she's realizing that her life was in danger. Practically her knees were shaking due to my presence. Even that night she expressed the desire to put our relationship on hold as we both are overcoming this traumatic event and after some (indefinite) time sit down and talk about what we should do. I felt that my presence was not helping her recovery and so I accepted and moved out that same night. I feel burden with guilt and remorse and can only hope that she will be able to put this soon behind her (the same for myself). At the same time I realize that the chances of this relationship coming to an end are great and cannot blame her at all. What would be some good advices to make our relationship be able to contain this event resume its path and maybe grow from it. Thankyou Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 6, 2022 Share Posted January 6, 2022 31 minutes ago, rantravee said: The medical investigations revealed the cause to be an inflation of a brain membrane. I found her in a very bad psychological state, experiencing posttraumatic stress and depression. I felt that my presence was not helping her recovery and so I accepted and moved out that same night. Sorry this happened. Traumatic Brain Injury (google it) can have quite a few issues. Are her friends and family nearby? Good you moved out to give her space. Living together wasn't working anyway. Who's car was it? Will the insurance pay for everything including her medical bills? Was there a police report? All you can do its let her reach out if she needs anything. She may contact an attorney, if the insurance is insufficient and medical bills pile up, so keep that in mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rantravee Posted January 6, 2022 Author Share Posted January 6, 2022 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Are her friends and family nearby? Good you moved out to give her space. Living together wasn't working anyway. Yes, her family is with her , and that is a good thing. 11 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Who's car was it? Will the insurance pay for everything including her medical bills? Was there a police report? The car was mine. I think the insurance should cover everything. Since there were no persons injured reported at that moment everything was concluded but they temporary revoked my driving license. Thank you for your perspective Edited January 6, 2022 by rantravee 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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