hills Posted January 9, 2022 Share Posted January 9, 2022 Hi, Like most of you here, I was in a long distance relationship, which lasted more than a year. We met online through work and then decided to meet in person. In this COVID year we met in different countries around Europe, some time spending one week, two week, we spent also 2 months together. Needless to say how much we sacrificed traveling and all other aspects, just to be with each other. There was love but also some arguments, that we somehow I believe managed to resolve while together. She was really given to the relationship during this period, maybe even more than me. Last time we briefly met, we had a big argument over some stupid situation in a bar and we said crazy things. We were also partially drunk. After she left, we kept contact for a while and then the talking became colder, she asked to stop talking for a bit, which i had to agree with, but I was supposed to visit her country for work but also meet her. She agreed to meet and see what could happen. Instead Covid blocked everything again and i couldn't visit. She became even colder, until she told me we have to move on. There's no need to tell you how hard has it been until now. We sort of got in touch a bit, a few messages and a call, but her reaction is still distant. My thought since she told me to move on was that I at least need to have this face to face, maybe for myself, and also to show that there is a solution if we want. I'm thinking of visiting her, but i'm afraid to tell her that, as this distance that she has might say no, and somehow I will always regret not doing all i could, since we were supposed to meet. But i'm also afraid of showing up unnoticed as much as getting a no if i ask, and regretting it. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 9, 2022 Share Posted January 9, 2022 I think this relationship has run its course. I would try and look forward, not backward, if I was you. Good luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 9, 2022 Share Posted January 9, 2022 10 hours ago, hills said: she told me to move on was that I at least need to have this face to face, maybe for myself, Sorry this happened. Closure comes from ending it. Do not show up unannounced. She most likely moved on and is with someone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted January 9, 2022 Share Posted January 9, 2022 Agree with others , it doesn't even sound like it was all that much between you anyway but it also sounds like whatever it was has had it's time. And she's asked those things a few times now and in a serious way. Doesn't sound like there's any point at all in going to me with the way she is atm apart from your own closure satisfaction but you may not even be welcomed anyway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 29, 2022 Share Posted January 29, 2022 When you push, they will push back and shut you out even more. Respect her wishes to cease all communication. The ball is in her court to reconcile. Giving one space produces better results if it was meant to be. Link to post Share on other sites
LifeIsBeautiful410 Posted January 30, 2022 Share Posted January 30, 2022 I agree with others, cease communication, start going out, having fun, post fun stuff your doing on social media where she can see you are living your life. If she was meant to be she will come back, if not it was never meant to be. Link to post Share on other sites
AJ D Posted February 27, 2022 Share Posted February 27, 2022 I’m in a similar situation. I just posted on the forum too and i don’t want to give it up without having that closure. I’m someone who waited 10 years for closure from my last relationship before this one. I don’t want to end it without trying to fix us but she wants something that’s “normal”. I live in New Jersey and she lives in Scotland. Link to post Share on other sites
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