still needing some advice, please!

[lonely and hurt]

I have been with this guy for a year and a half. I love him but I'm not in love with him. When I first met him I really didn't want to get together with him for a relationship but he would not leave me alone no matter how many times I had told him to. He was always getting mad at me because I didn't want to be at his house or with him all the time, and I was always going out with my friends when my daughter was gone. After about 8 months ago he eventually started doing it to me. At this point I had already realized that I loved him. He told me never again would he not have any friends. He always used to want to be with me. Now it's when it is convenient for him. We argue all the time, we have both been with one other person, and we hardly agree on anything. I keep asking him why he is holding on to me when he doesn't even accept my lifestyle. I hold on to him for what he used to be. I feel really guilty when I think about moving on or when I think of how I used to abuse him. He is a really wonderful guy, but he says that I created what he is. When I met him he didn't drink at all. Now he drinks every chance he gets. He is 17 years older than I am. I know that has a lot to do with it. I have still tried breaking up with him, but he won't leave. I told him he was spending to much time with his friends about 2 months ago and now he wants to be with me all the time again. The problem is I am feeling suffocated all over again. I'm almost scared to leave him because I don't want to hurt anymore at the same time I know it is the best thing for us.

[BIG LOU]

Well, I've been on almost a similar situation. But, I was the guy trying to convince the girl to go out with me. Now I can only give you advice as far as my experiences. If I was you, I would tell him how you feel. Listen, it will sucks and it will hurt, but you got to tell him that you're not happy with the way things are going. And if you're ready to move on then do so. And as far as him blaming you for his drinking, don't buy that! You did not give him nothing. He's probably suffering from low self-esteem. Remember, I speak from my experiences. I hope this helped you out a little.

[Laurynn]

I have been with this guy for a year and a half. I love him but I'm not in love with him. When I first met him I really didn't want to get together with him for a relationship but he would not leave me alone no matter how many times I had told him to. He was always getting mad at me because I didn't want to be at his house or with him all the time, and I was always going out with my friends when my daughter was gone. After about 8 months ago he eventually started doing it to me. At this point I had already realized that I loved him. He told me never again would he not have any friends. He always used to want to be with me. Now it's when it is convenient for him. We argue all the time, we have both been with one other person, and we hardly agree on anything. I keep asking him why he is holding on to me when he doesn't even accept my lifestyle. I hold on to him for what he used to be. I feel really guilty when I think about moving on or when I think of how I used to abuse him. He is a really wonderful guy, but he says that I created what he is. When I met him he didn't drink at all. Now he drinks every chance he gets. He is 17 years older than I am. I know that has a lot to do with it. I have still tried breaking up with him, but he won't leave. I told him he was spending to much time with his friends about 2 months ago and now he wants to be with me all the time again. The problem is I am feeling suffocated all over again. I'm almost scared to leave him because I don't want to hurt anymore at the same time I know it is the best thing for us.