HazelBliss Posted January 12, 2022 Share Posted January 12, 2022 (edited) I'm an RN who works the graveyard shift and have trouble sleeping at times. About a month ago, I got off work at 8am and received a call from my postpartum friend who asked me to meet her at the hospital. I thought to myself where is your husband? Only because I haven't slept in a day and a half and just got off work. When she gave me the guilt trip, I agreed to meet her at the hospital. I told her I had to take a shower first and she huffed and puffed about that. So I thought, you want me to handle your newborn in my dirty work clothes? She failed to tell me that I could not leave the hospital until her IV med was done which was 12 hours long. I was stuck at the hospital overnight helping with the baby until she was discharged. The rule was that I could not leave or switch with anyone else. My friend was super demanding and critical of me holding her baby and nagged throughout the night. I completely understand the fears postpartum mothers have and the possibility of developing preeclampsia days after giving birth.. BUT.. the hypertension she claimed to have was NOT significant or stroke status and the staff kept telling her that. So the headache wasn't blood pressure related at all but of course it had to be addressed. She complained the entire time at me and her husband whom she didn't want to leave the baby with. I told her that the nagging was a bit much, that I was running on E, and doing the best I can. When everything was done, I took her and baby home and have not received a phone call from her since, nor has she returned my calls. Ive tried to check on her and the baby multiple times. She's been active on IG, posting baby pictures and paragraph captions. I have never met someone as selfish as her. Ive known her since kindergarten. There are times when we dont speak and there's an understanding that we both have things going on. A whole month though? No one is THAT busy I'm sorry. Its clear she is giving me the silent treatment maybe because I told her she was nagging too much. IDK. It was okay for me to drop what I was doing to assist her for 12 hours though. Edited January 12, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 12, 2022 Share Posted January 12, 2022 Some people are utterly consumed with themselves. She is healthy and the baby is healthy so I'd leave it alone. If she wants to know how you are, you can think about responding or crossing that bridge when it comes. She may have used you as a friend knowing you work in healthcare. I'd forget this and consider her more of an acquaintance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HazelBliss Posted January 12, 2022 Author Share Posted January 12, 2022 5 minutes ago, glows said: Some people are utterly consumed with themselves. She is healthy and the baby is healthy so I'd leave it alone. If she wants to know how you are, you can think about responding or crossing that bridge when it comes. She may have used you as a friend knowing you work in healthcare. I'd forget this and consider her more of an acquaintance. True, what's worse is that she chose me to be the baby's Godmother. I honestly don't even want that role at this point. She is too exhausting. I just moved to GA and contracted covid a week after helping her which developed into covid pneumonia, coughing up bloody sputum AND I still found time to check on her and the baby. So she can continue to ignore me because I refuse to kiss anyone's ass. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 12, 2022 Share Posted January 12, 2022 4 minutes ago, HazelBliss said: True, what's worse is that she chose me to be the baby's Godmother. I honestly don't even want that role at this point. She is too exhausting. I just moved to GA and contracted covid a week after helping her which developed into covid pneumonia, coughing up bloody sputum AND I still found time to check on her and the baby. So she can continue to ignore me because I refuse to kiss anyone's ass. Can you decline being the Godmother? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HazelBliss Posted January 12, 2022 Author Share Posted January 12, 2022 (edited) God parents are not legally bound so I am assuming you can and I just might. I am still giving the whole situation a little time.. and thats it. Edited January 12, 2022 by HazelBliss Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 12, 2022 Share Posted January 12, 2022 41 minutes ago, HazelBliss said: God parents are not legally bound so I am assuming you can and I just might. I am still giving the whole situation a little time.. and thats it. Yes, I think that's for the best. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 12, 2022 Share Posted January 12, 2022 OMG, can you imagine what she will expect if you become the baby's Godmother? Forget about it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HazelBliss Posted January 13, 2022 Author Share Posted January 13, 2022 1 hour ago, stillafool said: OMG, can you imagine what she will expect if you become the baby's Godmother? Forget about it. YEP.. not excited about it at all. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted January 13, 2022 Share Posted January 13, 2022 Absolutely, be done with this friendship if it's draining, exhausting and if it doesn't bring you happiness. I would be done with her in a heartbeat. She sounds incredibly selfish and inconsiderate. You need to do what's right for YOU. You don't owe her anything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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