I fell for my husband seduction, so I shouldn't blame him right?

[2015stayathomeWife]

Hi there, I need reassurance/validation on this please. I don't know if this is me fell for my husband seduction, or he was somewhat forceful.

Sorry for English is my third language.

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TMI below

Something happened a while back, and till this day I still wasn't sure. I know it consensual sex, but then part of me not sure if it because I was so hesitant due to my missed pill therefore I didn't give the first minute initial consent.

I need some reassurance/validate my feelings on this please.

Husband initiated sex, and I did specificly told him that it was not a good time due to my missed pill that month and I didn't want to get pregnant (in all fairness, I did not use the word No).

[ ]  He started to seduce me with kisses

BUT

what I did was called his name, then I called his name again, my heart was racing for him but deep down I was hesitant I might get pregnant due to my missed pill.

[ ]  He kept seducing me with kisses and then I had consensual sex with him

In fall fairness, I did enjoy, really enjoy the sex with him. (sex with him it always been out of this world)

In all fairness, he always the dominant one in sex and I'm the submissive one [ ]  it nothing new. At first I was scare of might get pregnant, so I tried to fight it off. But then he continued on and it feels really good so I had consensual sex with him.

[ ] I engage I even help him to unbutton his shirt.  This alone say it wasn't force right? I mean how can it be force if I help unbutton his dress shirt? I guess I wanted sex with him too.

Validate my feeling on this please, he is my husband, I’m just confuse with my feelings on this. And he did this for a WHOLE MONTH of my missed pill, not just a one time thing, so he clearly know what he was doing. I did ask my husband why he did what he did, and he said it because he loves me very much and he crazy about me.

eta: So basically my husband seduce me, I fell for it. I should woman up and take responsibility instead of shift the blame to him right? I need validation on this as I did get advice from other ladies that tell me that it was coercion and force and violate my body. 

Edited January 17, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
removed descriptions of seduction

[glows]

I really don’t know what you’re getting at. Why do you feel the need to prove it is coercion or force? Has he been disrespectful and abusive in the marriage? Are you looking for reasons to leave? Do you want a divorce? 

If all the answers are yes yes yes and yes then please see a lawyer to discuss your options. The biggest gift you can give yourself is leaving an abusive relationship. 

[stillafool]

Yes it sounds like your husband is not at fault because the sex was consenual.  If you don't want to have sex with your husband tell him this before you get in bed and before you let him touch you.  If you don't open your mouth and say no he will never know what you're thinking.  Why didn't you take your pill?

[Els]

Uh.... you guys do realize that you can have sex with a condom and not get pregnant... right....?

 

[S2B]

Why would you use those words to put your husband in a bad light?

if you don’t want to have sex with him then don’t. If you do then have sex. It’s your body - you make decisions.

if you don’t prefer to be pregnant then be diligent about YOUR birth control.

you are responsible for your body.