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I currently date 2 girls, they don't know about each other but I treat them really well and pamper them with expensive gifts and romantic night outs and free car rides.

 

But I wanna know, how can I go about juggling 2 girls without one finding about the other. Because every time I am on whatsapp messaging the 2 of them one of them, always asks why I am always online and if I talk with other girls. And I always say I am talking to a family member

 

Or if we go on a date and they grab my phone I always end up panicking and snatching it out their hand which makes them suspicious and they end up questioning me like CRAZY!!!

 

So I wanna know how I can go about keeping one secret from the other without them ever finding out?

 

Thank you.

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Looking at your recent history, you consider at least one of these woman a girlfriend and you're sexually active with her.   So basically, you want to know how to cheat?

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You stop being an idiot and a jerk.  You either choose one, or tell them both that you're not exclusive and will date others until you - and they - can decide to be exclusive.  I think you're going to lose both and develop a bad reputation as a liar and player.

You may be surprised if you tell them the truth.  I've dated more than two women, with all in the know, for long periods of time.  Being informed lets them choose and be empowered in the relationship.  They even met each other.  It even led to some threesomes!  Of course, they may decide that they don't want to continue in your scenario, but you can be sure that eventually they will find out and dump your sorry ass the way you're treating them now!

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16 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Looking at your recent history, you consider at least one of these woman a girlfriend and you're sexually active with her.   So basically, you want to know how to cheat?

Kinda I guess you could call it cheating. I'd say I am just exploring my options.

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20 minutes ago, rudiger said:

Kinda I guess you could call it cheating. I'd say I am just exploring my options.

If your girlfriend would call it cheating, then it's cheating

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15 minutes ago, basil67 said:

If your girlfriend would call it cheating, then it's cheating

Okay its cheating. But I don't see whats wrong in what I am doing, my gf has anger issues and a brat but I spoil her like an actual princess. So what if I want to be with another girl who is the complete opposite and yet also gets pampered and is happy?

 

Ignorance is bliss

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If your girlfriend is a brat and had anger issues, then dump her.   You can then see the new woman with a clear conscience.   

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I suppose on the one hand, I could say you are young, you are right to enjoy yourself and play the field,

but then on the other hand, this can be quite a sensitive topic for women and both of them will be hurt and disappointed if they learn that you have another girl on the go,

your probably at the stage now, you know both of them well enough, man up and make a decision which one you want to date and let the other girl down and free her up to find a guy who genuinely wants her,

 

 

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I actually was dating 3 different girls at one time before I met my first wife, but it was only for a month or so.  Your going to have to pick one and tell the other one you met someone else. Juggling two women in the long run it going to bite you, and you could lose both of them. 

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7 hours ago, rudiger said:

Okay its cheating. But I don't see whats wrong in what I am doing, my gf has anger issues and a brat but I spoil her like an actual princess. So what if I want to be with another girl who is the complete opposite and yet also gets pampered and is happy?

 

Ignorance is bliss

…Until no one is ignorant anymore. 

You could carry on the charades. It seems you have been doing well without any help.

If you like dating more than one person or are non-monogamous then seek partners who are similar. You alone will have to carry the weight of deceit or lying/cheating if the parties aren’t aware or it’s non-consensual.

Pick the life you want to live. 

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8 hours ago, rudiger said:

Okay its cheating. But I don't see whats wrong in what I am doing, my gf has anger issues and a brat but I spoil her like an actual princess. So what if I want to be with another girl who is the complete opposite and yet also gets pampered and is happy?

 

Ignorance is bliss

You know what's wrong with your actions: you have to be deceitful.

Look, since you already know you want to have multiple partners, why don't you date women who want the same? That way, no one has to lie to anybody.

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12 hours ago, rudiger said:

. I'd say I am just exploring my options.

Why lie? You're not exclusive and they're sleeping with other guys too.

Don't kid yourself or waste too much time and money on girls who are keeping their options open with other guys.

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15 hours ago, rudiger said:

So I wanna know how I can go about keeping one secret from the other without them ever finding out?

Since you want to date multiple women at the same time let me ask you something - why do you even need a gf?  Why can''t you just stay single, date who you want and let girls know you multi date?

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11 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Why lie? You're not exclusive and they're sleeping with other guys too

 

What makes you say that the woman he refers to as 'girlfriend' is sleeping with other guys?   Did I miss something?

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